What to do about alcoholic mother at my wedding?
It's a really tough situation since the last thing that you want is your own mother causing a scene and ruining you & your fiance's big day. Do you have a responsible family member or friend who might be able to "baby-sit" her for the evening? This way if she starts to get out of control they can remove her from the building or calm her down. Are you the person who spoke with your mother prior to the engagement party? If you weren't the person to speak with her then maybe it would work better if she was addressed directly by you. It's unfortunate that it has to be this way...alcoholism is a bad disease and while I am sure your mother would not want to do anything to ruin your day the disease is often more powerful then the person's own will. I wish that I had some amazing piece of advice, but aside from either having someone watch her for the evening or just not inviting her (which I am sure you do not want to do) I don't have a magic answer...I wish you the best of luck though. Have faith that things will work out. They usually do in the end. :)
Do alcoholic drinks help get rid of headaches?
Actually, no. The alcohol deprives your brain of the oxygen it needs. Your blood to alcohol ratio rises....and due to this...alcohol actually causes headaches.
Once you become an alcoholic are you always an alcoholic?
The safe answer, for those who struggle with this issue, is that you're always an alcoholic. There is a history of this problem in my family. A long history of long hard drinking, but no health problems...so it's more like a psychological issue for us. Several relatives have been in treatment programs. Taf is right, not everyone is the same. You have to know yourself and HONESTLY what is right for you. For myself, I started thinking about this at the age of 21, when I first started drinking. About 15 years ago, I decided that it was something I could deal with philosophically. For the last 10 plus years, I've averaged drinking over a bottle of wine a day. Some days 2-3. Everyone thought I was an alcoholic, but I never thought that. In fact, I have always maintained in my own heart and mind that it's impossible for me to ever become an alcoholic because I've conquered the "urges" philosophically...moved past it, so to speak. One day about a month ago, I just decided I would take a break. I quit drinking just like that. No withdrawals, no urges to get back to the bottle. Everyone thinks that what I did is impossible, but I don't think it's any big deal. I'll probably drink again at some point, but I don't feel the need to make any big decisions about it one way or the other right now. See, for me, it's all about that philosophical mindset. I'm not recommending this 'way' to you, but I did want to give you an example of something different to consider. You did, after all, ask this question in the philosophy section...
What is the first step I need to take if my mom is an alcoholic and asked for help with her addiction?
Someone mentioned, and this is very true, that she needs to see a doctor. Despite a very weird conversation I had here on Quora a while ago, a doctor is NOT going to able to cure her alcoholism - the reason for going is alcohol is one of the very few drugs where stopping cold turkey can actually kill you. I have no idea how doctors determine this, but as a veteran of cold-turkey-seizures… it’s not something you just suffer through.If that’s not the case, or she has managed to detox in a safe environment, is to get her to go to an AA meeting. No it is not for everybody, but there is this aspect of it - almost every last addict/alcoholic thinks they are different from everybody else, they can’t relate to anybody and nobody can relate to them. They are the only one - ever - that was as bad as they are, or feels what they feel inside.It’s really important to have those assumptions questioned. And you only get them by seeing with your own eyes and hearing with your own ears and realizing you’re not Satan’s spawn or a complete loser or beyond hope. And, as alcoholics (or addicts) tend to be VERY strong-willed people (contrary to popular belief), being told these things will sound like platitudes. A person has realize that simply by observing. That, in itself, is a profound relief and gives you hope.If she really wants “help”, then make that kind of plan for her. Explain the medical aspect of detoxing (by the way, a “detox” will almost always make you go to a doctor first anyway, for this very reason), but put it in the terminology of “making sure she’s as comfortable as possible”. Then make a plan for her that involves something that follows that up. Just having it out of your system leaves you feeling more vulnerable than ever. She needs support, and she needs support from people she can come to believe were and are like her. And, aren’t chained to the bottle, at least at that moment.That sounds kinda obvious to someone who is not an alcoholic, but that syndrome of being what they call “terminally unique” is almost universal. Just the possibility of things getting better is one of the biggest hurdles there is to get over.