What are the reasons why men in their 30′s, 40′s, 50’s,and 60′s like older women?
Very simple reason - relationship with them are often more enjoyable. For the same reasons why women prefer more mature men- because older men and women have better social skills, more life experience, better understanding about intimacy, there is also a bigger chance that they have learned empathy towards other people, and so on.And also quite important reason- there is a great chance that sexual relationship with older women will be much more enjoyable. In my opinion, women reach their sexual maturity later than men, and only after reaching their 30 years of age many women more or less get on the same page with men of their age. At that age they finally start to learn to appreciate man as a sexual human being and start seeing themselves more as an equal partner in a partnership, where both give, take, benefit and contribute.My view definitely will not be very popular among a lot of people, but I do believe, that females mature much slower than men, both socially and sexually. Not so much because of any biological reasons, but purely because of the traditional gender roles and social norms.In her young age many women, especially some of those blessed with better looks, often take attention from opposite gender for granted and see men as disposable, they have no slightest interest or even understanding about the need to invest any time or energy in maintaining the relationship, because men at that time apply very low standards for women they date (that is what they have been taught in many countries - if she is pretty, she is already good for you).And even more so sexual relationship - yes, many women are (quite rightfully) complaining about men, how inattentive they are to woman’s needs in intimacy. However, if one asks them, how much do they know, and how much they take into account, and mutually respect men’s psychological differences in intimacy, how much do they know about men’s physiology, body and wishes, it can be easily seen that a lot of women see it only as a one way street and do not care very much.However, of course, as woman starts approaching 30 years of age, usually she already have experienced first refusal in romantic relationship, first realization that her former immature attitude towards intimacy with men actually may cause her partner to lose interest in her, and so on.
Should women have their first baby before 30? Has the age been pushed back with advanced technology?
Women are most fertile when they are young; this is a fact.I'm a mother of two, and would have liked more; but even at 31, infertility was an issue.Many of us spend our lives planning: planning where to go to college, planning what kind of graduate degree we'll pursue, planning our careers, planning when we'll start a family. Pregnancy should fit into your life when you're ready in your late 30's, or so I thought. I was planning to become a Master/Mistress of the Universe and had been pregnant at 20 (and terminated the pregnancy) before, so I did not think fertility would be an issue once I stopped using birth control. Fortunately my female mentor, a very powerful EVP at a Fortune 100 company, told me that her only regret was not having children. She told me that if I wanted a family I should start sooner rather than later. At 30, I started trying to get pregnant. After a year of not conceiving, I consulted with my OB/GYN; she put me on Clomid, which made me moody, sick, and tired. After a few months I stopped taking it and decided if I did not get pregnant in the next year, I would re-visit with her to discuss the next steps. Fast forward to age 33, three years after initially pulling the goalie; I was finally pregnant without aide. But one year without getting pregnant is considered "infertile" in the medical community. Wanting to have additional children after my first child took almost-heroic measures (seeing a fertility specialist, etc.). Finally, almost four years later, I had my second child. I was "only" 37. I have been off birth control since the age of 30; I have had one miscarriage since my last child (at age 39), and have never been pregnant since. My OB/GYN said my last pregnancy was likely an abnormal fetus that had miscarried. If I never had the "children" discussion with my old mentor, I might have waited until I was too old to have children. I might not ever had the ability to become pregnant, and that discussion happened when I was 28.
When a man over 30 doesn't get married, what are the likely reasons?
It is more common to cohabitate nowIt is quite young for a man to get married at 30He might have children by more than one womanIt might be a tax advantage not to get marriedHe is unemployedHe still lives with his parents (becoming more common as house prices rise)He is gayHe is asexualHe is disabled and can’t get a partnerHe finds it easy to make out with women so doesn’t settle downHe is ambitious and wants to achieve his goals before settling downHe is deeply in debtHe is an addict of some kindHe is rich and can satisfy all his needs without getting marriedHe is in jailHe is a priest of some kind that has to be celibateHe travels a lot and marriage would be inconvenientHe has been advised by his father to never get marriedHe has been rejected by the person he wantsHe is mentally unstableHe carries a gene that he does not want to pass onHe is restricted by legal conditions of getting marriedHe has duties, obligations, or commitments that prevent him marryingHe is still studying at 30 and must complete thisHe does dangerous work and thinks it would be unfair to get marriedHe has volunteered to go to Mars, and is in training till he does soHe is of Royal blood, and must wait for a suitable partnerHe is on the run from the policeHe suffers from GamophobiaHe knows that there is a 60% chance of getting divorcedHe knows that a robot is going to take his job soonCurrently men’s sperm count is going down globallyYoung men committing suicide is at its highest level everMarriage is going out of fashion Divorce is at its highest level ever, Most divorces are initiated by women, The empowerment of women has made them more demanding, The higher cost of housing, The higher cost of education and longer times to pay off loansInsecurity about the future generallySocial networks giving the false impression that one has a large choice of partnersand even the impact of pornography on young menStudies indicate that young people are lonelier now than in the pastThe combined effect make it increasingly difficult for men to make commitments for settling downIn the past, it was common for teenagers to get married, and to assume that the world would be very much the same for the rest of their livesNow, the world changes daily, and young people have no vision of the future It is a world in transition, and marriage is one of the casualties of change
Why do some single men regard single women in their late 30s and 40s as "damaged goods"?
I don't know if I would call them damaged goods, so to speak. Here's what I will tell you about the women I met in their 30’s, that I would deem as negative. Most have been around the block, when it comes to guys. In other words, nothing you have will impress her. Your cute, she's been with a guy that looked like prime Brad Pitt. You got a big dick, she's been with a guy that was as big as Mandingo. You have a good job, she dated a millionaire before etc…. If she's still good looking deep in her 30’s and was never married, I suggest you keep moving. Nothing you have will ever win her over, even if you do happen to get her. She's tasted better, and all she's doing is settling and having fantasies of the guys she use to get in her physical prime behind your back. She's not stupid, she knows she ain't getting any better looking. So she chose you.Now, if she was divorced after a long marriage. This is not the case of damaged goods at all. I would suggest these women over the 40 year old women who are still single. They are either going to be extremely picky and high maintenance or they have hooked up with alot of men over the years. Which is what I'm guessing you mean by damaged goods.
I slept with a woman 30 years younger than me. She's even younger than my daughter. Is this immoral?
I feel like I can have some pretty good input seeing as how my husband is 23 years older than me. But first let me give you some backgroundWhen I first met my hubby I was a hairdresser and he used to come in and have me cut his hair. I actually thought he was younger than he was, I was shocked when he told me he was 42. I was 19 at the time and thought, “well that's that, he's too old for me.”After a few more haircuts and him being stuck in my head no matter what I did I decided “fuck it I'll give him my number and see what happens.”We ended up just clicking and being inseparable after one time of hanging out at his house, yes we did have sex for those of you wondering and it was spectacular!neither one of us wanted a relationship. We both had our hearts broken and at one point or another and said our relationship was just a casual one. It broke my heart but I understood his reasons. Age wise I'm right in between his kids so you can imagine the anxiety that created for him.After seeing each other for a while we realised just how compatible we actually are and how well we balanced each other out. he told his kids and family about me and lucky me THEY WERE MORE THAN ACCEPTING. THEY JUST WANTED HIM TO BE HAPPY.Then came time to tell my mother, that didn't go over so smooth. In fact I ended up breaking things off for a couple of weeks because of my mother's reaction ( she loves my hubby now though) I was so broken, I immediately knew I made the wrong decision and ended up telling him that I missed him and just wanted to be happy so we got back together and it's been one great adventure and learning experience.So my answer to your question : NO IT IS NOT WRONG. IF YOU GENUINELY ENJOY EACH OTHER'S COMPANY KEEP ON KEEPING ON! You never know what you could be passing up!
What is wrong with men in their 30's?
I am a 30 year old female. I am trying online dating due to my work schedule. I dated a guy for four years and haven't been on a relationship for a little over two years. I was hoping the men 30 and over would be mature and wanting a serious relationship, however I have found the complete opposite. They have been looking for kinky sex, they are not interested in dating, they are hot messes. I feel like I'm back in college again dating but worse. Where are the normal 30 year plus old men at? I'm confused. Do any of you other ladies experience this at our age?
Why do women get desperate after Age 30?
THEY HAVEN'T MATURED AT ALL. They simply don't have none of so called "hot guys" checking for them anymore. So now they're desperate and willing to take the geeky and nerdy type dudes. That in their years from like 15 to 30 they wouldn't never gave the chance. But now all of sudden those guys are looking really good to them for some reason. And guess what I KNOW THE REASON. I wanted to see DID YOU.
Since many relationships now start with casual sex, do beta males have an even lower chance of finding a partner they want than ever before?
The consolation prize that used to be offered to beta males after more than a decade of being ignored by attractive women was that they’d be appreciated by women in their late 20’s/30’s after they had their fun with all the bad boys. These women would appreciate the traits of beta males that are conducive to raising a family, like a willingness to do anything for affection, spending their money on her, and not having a backbone against her. But now that it’s even more common than in the past for people to start relationships with casual sex, an arena that beta males don’t thrive in, it would logically follow that beta males are going to be further relegated to settling for less attractive women.
Women: Do you get sick of being vulnerable in this society?
I completely agree. It seems that in the past 30 to 40 years, aggression towards women in a variety of forms, i.e. stalking, rape, assault, and abduction has skyrocketed. I myself have had my home broken into, and that was pretty traumatic. It seems that women in contemporary society have to follow the words of Teddy Roosevelt: "Speak softly and carry a big stick" LOL! The problem is as you mentioned, however. Too many criminals are getting a slap on the wrist, leniency for their crimes, in many cases, crimes against women. I have learned of a great deal of cases where the male perpetrator has gotten away with far less severe punishment than one would think for rape/murder/assault against women. For example, I live in Upstate NY, and there was an infamous case in Onondaga County where a man called John Jamelske got away with the abduction, rape, and torture of a variety of women for nearly 20 YEARS. Amazingly, he released some of his victims and when one woman went to the Syracuse police and informed them about the crime that was perpetrated against her, they REFUSED to believe her. Therefore, he got away with more kidnappings until he was finally caught in 2003>>> http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Jamels... Believe it or not, even now in the 21st century, there is still a quiet bias amongst certain people in law enforcement against women that causes their reason to be corrupted and let male perpetrators of crimes be less severely punished than they should be. As for the death penalty, when it comes to rape, I am 100% for it. Rapists in a way, murder a woman's soul.