Discipline 6 year old?
I wouldn't bribe him for good behavior. If there is something he realy likes. A favorite toy, or TV show etc. Take it away. Show him there are consequences to bad behavior. But the hardest thing you need to find out, is why he is mis-behaving. Has something dramatically changed in his life? That may answer a lot of questions
How to discipline a six years old boy?
My Son always defy me, when I get angry he doesn't respect me, unless he sees me holding somethingm but I dont want to spank him all the time, I tried all the tactics in disciplining, he even ask why Im his mother, its so frustrating, I have a 9 month old boy, im always with them 24/7, i just dont know how to handle this situation, when he was a toddler, he always see us fighting(my husband and me) I think its the result of us fighting, Im so worried that he will turn out to be a menace to the society, but he is a lvable boy, he always looks for me when goes to sleep, and he tells me that he loves me, but I dont understand why sometimes he is so bad, please help me,My husband doesnt know how to discipline, he just shout and say something mean to my son...i will always tell my son "...to never follow the things his father do" I dont want him to grow up like his father...my marriage is falling apart already...
Spanking, discipline, and control?
I am not a parent myself but coming from the last generation to get spanked. As an observation a couple gernerations down from me are millions of kids who do not obey their parents and get everything they want. I see tantrums in Wal-Mart, I have watched my peers attack eachother in schools, I have even been present at school when one pulled a gun. My girlfriend babysits for the child of some rich parents that never discipline their child and she always aims for what she wants, which causes problems since my girlfriend won't put up with it. Anyway, to the point. Now no one is allowed to spank their kids and Dr. Spock sais it will destroy their fragile personalities... Dr. Spocks son committed suicide. Their is no form of logical discipline and touching your kid in public will get them taken away. Personally I think that this generation is out of control. I'm not saying we should rule them since "Autocracy breeds rebellion".
Need help in dealing with ADHD 5yr old?
My friend has a 5yr old daughter on ADHD medication but she is still insanely rude and violent. Her daughter will attack her and claw at her neck, spit on her and say things like I hate you and why don't you leave. My friend has tried everything to deal with her daughter but it just ends up worse. Her daughter is currently going to therapy but since my friend is not her biological mother, she cannot go. Her husband takes the girl instead. The husband will lie to the doctor about their problems and make the girl seem out to be fine but I have seen her when she comes home from school and she is violent. My friend and her husband are not bad people, she disciplines the girl but her husband doesn't really. She will lock the girl in her room but the girl will bang on the door enough to leave small dents in it and she will pick up her furniture and throw it. What can I do to help her? Are there any ways that she can deal with her daughter's outbursts in an effective manner?
How could I prevent my 6 year old son from hitting his older sisters when they tease him? I already told him to never hurt a girl.
Probably the easiest thing to do would be to tell his sisters to stop teasing him.Yes, it's important to teach your son not to hit girls. It's also important to teach your son not to hit anyone, unless he feels physically threatened. But he's six years old. He's still learning impulse control.It's equally important that you teach your older daughters that they shouldn't be teasing their brother. Most likely, they're doing because they know it’ll provoke a violent reaction — little brother in trouble, they walk away scot-free.Also, I'm looking at the phrasing “hit back”, and I don't know if that means he’s hitting first or they’re hitting first. If they’re hitting first and not getting in trouble for it — why? Because they're girls and he's a boy, so it's okay? That's a double standard that really bugs me. (If I’m to read it that they tease with words, and he responds with hitting, then of course the double standard of “boys can't hit girls but girls can hit boys” doesn't apply here.)Tell your daughters to knock it off and punish them if they don't obey. Show your son that actions have consequences — not just for him, but for his sisters as well.
Ex-wife uses hot sauce in the mouth to discipline. Should I address this?
My 7 year old daughter (I also have a 9 year old son) has told me on numerous occasions in casual conversation that her mother (my ex-wife who I divorced 6 years ago) uses "hot sauce" in the kids mouths to discipline them when they talk back and spanks them. I once called CPS on my ex when I found out that she smacked my daughter in the face when she was three years old and sitting on the toilet and talking back. She knocked her off the toilet because she hither so hard and my daughter hit her face on the side of the tub. CPS ended up saying that she was "disciplining" her and that they found no signs of abuse. My ex-wife is pretty stern and the children are well-behaved, however I personally feel that putting tabasco sauce in my kids mouths is a bit extreme. And while I used to think that spanking was necessary discipline on occasion but now I feel it's a bit barbaric. I've tried to address this issue with my ex in the past, however conversations go nowhere with her. She doesn't like me at all, ever since the divorce, and she just says "you have no idea what goes on at our house." Yet my daughter and son both have told me about this "hot sauce" discipline approach numerous times. Would you bring it up again or do you think it's no big deal?
My 15-year-old son doesn't remember his school schedule and thinks it's normal. Is it right?
Well I’m 17 so I do feel like I’m qualified to answer. This is my week’s scheduleEvery box is one class and the number represents the room. Now you’re telling me you want me to memorize all of that? Sure if that was the only thing I had to know then it might be possible. But remember we students aren’t going off some routine. Every single day is filled with new info you have to store and work with. That’s hard to do even without all the other social pressure and puberty’s effects. If he doesn’t remember and the schedule doesn’t change then print each week out and use them as calendars if you have the option to do so. That way you can also write notes and he’ll be able to cross out every day whenever he’s done. Trust me knowing there’s only one day left until the weekend gets so much better when you have some physical proof.
My 12-year-old son is not interested in studies, nor is he seriously into any sports or other hobbies/activities. He comes out bad in his exams and sits around playing video games or watching TV the entire time. Is it too early to worry about this or is there something that can be done?
Children having such behaviour is not the result of some instantaneous mood swing. In my view it started long time back when we took for granted few things in our home or with the kind of relationship we have with a child.Over pampering is definitely one of the most important behaviour we parents have which spoils our children and then we blame our children for non-performance.In such scenario what best can be is to remove the idiot box from the house for few years. When there will be no TV, the child will have the urge to play games on cell phones. Stop that. Put a lock on phones.I too have faced such problem with my kids, and with myself too in my young age. No socialising, no going out, no friends, jut watched TV for hours and hours and I faced the consequences.Please interact with your kids a lot. Be strict practically wherever possible. Kids need love and interaction. You just cannot leave a child on themselves. Go out with them as much as possible. If not much, go for long walk daily and take your kids with you. Talk regularly while walking. Let them run. Let them play. Give them work to do. Doesn't matter if they have to clean the house. They'll learn to do their things by themselves.Discipline, love, interaction, but definitely NO OVER PAMPERING.All the best!