Why am i losing all my friends?
Ive never been real popular because im quiet. Im known, yeah. Im loud around my actual friends. I go to a private highschool that has a total of about 300 kids. Im a freshman and ive been losing friends. I couldnt go to one of my best friends quinces because my mom and dad were fighting and my sister was pyscho. She knows and shes real mad at me. Its been 2 weeks and she wont talk to me. She knows im sorry and all the people that were in our group are starting to ignore me too. Im quiet because i feel like ill be annoying. No one ever seems to hear me no matter how i talk so i dont say anything. Im get all As, i skateboard a lot, i talk to them, not anymore. I feel like there being real childish. And now my other friends who are kinda like nerds arent talking to me neither as much. Am i giving bad vibes? Too moody? Is the system based on looks? Ive noticed... I hate it. I onky have about 4 real friends and 2 dont even go to school with me. I have nothing in common with anyone there. It sucks. What do i do? Do i just stick to me? Its hard for me to make new friends because i look mean and i give a rude first impression, i cant help being quiet
Is it worth crying over your best friend?
My best friend and I have been close for over a decade (since third grade) and lately I've noticed the relationship between her and I is becoming rocky. Whenever I wanted to hang out with her alone to catch up on things (we go to different schools), she always has to bring a mutual friend over - and if this mutual friend doesn't come, then our hang outs won't take place. I've spoken to her about this before but she just shrugs it off and moves on. I've also noticed that we're liking different things and I don't know... I just feel like something between us is not the same as it used to be before. Another thing that sucks is that she has another best friend from her school who she regularly hangs out with and whenever I try to make plans to hang out with her (my best friend), she would decline saying she has other plans - which is with her best friend from her school. Now that we're seniors and going off to colleges, I can't stop crying that I might lose her. Does anyone know how can I stop crying over this and move on?
Is it worth losing friends if you’re making a positive change for yourself?
Yes. Absolutely.You know who are your biggest enemies ? Your best buddies.And, you know who is your best friend? You.Your so-called-friends are the people who know you very well. They know you in and out and they know every single weak nerve of yours. Mostly you have friends who are like-minded and whom you trust with all your secrets and they are your support mechanism. But that is not the case always.When you have friends who always tries to poke fun at you or may be tries to outsmart you in everything and doesnt value you as a person, wouldn’t it be nice to stay away from them?Another problem with friends is we expect too much from them. Don’t expect them to help you out from every problem. They have lot of it to deal with themselves.Life wasn’t meant to be complicated, we make it so.Sometimes kids can give us valuable lessons. If they don’t like something they say it loud. They don’t complicate things with what he/she would think.So, if you don’t like some friend or may be his/her behavior it is best to make them aware of it and if the need is so, just cut them from your life slowly.If you know the change you are making is of immense value to you, you need to get things right for same. Basically you need to realize, not everyone you count as friend is actually a friend.Go ahead, make new friends who value you, who like you for what you are, who respect you , give you freedom, help you, motivate you and guide you in right direction.
When is it worth losing an argument?
they callthis collapsing. Smart collapsing can let you focus on other things than that argument because it possibly doesn’t matter that muchalso if ur wrong
Is it really worth losing me over?
My boyfriend of 8 months dumped me yesterday. We were due to move in together in 2 weeks, bought furntiture, everything. He has a sister in Japan that was getting nervous bout radiation in Japan, so he told her she and her 2 babies could come stay with us as long as they wanted. He didn't even discuss it with me first. I told him that it would affect my life too and that there are a lot of things to consider. I said I want to help but we need to see if there are any other options. Because him and I were just starting out and I was moving to another state to be with him, taking on a new job, etc. It would be a tough time. His current apt would have been available for them to stay for at least 6 weeks after he left, fully paid. But he didn't like any of my suggestions. She even had family closer but he is the oldest in a Japanese family and felt responsible to take it on, and felt it wasn't important to talk to me bout it first. So that turned into an arguement on Thursday and than I went to his place Saturday and he told me he doesn't want our relationship anymore. He wants to move on. He said he feels I don't have strong family values and a lack of compassion. I told him I would try to make it work even if it meant I would wait to move in with them. He didn't care and was very cold. I cried, begged and pleaded. Looking like a fool. I wanted him to know I cared so much for him and that I do have compassion. But he said his mind was made up. He said he may miss me or regret it but he will get through. he gave me 700 dollars so I could pay my rent for one more month, but I think that was his guilt talking. I now have to be out of my current place at months end with no place to go. He paid everything on the new place so I have no rights there. Money has been short for me. He said he's not going to move now that we are not living together so he will just take a money loss on it. I haven't been able to stop crying and thinkng how I coul have prevented this. I love him. I called him today and left a voicemail asking him if he was sure this is what he wants, cause I need to move on and start dating again, and staying busy. He hasn't responded. I just don't understand.
Would you rather lose a friend over telling them how you feel about them or lose a friend because you have a crush on them?
Who says you would lose them?? Maybe the feelings are reciprocated??Now, here’s the kicker…and what I tell my kids and soooo complicated. So try to stay with me here.You need to marry your best friend. Looks fade. Lust comes and goes. You’ll fall in and out of love with your spouse over the years again and again. But if you’ve got that solid foundation of a best friendship, you’re golden.However!!!! Here’s the kicker…are you willing to lose this friend forever if it doesn’t work out???? Because that’s what will happen if you start dating your best friend and it goes sour. =\I married my best friend. But we had an unusual circumstance. We were friends long before it developed into something else. And then we dated from two different continents for over a year before we were together in person. That forces communication skills to be built and built well. You have to talk. There’s nothing else.So first, you need to find out if the other person feels the same. If they do, you need to talk to them about it. Is it worth risking the friendship? If it isn’t, then you’ll have to become really good and learning to get over those feelings. And who knows? It could still develop into something later. Just maybe not right now.Take your time and really look at it and gauge what is more important.Good luck!!! <3
I lost my best friend over something stupid?
I am depressed right now because I just lost one of my good friends. So lets turn time back like 3 years ago when we first met. We really liked both of the same things. Me and her would play in her basement and we would have sleepovers at her house. Well, since Christmas of 2009 I haven't seen her in person. Well, in June my dad told me to find her and friend her on face book. I did. We talked slowly building our friendship back up when it was taken down when she told me to friend one direction so I did. They unfortunately blocked me because they thought I was a stalker. I tried to tell her they were stupid impostors or fans because 1D has better stuff to do than spend their time on facebook. I tried to tell my friend and we got through this big argument whether they were fakers or real. I don't even LIKE 1D. So my other friend tagged me in a photo of 1D and she found it and said I thought you didn't like 1D. And I said I got tagged in it for no reason. And the friend who tagged me said "nice way to hurt my feelings you get mad when I don't tag you in things." WHICH IS NOT TRUE. It made me look like a total A$$. My friend got all mad at me and she still was. She unfriended me once and I friended her back and she accepted but today I tried to apologize and she said "Whatever" and kept questioning me why I wanted to be her friend. I think she is being stupid. She wont even forgive and forget. This time, she unfriended me and I don't even care. If she wants tob be stupid let her. I apologized, and i'm very hurt right now. She's 14 and i'm 13. Don't be stupid and say "I don't know" or "You deserved this" because if you actually read what happened you would know. Please help! -Katie