How do i explain to someone that they're not useless?
This is a very tricky situation. Actually, nothing can convince him that he's not. Only he himself can do that. He has to realize it for himself and believe it, not just have someone explain to him that he's not. I am in the same situation with my friend, and i told him this: "You may think you're useless to everyone, but you're not to me. You mean a lot to me, and i'd be honestly crushed if you weren't around. You mean a lot to me, and I don't think you are useless." It seemed to cheer him up that at least one person who he was close to thought that.
Life is pointless. I just want to die.?
I dont even know where to begin. I hate life. I dont want to be here anymore. I hate everything about myself physically, i hate that im a nobody, i hate that my family say "well we love you" like thats supposed to give my life any more purpose.. What is the point in life really? We work to pay tax/bills/buy nice things.... we exercise to look our best, we always "get through" things just so something else can get in our way. Everyone says life is about learning - no point to ANY of the things that i have previously mentioned because you know what? We are all going to die anyway. Money, nice body, friends, family, job - none of it means **** when youre dead... so whats the point in struggling and doing the same crap day by day when the result is always the same. I hate that i am always sad. I hate that i have no talent and that no matter what i do, my life will still lack meaning, i hate that i dont look like her or her or her - i hate that i hate eating because i hate starving too, i hate that i have to work every day, i hate that i have debts that dont appear to be getting any less, i hate that there are so many rude and pathetic excuses for human beings out there that have everything just fall in their lap and think nothing of it like the world owes them, i hate that i have to pretend its ok everyday. Why bother feeling this way everyday. Why not end it? I hate that people say its selfish to end it - what about me??? isnt that the reason that im wanting to end it anyway?? because im not happy??? I hate that people tell me "chin up" like this is a passing phase.... its not. I hate that every help site tells people to go get on meds - coz thats the only answer right?? I hate that i would feel dumb for seeing anyone about this anyway because its not like anyone has died, i havent had any traumatic experiences, so im not worthy right? They will only tell me to harden up and stop acting like a princess - everyones has a bad day right??? again and again and again???? I see no future for me. Im not good at anything. What i hate most of all is that i dont even know why ive posted this.... it will make as much difference as not posting it.... i want to die.
I don't want to live anymore. I feel alone and useless. I don't want my family to suffer for me either. What can I do?
Dear Ariel,You do not need to explain.I know this feeling well. I spent 3 years in very deep depression and wanted to die every day. I tried committing suicide once but failed. I felt useless and worthless and totally alone. I still remember what it was like. I know the bottomless pit. I also know how to get out of it and to dissolve the depression once and for all.I strongly recommend you go to my blog at lifesanswers.org and read everything there about depression and how to get rid of it. Do all the practices and suggestions listed there. Do that starting today.Having said that. A couple things that are very important….First, if you die in depression, in the darkness, it will follow you. There is no relief in death. It will actually feel worse and even more real. Plus you will add guilt to the mix. So suicide is really not a good option.Second, you can get rid of the depression and the feelings of uselessness if you commit yourself to it. It will take work on your part by you can do it. You are not alone. There are people who care about you and you should make them a part of your support system.Third, you need to find a good therapist who has experience with depression. Make that person a part of your support system as well.I tell you these things from my experience and the experience of hundreds of other people I have worked with and helped.You can get out of this dark pit, this pain that never seems to end. You can do it. The darkness is lying to you.Remember, you are not alone and you are not worthless no matter what that inner dialog tells you.Take careJon
What should you do when you feel life is pointless?
Before I answer you… what do you really feel like doing right now?For me(on the verge of ending myself), asked myself do I still want to live.I controlled myself to hesitate, enabling rest to rethink and reflect.(upon reasons, be it to live or die)I searched google, and it told me many positive things.(not what i wanted)I searched negative literature to see the author’s point of view.I searched religions and saw their predictions of life and death.I saw philosophies of life and knew for sure, nope, these theories can’t be proven.(our senses might be an illusion: see solipsism)All those years, why did I live? Unconsciously living(yes nevertheless still living), for what?You can see the highest frequency word that is in my answer is the word, I.I guess you can guess it, the truth is everybody is searching and pursuing the purpose of life, but it is just all question based upon I.“I” matters most… do you get it?My life is mine, it doesn’t belong according to the views of my family, my peers, or even my God.I get my say in my life.Reasoning likewise I love life! I love MY life! For me to feel meaningful is to not disappoint myself by slacking off or not trying when there is a chance for success, be it whatever it may be(even if it is researching immortality). To try my best, so that eventually even if I die, I have tried, therefore there is no remorse in this. How cool is it to fight against all odds! People think I am defeated, think my actions are madness, but no…. oh no, I define what is my defeat, what is my purpose in this life, therefore I shall not waver when anybody questions my existence and purpose.That’s just me.Your life, your say. You define what it means to be meaningful or meaningless. What people think does not matter when it comes to your meaning of life. People think you are defeated, if you truly believe what they think, then you are truly defeated. Therefore you are here now, believing in what that isn’t defined by yourself.I am the author of my life. Be it meaningless or not nobody other than myself can judge it. Nobody can define my meaningless/meaningful other than me.So to answer your question:I suggest you do what you value most before your life ends.ButYou are the one who authorize your next step.P.S. Immortality gives meaning when all eventually fades.
Cant think of what I want for christmas (uk), I like unique things...?
My husband keeps asking me what I want for xmas and my birthday (they are close together) and I have no idea. The things I want most are the things that neither of us can afford to get right now (which is why I want them lol) so its pointless to ask for them. If anyone has any suggestions please let me know! I : am into a lot of cool gadgets I like useful things I love unique wellcrafted jewelry, I found some gold/silver dipped leaf necklaces that were gorgeous, and i love nature type stuff like that. I like things that you cant find other places such as some thumbprint rings i saw on a website (too expensive right now) He wanted to get me a wii for xmas and wii fit for my birthday but i feel like we could end up spending a lot of money because you have to buy all sorts of extra bits and the games are expensive as well. I bought him a bunch of little things and a paintball day out for him and 7 of his friends all inclusive. If anyone knows of any websites or little shops that sell unique things or cool gadgets please let me know! btw i already have 2 old ipods that work perfectly for me so dont need anything ipod lol gotten a lot of suggestions of that already. Thanks so much!
Without the dressing a salad is pretty pointless......?
I totally agree. Otherwise you are gust eating grass and leaves. It is totally alright if you are a monkey or lemur or sloth or whatever but you are not so i say.... Hail the oil and vinegar!!!! Seriously, hope you find something yummy to pour over your lemur food! Keep on truckin'!
Is it wrong not to want to fight for my country?
For myself, Koko, I would say that I would fight to defend my country and the basic freedoms we enjoy. DEFEND. Nobody is invading our country right now, and, in fact, no part of our country has seen the boots of invaders since World War II. (Even then it was only small islands in the Pacific and the Aleutians.) If your point is to say that it's wrong to send our young people off to kill or be killed in some country halfway around the world just to "defend American interests" (NOT the same thing as defending America) then I'm definitely with you. Also, on the subject of patriotism, I am troubled by the idea that "patriotism" is defined as "obedience." One of the ugliest things going on right now in this country is the way that people who question the war are accused of "hating America." In truth, the Founders put freedom of speech in the Constitution for a reason. We are supposed to question, to debate, especially when the subject is something as serious as war. Those who unquestioningly go along are not the only patriots. Those who have the courage to question are also doing an act of love for their country; they don't want their country to do the wrong thing. Stand by your beliefs, girl, and stand proud.
Depressed at 13. Life is pointless?
I keep thinking about death, So i cant be happy. I feel like once i die i wont remember so life is pointless and today felt like an illusion. I cant ever see myself happy. Even if everything i own breaks i wouldnt care. I shouldnt be on the PC because i forgot about an exam and didnt revise. The sad thing is i would normaly care but i just dont anymore. Nothing ever makes a difference i just feel the same way. Dosent matter what you do i will feel the same. Nothing good makes me happy. I just remember about death and it just takes over my life. Like i dont have time to relax or enjoy things. how can i get through this. My friends are blessed they dont have my problem. ive lost motivation and dont care about my work or future because i would be dead. Even if i won the lottery i would still feel like s*it. I dont know how you lot dont think about death. i didnt before but now i do and its making my life a living hell. its as if i am in a cage. Its a phobia, but unlike most phobias you cant escape it. when i play a game i dont enjoy it. I used to be a cheery person and used to enjoy games allot but now life sucks. The only thing i have is awful. Its like if you had a feer of bees and you couldnt enjoy anything with thebee next to you. but my phobia is going to happen. i just cant exept it yet. Life seems like an illusion. I feel very bad and never feel good. Every second of every day i think about death and cant be happy. im so depressed. I hope i can feel normal again. But i think this is impossible. How do you cope with your mortality? How can i feel better. Im an athest and i dont want to sound blunt but no-one tell me only happyness can be found in god. I dont mind if you say im glad your taking gods side and trying to help me, No offence to you but i dont believe in it. So will anything make me feel better. Its like life has no point so why do people worry about things. How would i go back to not thinking about death attall?