Why is my friend so insensitive?
A person usually portrays an insensitive or a tough persona to tell others that they are tough and you shouldn’t mess with them as they will most probably beat you down and make you stay there as long as they want.They reflect such behaviour because they are missing love and affection from their lifestyle. If they are treated with love and care then they will slowly start leaving their fake persona behind and will become who they really are, which may be oversensitive or less sensitive.
How do I deal with an insensitive friend?
I've faced the same & I realize that at times like these (this applies to a relationship too); I might recommend to follow these steps:-step out of this picture & look at it from a 3rd party perspective; you'll get a clear answer-think about what YOU want to do-Lay your heart out to the friend (you've been close enough for you to say that)-Let the friend know how their repetitive insensitivity is affecting you-then take your space & you figure it out-Understand that you cannot really change a person or their thought process (for all you know, for her/him you might be overreacting to simple things, which maybe might not matter to another individual) however if you give them enough space they should realize what they are doing is wrong/right. And by that time you'd have learnt to focus on more productive parts of your life. -Focus on what makes you happy & who make you happy. Or people who comfort you. Vent this out; do let them know that they need to put themselves in your shoe & then focus on 'your' life. There's plenty to focus on, you'll know.Life is beautiful & there are good people around. A lot of beauty surrounds us. Make sure you have people around you who empower you & respect you. So it is your choice; choose & be honest :)
What should I do if my friend is racially insensitive?
There are 101 issues that you might consider important- income inequality, treatment of racial minorities, same-sex rights, animal rights, education in nations with theocratic governments, homelessness in Western cities, homelessness in Africa, working conditions in Bangladeshi clothing factories, etc, etc, etc.Let's turn the question round. What have you done, so far this year, to address the discrimination faced by Christians in Thailand and Pakistan?I may be wrong, but I'm guessing, that the answer is "nothing", because it's not an important issue for you.Do you think it's reasonable for me to say that you need to be open-minded, and receptive, and that you are "religiously insensitive" because of this?You need to realise one important point:It isn't a significant issue for her.And a good way to start is abandon your judgemental language and thinking of yourself as better than she is because of your choice of causes.
How do I confront a insensitive friend?
LONG STORY AHEAD.Yesterday, I was sitting in college, cross legged, having my favourite bhendi chi bhaji (okra vegetable) and fulka (Indian bread). I was relishing my food with my friends when one of my closest friends from our group came back after picking her lunch from the canteen. She sat with us, and started talking, as usual. She is a talkative person, which I used to call, cheerful. All of us are still in silence, eating in peace.Now, she looks at my tiffin. Fulkas being seen after ages of eating salads and oats. She could’ve said nothing, just kept shut; but no.Friend: Ew, are you eating bhendi chi bhaji?Me: Yes, I like it and also better with more oil and crispy slices.Friend: I just hate it.We all nodded. From where I come, bhendi chi bhaji is the common favourite of most children. So, this was new and also a bit extreme. Friend: It’s almost like eating……She started heaving loudly, as if she were choking. She was actually thinking of a perfect adjective.Friend: It’s almost like eating a dead rat. She said this. She did. She was one of my closest and dearest friends, but she did say this. There were so many allegations of her being rude and bully to other students and I’d always stood by her through this. She was breaking my trust, not because she said that to my favourite food but because she was saying that to food, all the more when I was consuming it.In the culture where I am from, we never say anything bad about our food (most cultures teach this) and especially not when we were at the table, having it. We have been taught as children to consider food as our God and a luxury to be able to eat whenever we want, whatever we want.This is how I confronted my friend. Me: Have you consumed a dead rat?Friend (shocked at my response): No, I didn't mean it like that.Me: Then? How can you say that my favourite food tastes like a dead rat?Friend: No, this is my assumption. I feel like that way.Me: Well, this is the first and the last time you did this to me, you will never talk ill about my food in front of me. Also, do you talk like this on your dining table?Friend (Laughing, defensively): Yes. My parents also talk like this. We all talk like this.Dealing with insensitive friends is a waste of our time. I chose to ignore this statement and continue with my food. The best way to “deal with them” is to not deal with them. It’s a foolproof technique.
How do you talk with an arrogant and insensitive boy friend?
My boyfriend was treating me like crap in front of my mom, and afterwards I spoke to him about it and he says he did NOTHING wrong. I couldnt convince him to see how horrible he was treating me, and right in front of my own mother! When I came back into the house, my mom literally said "I dont like his personality! He is not a good boyfriend for you!" I felt soooo embaressed and I just feel so crushed that he feels that way, and he just leaves with out any care! He is upset that I am upset, but he still feels he did nothing wrong! I cant seem to get him to see how mean he was being! And btw, what I mean when I say he was treating me horrible is that he was speaking to me very roughly and putting me down. His voice was very harsh and he kept telling me I was having an attitude and that I need to stop! D:< IM SO ANGRY! I love him to death, and I know he loves me too, but he cant seem to see what he is doing! HOW DO I GET HIM TO SEEE??!??!! We are both 21 and been together over a year and half now.
My friend is acting really insensitive?
So, I met this girl at the beginning of this school year because she's in my pe class and lunch. She was nice, so we became friends and we usually hang out at pe with my other friend. And at lunch she sits with me. Recently, she's started talking to my former bully from elementary school, who I had lots of problems with. She feels sorry for this girl because she doesn't really talk and has no friends. So in pe she has been asking this girl to join us. She knows that the girl had been bullying me before. Now this girl follows me and my friend everywhere and it's really annoying because I'm worried I'll start having problems with her again, and she acts really weird. I mentioned this to my friend today, and asked her why the girl was always following us and I wish she'd stop. She told me that the girl was her friend, and I shouldn't be mean to people and judge them by their looks. Today at lunch I sat at my usual spot with my other friends, but my friend sat across the cafeteria with my bully, which she never has before. Was she trying to prove a point? Then she came over with the girl and sat down right at our table and introduced her to everyone. I was so happy to finally be rid of my bully, but now my friend is forcing her back to me and she doesn't even understand. She just makes me feel judgemental. Do you think she's being really insensitive? What should I do? I don't want to move away from the table because all my other friends are there, and I don't feel that I should have to. But do I have another choice? Thanks. :)
How do I apologize to my coworker/friend for being insensitive?
I didn't realize until today that I wasn't being very sensitive to my coworker. She is unhappy with her job and my boss is unhappy with her performance, so she has a few weeks to show him why she should keep her job. He's hinted to me that I may receive her job. I told her something he said to me and she said "I'm glad, that means he might fire me so I'll be done with his place!" She seemed happy. Then yesterday a few coworkers were talking about quitting and my coworker was saying she'd leave if she got more hours or better pay, then I asked the others where they applied, if there'd be better pay and such for my friend. My mom said it's like I'm trying to push her out of the way for her job and didn't realize I might've come across that way. She's unhappy here and doesn't want her job, she said she'd rather me have it. But yesterday we worked together and I brought it up again cuz our boss praised me the day before and was nice to me, but he hasn't talked to her much, only to yell at her. And she said, "You know he's probably just leading you on again right? He knows you're desperate for a promotion!" But she wasn't saying that a while ago. I feel bad for being insensitive and want to apologize to her, but don't know how to.
Is it insensitive for my friend to call a hearse a meat wagon or a "go go" wagon?
I have a friend in the funeral home business and having a dark sense of humor is her coping mechanism. She would rather not work in a funeral home where she helps to bath "stiffs" (as she calls them), and where she shampoos, curls, and styles the hair of deceased women and load up the hearse, but it pays her more money than she was earning at her regular office job where she didn't get a raise for years. Anyway, I cringe when she calls the hearse "the meat wagon" or the "go go wagon", but she explained it's a coping mechanism to help her to remain impersonal with her job and not to dwell on the dark sad side of her profession. BUT I've noticed that she is also becoming dark and moody away from her funeral home job. Is it normal behavior for funeral home workers to develop dark sense of humors and become moody sometimes? I guess it would be hard to be jolly when someone is surrounded by death round the clock on his/her job, so I try not to be judgmental with my friend. Thanks for any good advice.