How do you accept that your life is not what you want it to be?
Maybe what you want isn't what YOU really want; rather, it is something you've adopted based on a materialistic worldview. It is your attempt to live up to the expectations imposed onto you by social contracts: that we are here to live in comfort; that to do so, one needs a steady supply of money; that working hard on the “right” goals will get you that money; that money and comfort will make you happy.Unfortunately, this materialistic worldview is complete bullshit. It is a deception, explicitly designed to keep you working hard, earning money to spend, so that others can profit from your efforts. It is a distraction that prevents you from focusing on what you really want.Self-realization isn't about money, power, or fame. It isn't about success, or skill, or intelligence. It isn't about working yourself to death so you can buy things. It isn't about the accumulation of stuff, and by stuff, I mean experiences and achievements, as well as possessions.What you really want is to know who you are. In order to achieve that goal, you have to break free of the materialistic worldview and accept that your primary purpose here on Earth is to learn.If your life is not what you want it to be, it is because you aren't learning. You are still chasing meaningless things trying to find meaning. Until you accept this basic truth, you won't be able to learn what you really need to know.Once you do, you can accept that humans are not good at learning, unless we suffer pain and deprivation. You can accept that getting what you think you want would prevent you from achieving what you are really here to do. You accept that your true goal is so much greater than your material goals, and that all your effort is directed towards the former, even when you are focused on the latter.Once you accept that this^ is what you really want, suddenly, your life becomes exactly what you want. It has been all along, and you were too distracted to notice.
What is the best way to cope with too much stuff?
What really makes you tick - An exploration into the human soulYou describe it in a negative way, you think that you have ‘too much’. This leads me to believe that you would like to reduce the amount you have, is this correct?First you need to address why you feel the need to collect. It is not uncommon. My Dad, for instance, has a real desire to learn as much as he can, but at the same time he dislikes the amount of effort involved. He sates his desire for knowledge with the accumulation of books, he tells himself he will read them all one day, but so far this has not happened (he is now 65 and could read 3 books a day and never finish half of his stock.That explains him, but what explains you? For some it is the desire to be ready with all the tools they may need, for others it is the fear of an empty house, and thus an empty existence.Have a real think about what your collections say about you, once you get to the nub of it, you can address the challenge directly instead of with the accumulation of stuff.
White stuff in creases of labia - what is it?
I'm a 16 year old female, and over the past few years I've found this weird whitish stuff within the folds of my labia minora. It's not dry but it's certainly not of a fluid, more like.. a pastey texture? It can be just dotted all around, between folds and things, and sometimes, some gets in this bit of my clitoris. I try to clean it away everyday, but it just keep building up, and it's really annoying - especially as my labia minora as quite large and wrinkly, so it get's everywhere and is really irritating. In case it's important, I'm a virgin. Also, the whitish stuff doesn't smell. It's really worrying me because maybe it's an infection? Or perhaps my body just produces too much of something that is normal. Either way, it's going to be really embarrassing for the first time I have sex.. (I know, I know, I shouldn't be worrying about that at my age, but really if I'm gonna have this for life, I'm gonna have to face it sometimes, and I'm so embarrassed!) >.< It certainly doesn't help that I'm insecure about my large labia either (I've been on loads of websites which try to make young women more secure about this, but it doesn't help! I hear people talk about 'beef curtains' and how horrible they look, and so I know that I would be judged!). It looks disgusting. I look disgusting. Is there anything I can do? Please.. I want this to stop. I just want to be normal to some extent. (PS: It's not discharge, because I've had that before and it's completely different!)
White lint stuff deep in vagina?
You probably have a yeast infection, especially if it itches. This is NOT an STD so don't stress about that- there are many things that can cause it that are not sex related, especially taking antibiotics if you've recently been sick. It could also be normal vaginal discharge if it is sort of clear/whitish and that will change throughout the month, yes it can suck being a girl. But if you itch at all, I'd place my money on you having a yeast infection. You can get monistat cream at walgreens/walmart that will get rid of this and stop the itching.
Do you ever feel guilty for owning too much "stuff"?
Yes, I feel guilty for my material possessions. I used to own 8-tracks. I felt guilty when they made me upgrade to LPs. Then I felt even more guilty when they made me upgrade to cassette tapes. Then I felt guiltiest when they tried to make me upgrade to CDs. Now they want me to upgrade to .mp3s. WELL A MAN JUST CAN'T TAKE IT ANY MORE. So I spend all my time listening to my Vanilla Ice / Guns 'n Roses / Richard Marx mix tape that I made in 1991. I don't dare accumulate any more stuff.
How can I start getting rid of clutter and simplify my life?
Probably the most important thing is to let go of the idea that having lots of things gives security. Decide what is really important to you at this point in your life. Then it is easier to part with excess items.There are numerous ways of approaching getting rid of clutter.Some people find it easiest to plan a garage sale and go through the house and shed putting items to sell into boxes ready for the sale.Some sell surplus items and furniture onlineUnwanted goods can be donated to charity shopsSome things can be given away to people who are setting up house and in need of furniture and household goodsSome people declutter the house one drawer or shelf at a timeFurther ideas can be found at-De-Cluttering Tips For Busy Mums
What is the one unique reason you are living your life?
Travel. Needless to say, Rick, my family, my education, my job, etc. all trump "travel", but these aren't false dilemmas. Travel punctuates the year with all those things. It's part of a shift of goals in our lives. Rick and I are essentially financially independent and with some gentle prodding from me, we've really tried to stop looking at the accumulation of things as a goal, but rather the experiencing of new adventures. This doesn't mean that we won't buy new things we want, but outside of luxury cars, boats and homes, we're kind of at a point where we can afford to go and do what we want OR buy all sorts of *stuff* for our home. It's been hard to move away from the commercial accumulation of things (it's both natural, and culturally reinforced), but we're getting there. We now plan our vacations and talk about where we want to go. Instead of spending money on our birthdays (three weeks apart) or on Christmas, we take vacations. Rick starts working next year (BSN, RN) and that shifts our capacity to make decisions about where we go and what we do. The excitement for buying a thing has shifted to planning to go places together. It's our BIGGEST continuing conversation and we have it almost daily. Our goals are:One cushy "first worldy" resort vacation every January or February: 6-8 daysOne "inside the US" vacation to a city in fall and spring (NYC for one, and another city for another): 3-4 daysOne international destination vacation every July or August: 10+ days.That's what really motivates us to work hard and not give in to the temptation of spending now that which will contribute to our next destination. Rick and I alternate the "I get to pick" years. It's not that we don't discuss, but when there's even a hint of disagreement, the "I get to pick" rule comes into play. --2015-- [my year]JANUARY: Punta Cana, Dominican RepublicSPRING: San Francisco OR Universal Orlando (maybe both, depending on finances)AUGUST: LondonFALL: NYC (our favorite domestic destination)--2016-- [Rick's year]JANUARY: HawaiiSPRING: NYCSUMMER: Tokyo or Hong KongFALL: NYC--2017-- [my year]JANUARY: Cuzco, Peru or Cozumel, MexicoSPRING: San DiegoSUMMER: Istanbul FALL: NYC--2018-- [Rick's year]JANUARY: St. Maartin or Ocho RiosSPRING: New OrleansSUMMER: Paris & AmsterdamFALL: NYC
My whole life living with bad breath, ruining my life?
Hi, please i need ur help..i am professional, outgoing adventurous person with bad luck. I happened to have bad breath my whole life no matter how often i brush floss my teeth my breath always stink. Ive tried everything from removing my tonsils to extremes antibiotics nothing things to work. I have dated occasionally but eventually i stay alone due to this condition. People doesn't seem to understand how hard is to.live 24/7 with this nightmare and always made rude comments or offer me gum all the time. Maybe not with bad intentions but its really hurtful when they do that. Girls just dont want to date a person with stinky breath period. Im here just trying to meet someone (girl) with the same condition just to be friends and feel for once accepted nothing else. Im in my late 20s great job, good hearted person living in east coast of USA. If anyone out there with this condition please share it with me so i don't feel so pathetic and alone :( Thanks