Is it only considered adultery if you have sex?
I've been researching this topic for some time now, and it seems that all sources indicate that it's only considered adultery if you sleep with someone that's not your spouse. Suppose you're interested in dating someone that's seperated from their spouse. What if you only date that person? Is it considered adultery then? If you have a simple, loving relationship (in which you don't have sex), is it still considered adultery? Is the legal and moral definition of adultery, "to have sex with someone that's not your spouse"? What do you think?
Can violence ever be considered a moral obligation?
The typical excuse is “The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few, or the one.” [1] This is used to rally the public to support warfare.Footnotes[1] Star Trek - Wikipedia
Why is incest considered bad or harmful to the people who engage in those kinds of relationships?
Ok I will post anonymously because I am probably going to be flooded with all sorts of spam and messages.It is bad only if it is forced and one party is unwilling. That is called rape. Incest or not, rape is wrong. But as long as everyone involved is okay with it, then everyone else should just mind their own business.Now I have had sex with dad since I was 12 I think? I don't remember much that much anymore. More or less.Mom was, and I quote, an “ice queen” after I was born, so dad rarely got to do it anymore with her after all of us siblings were born.Don't get me wrong, mom was wonderful. I loved mom. Dad loved her too. She loved him as well. We were an typical okay family. No domestic abuse, problems, etc among us. We had fights. We had more happy times. A lot of family bonding and trips.Dad was never forceful ever since. In fact, he was the most loving and gentle of all, even compared to my boyfriends (I have had 3 bfs, including my current bf). I love dad. Dad loved me.Did I become depressed? Suicidal? Anti-social? A slack-off at school? Did I become promiscuous?Nope!Not meaning to brag but I was a consistent honor student, elected in the student council, active in our volleyball varsity, and graduated with honors (I was 2 points below our highschool Magna Cum Laude). My point is, having incest did not destroy me or my childhood.In fact, sometimes part of my reward for getting honors or being MVP in volleyball was sex. There you go, you know what inspired my to excel and to great in school.Was it a secret? Technically yes. Because we were guilty? Not exactly. Sex is a private personal matter so we did not openly bragged and talked about it.I was a super Daddy's girl. When I had bfs, both mom and dad knew but dad knew a lot more. I had the "girl talk" with mom.Dad (and mom, and my brothers) were all there when I needed them. I was there for dad when he needed me the most. Incest is NOT always bad. Sure there are cases where a terrible parent or sibling forces themselves. But as I have said, this is rape first, and incest second. Rape is always wrong. People should realized not all incest is rape, and non-rape incest is not bad. They should really just mind their own business.
Why are you friends with people who do things you consider morally wrong? (Cheating, abuse, etc)?
I'm not.I choose my friends carefully. I don't expect my friends to agree with me about everything, and I don't particularly care if my friends do things like fudge a deduction on their income tax return or park in ano-parking zone. But I can, have, and will end friendships with people who maliciously harm others.I have ended friendships with people who physically or emotionally abuse their partners. I have ended friendships with people who believe it's okay to beat other people when they don't get their way. I'm not big on policing other people's romantic lives, but I have ended a friendship with a person who cheated on her husband, contracted hepatitis, passed it on to her husband, then lied about it to the medical board when her license came up for renewal. (She was a dental hygienist and continued practicing in violation of state law after she knew she had hepatitis.)There is immorality and there is immorality. Parking in a no-parking zone is not the same as beating your wife. I don't expect absolute moral agreement or moral perfection from my friends, but that does not mean I will be friends with anyone regardless of how they behave.
Is morality logical?
No. Morality is subjective, and is based upon a norm that exists for an individual, a group of people, or a society as a whole. It basically is an ability to determine right from wrong based upon current beliefs, not logic. Using logic can help, but it is not a requirement. And even logic is dependent on what a person believes, and it need not be an accurate or true basis (i.e., it is subjective).
Are moral values relative or absolute?
One should do one's best to be moral. It is a very complicated world with very serious problems. There are basic guidelines morally that are helpful, but the real world can be quite messy. One needs to know a lot about morality, and train oneself to be in control of ones emotions and actions. Pray/meditation, eating healthy. mind-body exercise, not overindulging, and looking for good inspiration where ever one can find it, will help one to be a positive factor in this world, guided and inspired by God. I don't relate well to either word "relative", or "absolute", because of how people tend to use these terms. I guess you use what moral values work the best under the circumstances, in doing the most good. If an absolute moral value works well use it. If the situation is exceptional or very complicated do your best with God's inspiration as a guide.