My dad makes me depressed, what should I do about it?
You believe that your dad is a toxic parent and feel less stressed out whenever he is away. Your belief is obviously a result of several years' interaction with him. Whenever there is a relationship problem, there are three factors which play a role: 1. Your own personality. 2. Your dad's personality. 3. The dynamics of your interaction with him. The relationship becomes toxic when one or more of the above have problems. By concluding that your dad is toxic solves only a part of the problem. Since you are part of the problem, it is difficult to think out of the box and solve it effectively. So, consult a therapist or counselor and give specifics of your relationship with your father. The therapist is likely to give you very good insights which you can use to convince your dad to also enter into therapy. Take the guidance of your therapist to decide whether to bring your dad into therapy.
I think im depressed, im 14 ?
Jeez Rebecca! Of course you're feeling down and moody. Staying in bed and listening to music instead of being with your family is incredibly normal for a 14 year old, so no problem there. Being expected to do all the housework, do your schoolwork, and worry about your family and all their major health issues is too much for one kid to handle. At least one of the adults in your family should be considering how much you have to worry about and do, but it doesn't seem like anybody is. That was an unfair and dumb assumption your father made, of course you've worried about your mother dying. He's taking all his stress out on you. Why? Because it's easy to take your stress out on a kid. They blame themselves and absorb all the criticism, so it's very satisfying to blame them. You shouldn't be yelled at. You shouldn't be accused of not caring about all these adults who are falling apart on you. You've already been shouted at so of course you're afraid they will shout more. Something no adult in your life is recognizing is that your feelings count and they're important. Do you have a school counselor? I don't know if they promise to keep things confidential. Someone at your place of worship? If you don't want your parents to know, it has to be free. School and place of worship are the only free places I know of. Hang in there Rebecca. All the adults in your family are wrecks right now, but you don't have to be.
Why does my dad make fun of me about serious issues?
Let's face it. I have a lot of problems. Mentally and physically. I've been diagnosed with serious clinical major depression, I'm a little claustrophobic (in the sense of being in a room crowded with people, not stuck in a box), I have anxiety issues (as a result from my depression), I faint a lot from dehydration (I have a water holding issue in my body) and anemia, and I have issues with my periods (they're very irregular). I'm a little insecure about these (as would anyone, right?) but my Father loves to make fun of them. Like, seriously make fun of. For instance, I'll tell my mom the problems I have with my job (my server alley at Denny's is VERY crowded all the time) and my mom will ask me why and what's wrong and my dad will say in a sarcastic tone "cause there's too many people" like I'm just being a whiney ***** or something and I'm faking it. I'm not. And it hurts that he thinks that. But then when I start crying (I cry VERY easy. I hate it) he starts making fun of that too by either mimicking me, or complaining about it like "yah, go and cry". Why does he taunt and harrass me so much? It makes me feel awful. He used to make fun of me while I was gone at a treatment center for my depression and suicidal thoughts, which I later found out about from my brother.
How can i help my depressed dad feel loved again?
My dad is always depressed. He takes everything personaly and he can never forgive people. I want him to feel loved again. Any suggestions?? He stays depressed becuase of money issues in the family. He says he is always paying bills and will never catch up. Any ways to help him out??
My whole family is depressed and suicidal? (please read the whole thing)?
Please help me. I don't want to live with my family anymore. I don't want to make this too long, but I'll briefly describe what my family is like. But please read this! My dad is very depressed. He sleeps most of the day except when he works. When I ride in the car with him, he drives like a maniac and says he does it to relieve his stress. He takes anti-anxiety medicine. But most of all, he is always in a terrible mood. It's not just like that, but he literally never smiles and is always frowning and cursing and yelling. Right now I live alone with him just for the summer. My parents are getting divorced. He is just always unhappy, a perfectionist, and also has ideas on killing himself. My mom is ill. She can't sleep and has very bad insomnia. She just can't tolerate things anymore. If disturbed even slightly, she will have a nervous breakdown. She will sit on the floor crying and sobbing and say she wants to end her life. She forgets things, almost everything. She tells me every day that she prays to God that she hopes to get cancer and die. She also can't stand up for herself, especially around my brother, which I'll describe later. But mainly, my mom is so stressed from my dad not paying child support and not supporting her because she has financial problems. And she is stressed from both me and my brother's problems. And my brother has a lot of behavioral problems. He is violent and threatens to hurt other people, especially me. He has already hurt me before. He has not respect for his parents, talks back, and is the boss of my mom. He controls my mom and makes her afraid of him. And me, well I have a lot of problems too. I've been in therapy since I was 11 and now I'm 16. I have been hospitalized 5 times for various reasons. What should I do? I don't want to live with my family anymore but have no where to go..