Is my coworker taking advantage of me?
There's this guy I work with. Hes cool but I feel that he takes advantage of me. He's always asking for money, he wants me to take his garbage out, he uses my phone charger without asking and it gets annoying after a while. When we first met, he did pay me back. Even though we all got paid today, I ended up buying him and another coworker a 20 oz.pepsi. Not too long ago, as I was about to fill up my mop bucket, he comes in and say "hey hold on, let me fill mine up first." He already had some in his mop bucket. I can tell hes a good dude but Im starting to feel uncomfortable with him taking advantage of me. Is he taking advantage of me or am I just reading too much into it?
My coworkers are taking advantage of me?
My boss gets off work at 4pm and from 4-8pm it's just my coworker and me working. Lately her behavior at work has been getting worse, especially when my boss isn't there. For example, she is taking the company work van and using it to do her own errands. She will disappear for atleast an hour and once didn't return until 15 minutes till 8 when she's off shift. Now she is mad at me that I don't like she's ditching work to do her errands. Currently, she's been giving me the silent treatment and told her other coworker that she's going to do her job. Except, when I ask her questions that is about work, she ignores me and acts as if she doesn't hear me. I honestly don't care if she doesn't talk to me like we're friends but now she won't communicate about work such as if a certain client had taken their medicine yet. I sent her a message saying that she knows I'm not happy that she's ditching work for her errands, it doesn't matter if she won't talk to me, but we still gotta communicate for work. In which she says I'm on the computer all the time (we are allowed to use our computers as long as we're still monitoring the clients) then her comments just become downright rude in which she called the house phone and greeted me as "hey stupid *****". My main problem is that I've decided that this workplace is getting to become too hostile for me and as much as I love my job, I don't feel that it's worth enough to put up with my coworkers attitudes towards me. I've decided that I want a transfer and if my boss won't let me, then I am quitting. However, I don't know if I should tell my boss about what she's saying since it will reflect bad on me that I am knowingly letting her get away with it. Or should I just tell my boss that it's more of a change of pace in which I will be working with clients on a one-on-one basis then with coworkers.
How do I avoid a coworker taking advantage of me? I always get deceived by him and end up doing his things while I am already loaded. I complained to the office head but no solution.
There is no point complaining to the office head when it looks like you agreed to do your co-worker’s work.I’ve had slackers in my team who always managed to spin some sob story to convince their co-workers to take over some of their work. When I scold the “victims”, they always explain that the slacker “really was overworked” or “really needed a break” and that it was no problem to help him. I’m the one who assigned their workloads, so I know full well that Slacker wasn’t overworked, just plain lazy.You have to learn to say “No”, and not expect your office head to protect you from this conman or say No on your behalf. Be mentally prepared as your conman co-worker will badmouth you and accuse you of having no heart, no compassion, no team spirit, and he will turn his sights on another colleague to con. If you can’t harden your heart enough to say “No”, tell him that you will swop duties with him. Some of the “victims” in my team turned the situation around by agreeing to help IF the slacker did some of their duties in return. The slacker of course baulked and went to look for another victim who would be less savvy.
Someone is taking advantage of my carpool?
Take him directly home as you have some pressing engagement If you happen to have time off the next day you can take the scenic route as you just have to get a whatever and need to pee or get a paper or pick up some bread this may take a couple of hours to get home but a little planing and you are always way out somewhere and he just will have to wait while you get your whatever. The word no does wonders to stopping this. If he hangs around waiting for you this ultimate prank may curtail him. Arrange in advance for someone to pick you up you are studying for a test they are taking you to class in the morning whatever. They live in the wrong direction and you just leave him behind.You are not driving your buddy is.Have someone drop you off and pick you up a few times in their car. Does not need to be same person each end of trip again you not driving no room for freeloader. Your car is being serviced.
Why is it that hard working people are taken advantage of and given more and more work in the workplace?
They're not really taken advantage of, they allow it - there is a difference. Hard working people are dependable. Their boss can count on them to get the job done and to get it done right. This is a rare quality in most people. Since hard working people are driven to excel, to get approval from their boss, and the self-satisfaction of getting the job done, they tend to take on more and more. Even though they take on more and more, they still get all of it done to a point of perfection. Bosses look at these hard working people as their true workforce. All the others get the "busy" work.
What's the best way to handle coworkers that take advantage of you?
Conversation:Mary: Can you please help me with X task?Jane (you): Mary, I’m swamped with works. Please ask another person.Mary: Jane, you don’t look so busy. You got a lot of thing to do?Jane (you): I’m really busy. Please ask someone else.Mary: But you are the really the expert. Why are you so bad? (pleading sarcasm)Jane (you): Mary,my final answer is NO. It’s not my job description to do your work and I’m really swamped with work. Why don’t you ask the manager to help and teach you if you are unsure of how to do it?Mary might not give up by this time and she might play dirty tactic by asking your manager to help her instead. This lead to a crucial second step.Second step:Please inform your manager immediately after your colleague leave your work desk. Go and inform your manager in an un-emotional way that you have helped her but you need to maintain your KPI and quality for your work performance. You can mention that your colleague might need to learn work & time management issue instead of depending on you. It’s important to share your thoughts with your manager so he or she is aware of this issue. Do not mention “taken advantage” but focus on “maintaining quality of your project” and “time taken from your task to do other colleague job which is not under your KPI”. Ask your manager for a solution. Most of the time, the manager will mention that Mary has to ask his or her permission before asking you to help again.If this already happen many time, you can skip step one and talk to your manager asap. Schedule an informal meeting.Do not feel guilty. You are not backstabbing your colleague but protecting your own boundary.I quote Mark Murphy: Saying ‘No’ to someone who’s taking advantage of you, or asking you to break the rules, is not a transgression. It’s the right thing to do. Own your decision.You can read How To Say 'No' When A Colleague Tries To Take Advantage Of YouHope this helps and good luck. You are not the first person to survive bad colleague and you can emerge a HERO to yourself.
Do older people take advantage of young people at work?
Personally I don't believe that you can say ''older people'' take advantage of younger people.. because what are older people.. to you they could be 30 years old or even 25.. You have to stay confident and keep your self confidence. If someone uses ''constructive criticism'' meaning they show you a way how you can get something done faster or more efficiently then that is the kind of criticism you should listen to because that is not meant to demean you but to make you learn from it.. if someone criticises your work then they have to show you how to do it better.. if you are very new and make mistakes and someone was instructed to supervise you, then don't take that the wrong way... if someone ''backstabs you'' go to the boss or if someon takes advantage of you where they really shouldn't then you need to tell the boss.. if they take unfair advantage of you.. I have seen backstabbers of all age groups.. I can't personally say that older people are worse than younger people, because if you are young and they are about the same age group there might be other aspects entering into the ''bad work atmosphere'' if you are good looking if you are female and there is another woman of your age group, she may be jealous and use ways to backstab you just out of unfounded jealousy.. In any age group there can be someone who takes advantage of someone else. If they find out you are weak enough to let them take advantage of you, then anyone of any age can do it.. when a pupil gets bullied it's not often done by the teachers, it's done by fellow pupils of the same age group... If they really exploit you then you need to go to the boss and report that.. if it's a small matter and you believe they are taking unfair advantage of you... try first in a polite but assertive way.. by using a determined but polite voice to say.. '' No, that's not part of my job description''
How do I deal with people who are trying to take advantage of my kindness? My colleague said I'm a pushover. I don't know how to say no.
I believe the best way is to realize that they are trying to take advantage of your kindness the moment you interact with them. If you are like me, when you get better at recognize the signs, it would become easier to say no. Unfortunately, I have been told I'm a cold bastard when people try to use or manipulate me, so I probably shouldn't give advice for that. However, one thing I found really helpful, is keep asking questions. For example, 'Why can't you do your job?', 'What have you done to prevent/fix it?', 'Why should I cover it for you?', 'Why do you choose me?', 'Have you asked others?', 'Why are others' needs more important than mine?', 'Why are YOUR needs more important than mine?', 'How are you prepared to pay me back for this?', and my favorite of all, 'How is it my business if you are fired/injured/hurt/sad/etc?' . Eventually, the other person would either give up, pissed off, or try to guilt you into doing what they want. Stay firm, and at the very least, pretend NOT to care. It's okay if for the first few times, you run back home later and stay up all night feeling bad for refusing them, but NEVER let them see you vulnerable. Most people would stop after a few times you verbally attack them back like this, but they might try to talk bad about you behind your back. Ignore them, they can hardly do more damage than they would have done if they success.WARNING: only do this IF and only if you're very sure that person is trying to take advantage of you, and don't ask the more aggressive ones in public.