Is correcting people's grammar, spelling, or pronunciation when they talk or text a good practice? Is it mannerly to correct people and go off the topic in such situations?
The original question is:Is correcting people's grammar, spelling or pronunciation when they talk or text a good practice?Answer:No. It is the same as saying to a person: "You are wrong." The only time you can safely do that is if the person has asked in advance for others to correct him (or her), or if you know the person is a learner and you are in a position to be their teacher. If you do not want to be taken as a persona non grata (an unwelcome person), do not attempt to correct other people in their speech or written work.There is a gray area in which you might be able to work without offending, as by asking the person, "Did you mean to say write, right, or rite? I'm not sure exactly which you meant. Could you please clarify?" Of course, this will only work once. Any more than that and you will be taken for an unwelcome critic.
Why do people care about using English properly?
I am sure that most people communicate adequately using colloquial English forms during most of their daily lives, but I am not sure that these forms of speaking or writing are always effective at conveying abstract or nuanced ideas. Language is a living thing that does change over time to reflect the needs and wants of the people speaking it. That, however, can serve as a two edged sword. If people don't have the urge to speak to each other about much that is intellectually deep, challenging, or subtle, then the way they communicate will often reflect the utility of their exchanges. (Text-Messaging to your friends about your pizza topping choices, would be an example.) I guess I'm saying that language can quite possibly devolve as well as evolve. Is it? Therein dwells the real issue here. There is considerable evidence for a growing poverty of human exchanges within our society. Whatever your opinion about whether English usage is in decline or just changing, there definitely is a need for at least somewhat elevated language in college papers, literature, and the law. These are categories of communication that can require much nuance, coloration, and precision. So, sometimes a package of 7 crayons is adequate and other times 64 colors is absolutely required. This is not to argue for big words over small or rigorous adherence to proper grammar for each and every occasion, only that vocabulary and grammar are tools of communication, not arbitrary forms. If you need the big crayon box then make sure you have it.Of course, what is untrue is in the contention in the question above that "most people" want English to be used in its 'proper' form. Quite simply, most people ,could care less', which, in itself, is a colloquial cliche that is commonly understood to mean something that is the opposite from what it states. The intended meaning gets through and that is what is important.
What are a few reasons some people dislike INFJs?
I am ENTP. Both my mother and my wife are INFJs (don’t even start on the psychology of that ;).It's harsh to say but I don't think people do dislike INFJs - it's just that other people are not as deep as INFJs and you overthink stuff. Don't mistake lack of depth for dislike.Most people really do not think in the same way you do - they don't see the needs of others and they are a lot less aware of their emotional surroundings.Where ENTPs are lighting rods for ideas and logical connections - INFJs are lighting rods for emotions and the needs of others.This means we both see things that others don't and are very willing to confront things other people don't like to talk about - ENTPs logically (e.g. Machiavell) - INFJs emotionally.Your conversation can take people to places they are trying to ignore - you cannot stick your head in the sand when there is an ENTP or INFJ talking to you.ENTPs sort of have the emotional intelligence (EQ) of a brick - we understand but don't care - so we keep going regardless of upsetting people.For INFJs your EQ is through the roof and you feel this as people disliking you - leading you to withdraw and be stand-off-ish with all but a few select people. Other people then view this as being a bit odd and don't interact and so on…Hang around with ENTPs, INTPs, INTJs and other diplomats (NFs). This lot of misfits, intuitive and feelers all get deep conversation - it's just you are restricting yourself to about 15% of folks. And if you are depressed find someone who needs your help / counselling and improve their life - it's what you were born to do.
Why do people think fire signs aren't intelligent?
Because a lot of them are showy and don't openly display their intelligence as well as they display their arrogance and social energy. I'm a Leo, I've never failed a subject in my life. I'm not gloating either, but I'm smart, I'm not being conceited but I just am. And my IQ is 148 out of 150. I mean, come on. Leos have a natural inclination in Philosophy. A lot of people don't care about looking into things like that because they initially read that they also have a habit of being full of themselves then get "Leos are annoying" stamped on their brain. Every Sagittarius I've ever met has been intelligent in some sort of way. They always seem to learn things so quickly. A lot of my Aries friends really love discussion and debate. And they're very good at what I call "disagreeing for the sake of disagreeing" more commonly known as playing Devil's advocate. In my opinion, this is intelligence and a skill. They can break down someones belief system just to do it. Anyhow, I agree with you. I've met stupid fire signs, of course, I've also met stupid earth, water and air signs. And I think it's the stereotype that if you're louder and more popular, you're dumb. A.K.A; fire signs. And if you prefer being alone and enjoying you're own company, you're smart. A.K.A; earth. Maybe water. Anyone with sense knows this isn't true. Unfortunately there are a lot of people who lack sense. What can you do though?
Writers: Are you a grammar/spelling freak in real life as well as in your writing?
Dax, you would laugh if you ever saw inside my head when I'm at work! Okay, that sounded way crazier than I intended. But, I work in a place where I get emails from real estate agents all the time, and half of them can't even write a proper sentence in English. It's all I can do to not email them back a list of mistakes. I think I hate it because it's NOT THAT HARD! I mean really, the rules are simple. We learn them in elementary school for a reason. BQ: Word misuse, I'd say. You're = your, we're = were... etc. Again, it's not hard. Use the ''re' version if you're actually saying, 'you are or we are'. See what I mean?
Is it rude to insist people pronounce your name right each time they say it? I'm an Indian student who recently came to America, and people often mispronounce my name. Do people feel I'm being pretentious/rude?
This question reminds me of this meme,to answer your question, I would say depends who you are talking to.My name is Ameya (Um-ae-y) 9 out of 10 times when I introduce myself, people reply, "Hello Amir..."Initially, I found it very offensive but over the years I have learnt to let go.Having said that, where it matters I do correct others, for example, if a colleague at work mispronounces my name I correct him/her just because I have to deal with them almost on a daily basis as opposed to the barista at Starbucks who, no matter how i say my name, will always get it wrong. I don't spend my energy correcting the barista as i know my interaction is limited to some seconds.I also wanted to share an anecdote related to Indian names. While working as a Research Assistant at the Dean's office of my business school, I had access to the open TA positions and other student jobs. My roommate "Rudraksh" (Roo-draak-sh) was looking for student jobs and had asked me as well as a thousand others to let him know if we came across any openings.One morning, the office admin desperately came to my desk and frantically mentioned that a certain professor needs a TA right now and if knew anyone.I had my roommate's resume on file, so I capitalized on the opportunity and printed that resume for her. Just reading the first line, she had difficulty pronouncing the name even after I enunciated for her. She candidly mentioned that there is no way the professor would be able to say this name having expected to work closely with the TA. I realized that my roommate was on the verge of losing the battle, so I quickly told her that he goes by his last name: (4 letter word) much easier to pronounce. The professor really liked him once he was called for an interview and he got the TA.So the moral of the story is, "It Depends".
When we decide to insult or put others down for grammar, spelling and wording on this site,?
this is one of the lowest kinds of peopel on here to me, the kind that seem to act like they are so much better than other people so much so they actualyl believe they have the right to go around correcting,insulting,mocking,degrading, condescending other people for innane reasons how arrogant and narcisistic a person has to be to do that, to think they have the right to do that the kind that doing this only show their own psychological weaknesses even more than it does the typing/spelling errors of those they think they are showing up, and in the end, they onyl show themselves up, it usualyl seems they are looking for attention to be focused on others negatives, so their own are not seen or noticed its a shame for them really, but, ehe, if they want to advertise their vulnerabilites so obviously, its up to them additional some of these excuses are just laughable really, its quite sad that soemone feels the need to not only do that in the first place, but then actually defend their doing it with 'logical' 'rational' reasons rather than, just admit they are being mean for whatever reason to actually rationalise rudeness and meanness is only a sign of how bad soceity is getting because peopel on here think they can act that way and then actually rationalise it and 'excuse ' it