Why do single men without children go on dates with single mothers, then tell her after the date that they don't want to date someone with kids?
I’ll answer this from the other side. I’m a man with children. I have three. I have an unusual parenting schedule. Any woman I have dated knows immediately that my children come first. Now, after a little time I’ve made a concession here and there. The first few years I never missed a weekend. Never. Now, after 7 years I might miss a few per year and fight for make up time. Also, their mom will take them on trips where I’ll miss a weekend. I do not want the kids to miss out on a ski trip or other fun excursion so I don’t put up too much of a fight. I’ll plan “us time” around their schedule. “My Kids will be away X days. Let’s get away and do something.”Women with kids understand. Women without kids or empty nesters understand…at first. Eventually, it wears thin. I get that. My relationships with women without kids never worked out and it was always about the kids, my time and what I put myself through to get time with them. I enjoyed those relationships as each one enriched me in some way, but I have no regrets.To answer your question, I had one woman with whom I had a great relationship who did not have Kids say to me, “I think to myself, he is good and kind. He has amazing emotional intelligence. He treats me great. We have such a great connection. Why should I hold it against him that he has kids?” Ultimately, she was trying to sell herself on me and clearly put my kids in the negative column. It was not the only thing that broke us up. I have to take responsibility beyond the kids, but in the long run, she would never be able to relate. She had never dated someone with children before me. We had a great connection and she thought she could get past it, but she couldn’t.My current (and possibly last) girlfriend has 3 kids, each a couple of years older than mine. She is very understanding of my situation and aware that I give our relationship all the attention I can. I’m lucky we found each other. I should tell her more often.
Would you date a single mother?
I have had relations with a beautiful girl a year older than me. We just spoke today for the first time in about a year. We were doing well and at the time she had one kid. She is a wonderful mother and her kid is a sweetheart. She is everything that I wanted. We cooked some kick ass dinner and played with her kid until he went to sleep. Once he would go to sleep we would watch movies and go to sleep. With as much as I work, I couldn't picture a better Saturday night.Things kept going well until the father of her child wanted a second chance. She came over one afternoon and cried her eyes out telling me that she was sorry but it's the best for her kid. I was upset but I fully understood and encouraged her to do what is best for her child. We stopped talking until she called me about 2 months after she got back with the father of her child. She called to tell me she was pregnant. Normally I am all for sex. I'm a man, that's all we care about right? I told her that I wouldn't have sex with her until I knew we were exclusive and her child wasn't around. Because of this we never had sex so I knew the child wasn't mine. She was pregnant with the boyfriend she has just got back with. Now she has 2 kids and wants to pick up where we left off.I'm not sure the exact reasoning behind it, but I do not have desire to continue pursuing anything with her. Nothing past friendship level. I honestly don't know if it is because she has two kids now or if it is because I'm worried she will just cut me off again.I would date a female with 1 child that wasn't planned. Any more than that would be iffy, but I am a 20 year old trying to figure life out. I need to worry about my own life before I worry about a woman with 2 kids.
Why are there so many old Western men dating young Filipina women in the Philippines?
They're a form of sexual predator, although not the worst type by far.Here's the typical story: a man in his late 40s onward (I've seen as old as 80s) comes to the Philippines (or Thailand, or Cambodia, or...). He is divorced, or plans to be. He thinks that women in his home country are terrible harpies, unfit for dating or marriage. He has been hurt by these women of his own culture many times, and has decided to break free and make his own way, with women who truly respect men. These women just happen to be 1/4 (or 1/6, or 1/8...) his own age and in desperate straits.The reality is that these men are usually the bottom of the barrel: untalented, unintelligent and undesirable. But not in their own opinion - they are deep, deep into Dunning-Kruger territory. It all boils down to self-interest, and performing whatever mental gymnastics are necessary to convince themselves that it's OK for an old man to have sex with girls in their late teens.Why are there so many? The fundamentals are simple. There is a massive income disparity between Western countries and the Philippines: a poor man in the US or UK is quite rich in the Philippines. There is free flow of information: it's easy to find out you can go take advantage of poor girls across the globe. They're allowed to do it by locals. And, there is no shortage of assholes in the world.As to why they're not the worst type of sexual predator out there, the simple answer is that many at least abide by legal age requirements (18+) and, happily, the women they choose are often smart enough to drain away enough money to improve their own lives. The smartest get their education and material needs (car, house) then move on to dating younger men.Here are a couple of fun phrases all Filipinos know:Matandang mayamang madaling mamatay (MMMM) - rich old man, ready to dieDOM - Dirty Old ManIn short, Filipinos are aware that these old men aren't particularly great, but they make no efforts to chase them away either, knowing that the DOMs are adding money to a rather poor economy.
Why are there so many single moms in Philippines?
Yes, there are many single moms in philippines because:Most Filipino men and women can't love and stay with one person forever. Their feelings change after few months or years.2. They lack sex education. So they have sex starting from age of 11 years. They are already single moms in their teenage life while they are just a high school student.3. Even though Prostitution is illegal in Philippines, there are still lots of Prostitutes there. Many of the foreigners especially American and Australians come to Philippines as sex tourist. That's why many filipino kids are half filipino half Foreigner.4. Some filipinas were raped which is why they are single moms. There's incest also taking place like having forceful sex with family member.5. Some filipinas are having sex with their friends just for fun or pleasure. You will find lots of perverts there.6. Some filipino men are irresponsible. So they leave her girlfriend after becoming father.7. Some filipinas are widows which is also the reason for being single mom.8. Many filipinas leave their poor filipino boyfriend and start finding rich Foreigner just because of richness to get money to take care of their entire family. Many are cheaters and fraud too that even when they have filipino boyfriend, they still look for Foreigner to get his money or/and for fun.9. Many filipino men and women are cheaters. So when their cheating is caught, their partner leaves.Usually filipinas don't admit their mistakes. They always blame filipino men or their ex for the reason of being single mom. This is to show Foreigners that they're innocent and best life partner. Don't get fooled by them by trusting on this sweet things that they say about themselves. It's just to attract Foreigners. A few of them maybe true to what they say but the majority of them lie. They expect their boyfriend to keep the promises while she herself is not serious enough to keep it. They quickly ask for breakup if their Bf makes mistakes but she expects herself to be forgiven for even bigger mistake than he did. They are good at making dramas, so don't trust it especially if they ask for money.