Is This Considered Rude In Your Opinion

Why is it considered rude to voice honest negative opinions?

Often people associate tone, choice of words and timing with rudeness. If someone just found out that he has an illness, and you reply: “ Well, you’ve been looking really lousy lately,” that may be considered rude as the words are too blunt, and the timing may be less than ideal. If you (as in generic you) express your opinion as an attack, that can be considered rude. Let’s say you decide to tell that female she looks fat in that dress. Did she ask your opinion? Did she say something that upset you? Did you reply: “By the way, you look like a beached whale in that dress too!” Maybe the dress isn’t very flattering, and perhaps she didn’t want to hear that she didn’t look so good, but how did you express your opinion? Did you do it to make her feel bad or tell her the truth so that she wouldn’t embarrass herself unknowingly?There is a fine line between rudeness and honesty. I always prefer honesty unless it is an attack. Then I think the person never had the guts to express his or her opinion in gentler settings. I have to ask why: does the other person hate confrontation? Does he or she only speak his or her truth when riled? Either way, it doesn’t bode well for a good exchange of ideas.My son has told me that he hates me. I suppose that was rude, but it didn’t bother me because I didn’t believe him. I knew in that moment he hated me. People feel intense emotions. Sometimes they express them to stop another in his or her tracks. If expressing your honest opinion only continues a fight, then it isn’t helping. On the other hand, if you need to say what you feel and who you really are, try to find a time when everyone is calm. Some people never want to hear honesty. Others can only hear it at certain times. Choose your battles wisely. Good luck to you.

When is it considered rude to interject your opinion or tell the truth?

The language in the details of your question is telling. You’re “strict with what [you] tolerate,” and you “want to discuss issues like adults.” This makes it sound like you see yourself as the “adult”who sets the rules of interaction; i.e., what is or is not acceptable. It sounds like you see other people as children, and they might find the treatment you give them tiresome.Social adeptness means understanding and respecting other people’s boundaries. If they care about something or their feelings are hurt, you’re going to cross a line by bluntly telling them to “grow up” or “move on.” If they aren’t in the mood, they won’t want to be pushed to try new foods by you: after all, you aren’t their parent.This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be honest with your friends, but it does mean that it takes a great deal of skill to be honest at the right time and in the right way. If you repeatedly have the same sort of problem with people seeing you as “rude,” take the opportunity to ask, “Is there a better way I could have expressed myself? I said x because I’m concerned about y, but maybe it didn’t come out right.” Or ask, “Is this a topic you’d rather not discuss?”. That’s what an adult should do.There are probably things you don’t want to hear or ways you don’t want to be spoken to as well, so you should be able to find some empathy and respect within yourself.

Why is telling the truth considered rude?

Fact as truth is not rude. It's, well, fact. Opinion as truth can be rude. It's opinion and subject to personal expression and personal points of view. The delivery of fact(s) can be done in a manner that gives offense, or in such a way as to show understanding and compassion for the situation.

Is it considered rude to finish other people's sentences?

Lately, I’ve grown really sensitive to other people trying to finish my sentences. I think it has something to do with the #MeToo movement and a growing awareness of all the ways women are subtly and overtly shown that they’re not as important or as powerful as men.I associate people completing my thoughts with “mansplaining,” mostly because I don’t find that women are as guilty of this bad habit:Mansplaining is, at its core, a very specific thing. It's what occurs when a man talks condescendingly to someone (especially a woman) about something he has incomplete knowledge of, with the mistaken assumption that he knows more about it than the person he's talking to does.[1]So let me get this straight, you actually think you know exactly what I was going to say? Are you telling me my thought process is so incredibly transparent that you can lay it out for me? Are you so bored with the expression of my thoughts—so eager to get this part of the conversation over with—that you’re willing to cut me off or talk over me?Come on.We all know that in a normal conversation between two well-mannered adults, there’s a normal flow—a back and forth—that lets both people…Share their thoughtsAnd be heard.When you finish someone else’s sentence, you’re not allowing them either one of these: you’re not giving them the space to speak, and you’re obviously not listening, because if you were, you’d be reflecting on what they were about to say instead of trying to say it for them.Finishing other people’s sentences is absolutely, positively rude. It doesn’t matter if it’s a teacher interrupting a student, an elder interrupting a youth, or a husband interrupting a wife. Cutting someone off when they’re speaking is bad manners regardless of age, status, or relationship.For some people it’s simply a bad habit—a reflection that they’re overly excited or too comfortable with the relationship. Heck, I think we’ve all tried to finish someone else’s sentence for them! But if we really stop to think about how this makes other people feel, it’s pretty obvious it’s rude, we should avoid doing it, and apologize when we do.Footnotes[1] Mansplaining