What causes someone to be attention-seeking?
The girl who has everything will seek attention if there may be a little hole in her soul. She really needs to spend some time patching it with your support. Attention seeking" is a term that can be misused in order to discredit people who are sincerely trying to reconcile themselves with past traumas - and their consequential maladaptive behaviors through others (which is necessary and beneficial when the trauma affects the personality), thus giving the impression of simply "seeking attention" - this is usually a consequence of extreme abuse and neglect which impair the sufferers capacity for healthy interpersonal transactions. A person who does not get attention by significant others during childhood grows up feeling neglected. As an adult he tries to compensate for this feeling by attention seeking activities. Jealously and lack of self worth can also trigger attention seeking behaviour. The attention people get in such cases will provide them with reassurance that will help them to think they are worthy. Over confident people like to be a center of attention because of immature childlike thinking and for narcissists attention seeking is a source of narcissistic supply.It is important to understand why a person is seeking attention. The more you understand her the more you can help. If you really care then you will have to understand derives behind her behaviour. Talk to her about it.
How can I stop craving male attention?
I will assume you are a female, sorry if I am incorrect. I’m a 70 yr old male so keep that in mind.IMO, most of that craving (which is the mirror of males seeking female attention) is the most dominant carry over from our animal nature which has successfully evolved over eons of time.So it is 100% normal and associated with the dominance hierarchy in both males and females critical to the mating process.Men strive to rise in their hierarchy as do women in theirs and both genders then compare and contrast others in their gender but more so, in the opposite gender in these “early stages of the mating dance”.You “craving” attention is your view of the “desire to sort the males” by measuring their responses to you. The ones that least notice you, are tempting you to raise them higher in ranking since the ones that quickly notice you are secretly seen as “weaker males” (but their physical and attitudinal attributes also affect that in your eyes).Women have much more skill (and more tools) in this “female choosing the male” process than do males. It was made to be that way…since the males are “on display” for females to choose (even if it appears otherwise).As a result, males feel the stress/pressure in this process much more than do females. Males can even feel “stress” in deliberately avoiding contacting you even though they do see you….again, they know you choose, not really them choosing. And they don’t want to send a poor message out so they play “avoidance”.So you are asking about an enormous “gorrilla in the room” issue regarding this early stage in the evolutionary mating ritual. Plus if you came from a background without many available or interesting appearing males, the newness might be an artificially high attractant.How can you stop craving that attention? I think the three methods are (or a mix of these):understanding what the root cause is so that you are less frustrated by it. Understanding takes the mystery/magic/fear out of it and can therefore reduce its control.will power in turning away from it (or putting a switch on it so you can choose when to turn it on and off, or at least make it more neutral)deliberate distraction (staying busy with other highly motivating activities and processes).That’s my opinions on this interesting (and quite universal) issue.
Can depression manifest as attention seeking?
Depression is a mood disorder in which typically most activity - physical or cognitive - is inhibited. From how I understand it, attention seeking behavior requires a lot of energy and effort which is not something someone with depression (specially major or melancholic depression) would have in the first place.Attention seeking behavior is usually impulsive and a result of emotional over arousal. People with depression are typically emotionally under aroused.Lastly, attention seeking behavior is seen very commonly in other forms of psychological disorders such as Borderline Personality Disorder and although depression and BPD can be co-morbid, i think attention seeking is more closely associated with BPD.
Why do I crave male attention?
Love has two aspects: loving and being loved. These are different, often occurring in isolation from each other. The tactile sensations and emotions produced by both are very similar.Unrequited love is loving without being loved. This is one of the most painful experiences in human life, and something all of us endure at one point or another. Unrequited love does not depend on being known by the person loved, the emotion sustains itself, pricking the person with its pain to encourage pursuit of the object.The healthiest manifestation of this is asking someone out. The unhealthiest is stalking and murdering someone.Requited love is loving while being loved. Everyone likes this, though it is notoriously difficult to sustain. The trick is that in this situation, you have two people actively loving.When two people are loving, if one partner falls out of love, the other falls into the state of unrequited love listed above. The pain of that state compels the unrequited lover to seek out his former lover, and ideally, compel him or her to return to the state of mutual loving by dint of affectionate attention.Being loved without loving is a third state, but I don’t think we have a word for it. If you accept the attention given in this state, the result feels like, but is not love.The healthiest manifestation of this is public renown. Fans and followers love their celebrities and leaders, but those celebrities and leaders cannot give them individual attention, and should feel no need to tend to every person. The unhealthiest manifestation of this is stringing along people who care about you, and breaking their hearts through your ultimate failure to reciprocate.You’re feeling and doing that last. You crave the attention because it feels good, but you feel uncomfortable because you don’t love these men. The trouble is that you’re fixating upon being loved, when you should be focusing on loving someone else.Go find someone to love, instead of accepting the affection of whoever pays attention to you. Doing this backwards is poisonous.
Why is my friend pretending to have an eating disorder?
Attention seeking, which is a terrible thing to do. Tell her she is exploiting a mental illness that millions suffer from and thousands die from, a illness that can take over peoples lives completely. Anorexia is not simply 'being thin', it is the ultimate battle with oneself for perfection. You should tell her what anorexia really is, and that you know she is lying. An anorexic would not announce it to the world, much less be seen eating or being so comfortable with people knowing they wanted to lose weight. Maybe your friend wants to lose weight or is naturally thin and feels the need to make people talk about her. Whatever her reason is, she needs to stop. People will figure it out sooner or later, and she will look like a bad person when they do!
I'm in a committed relationship, should I be texting other men? My bf gets upset when he sees it?
Hello, My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 4 months. We are very happy. But, a few problems occur. One of them is my boyfriends insecurity/jealousy. I don't know if I am truly in the wrong here or that he is too jealous. I have guy friends, and he thinks they all want to be more with him. I told him that I truly believe that not all guys that talk to me or try to be my friend are trying to get into my pants. And he was shocked and said he couldn't believe how naive I was being. He asks why I feel the need to talk to other guys about anything if it doesn't pertain to an assignment or work. He said he is afraid to lose me, that I will leave him for another guy someday. He asked me if I would like it if he texted girls or let them text him and I said I wouldn't like it. The thing is, I do not want anything with other guys. I don't like other men and I don't see myself with them. I love and want only my boyfriend. It's same logic where he said he sometimes think other women are lovely physically but it doesn't mean he wants to be with them or see them he has no interest in any other woman but me. I love him and I don't want to see him hurt? Most of all he doesn't want to see me get taken advantage of by other men. Am I in the wrong? Should I be texting back other guys? Does he have a point and a reason to be upset and a little jealous? I am in a committed relationship. Give me advice. How do I be more considerate of his feelings?
What is the best way to deal with the "drama queen" personality?
Hey, you:-D It's a lot like dealing with a kid throwing a temper tantrum really, since drama queen behaviour is not unlike a temper tantrum for "adults". If the kid in question is not yours, then of course you have the option of ignoring the behaviour or otherwise removing yourself from it. I will warn that the ignoring tends to temporarily further enrage the drama queen in question for a short time, since by ignoring the behaviour in question you are in effect depriving the drama queen of the desired outcome - attention. By ignoring the tantrum thrower's behaviour, and refusing to lower yourself to their maturity level by joining in on the drama, you're actually helping to correct the individual's behaviour, since the message which is being sent to the drama queen is that (s)he will not any longer be able to behave in the manner to which (s)he is accustomed and expect to earn your attention. This makes the tantrum throwing behaviour counter productive for the drama queen, thereby forcing them to learn to adopt new behaviours at least in their interactions with you, or else they will not receive the attention which they desire. "Drama queen" type personalities tend to thrive only when they can suck somebody else into their drama, so keeping yourself detached and aloof from the situation and the individual is a good call. They may accuse you of being "superior" or a "snob" but really, they say you're only as good as the company you keep, and I do believe that there's truth to that, so who really wants to be associated with someone who exhibits that kind of behavour to begin with. If you can't go out with someone without being worried that they're going to cause a scene, why bother? You can admonish the drama queen as well. Again, they will fuss about this, but what else is new, right? lol Anyhow, if the tantrum goes public, then IMO there's nothing whatsoever wrong with pointing out to the drama queen that his/her behaviour is unacceptable and childish publicly. I have no tolerance whatsoever for this kind of behaviour, either in children or adults.
Why are some people desperate to be in a relationship?
Relationships can be great and everything, but why are some people desperate to be in one? I'm in high school and I see girls crying in the hallways because their boyfriend broke up with them for the second, third or even fourth time or crying over relationship drama (and I know every relationship has its highs and lows, but it seems to me to be drama x 10).