My pug has nightmares and attacks at night when we are sleeping!?
My little pug is 16 months old and she is the sweetest thing during the day. However, at about 6 months she started attacking us while we are sleeping. It's quite scary, she totally freaks out and jumps on us and bites & scatches pretty hard. Sometimes we are able to get her off from us before she does any damage, but other times we are toolate and I am accumulating quite a bit of scars from her. I know she really does not mean to do it, because once she really wakes up she is over it and falls back asleep. When she attacks I just hold her tight for a few seconds until she calms down. What is wrong with her? Would the only remedy be to medicate her, and with what? I have taken her to the vet and they don't really know what to do. Also, I don't want to put her in a crate. She hates it and she loves sleeping in bed with me and my bf. I would feel so guilty having her sleep by herself!
Night owl-ism. Is it really that hard to accept?
I am a night owl. I've been this way since middle school. The problem is that my family and friends don't seem to get that it's part of who I am. My grandparents often play a guilt trip on me when the discussion of my sleep habits come up. We used to fight all the time when I lived with them for 20 years. My mother thought I was just being lazy and would often wake me up three hours after I had fallen asleep to try to get me on a 'normal' sleeping schedule. My friends always forget that I wake up way later and prefer to do things in the late afternoon or evening, then wonder why I have stayed up the whole night when they plan a 10 am get together. Even my boyfriend, whom I have known for close to a year doesn't seem to believe me. When I meet people for the first time that I know I will be connecting with, I make sure they know that I am a night owl and rarely do things before 3pm. The only person who gets it is my assistant director at work who refuses to schedule me for the morning shift without a months advance notice, or definate permission from me before hand...of course, she works the night shift, so there's sympathy right there. Why do people think that night owls are just plain lazy? Why don't they accept us and take a moment to note that we just have different sleeping patterns that IS a life-long disorder? Any suggestions on how I can make them understand better?
Family won't let me sleep. I don't know what to do.?
Don't use sleeping pills. They are not designed to overcome the problems in your noise levels. You have 3 alternatives, and ONE of them is BOUND to work: (1) Look for a friend or a relative who has an spare bedroom, or even a couch, or a corner where you can tuck a sleeping bag. See if you can sleep somewhere else. Look HARD for this. (2) If you cannot find any alternative place to sleep, go to Social Services and explain your dilemma. (3) YOU change YOUR schedule. When you get home from school, the house is quiet .. brother doesn't get home until midnight, so if you get home from school and go right to bed, you will get 8 hours of sleep before he comes home. Then you still have to try to find a place to study .. or you have to tune out outside sounds, so that you can study. Solutions in life do not fall into our lap. And only rarely do they happen because we get someone ELSE to change what THEY are doing. You have to take an active part in creating your own solutions, and usually that means that it is YOUR effort and YOUR adjustment to make things work. This is so in family, in marriage, in school, in health, and in work. In fact, in all areas of life. That you are the one who has to figure out what to change and how to change yourself, so that it works for you. One suggestion. If stress levels are giving you migraine headaches, learn how to deal with stress. Most psychologists and doctors are not recommending Vipassana Buddhist meditation as a stress reliever. And regular exercise will help you reduce your stress levels, as well as help you relax and feel happier. Whether or not YOU are stressed depends almost 100% on what YOU are telling yourself about what's happening. Really, you have to stop expecting others to make your life work. This is not how life works. Yes, you are in a situation that is tougher than many people have. But there are those who are in even worse situations, and they make it work. You get straight A's . .you are not stupid. You can figure out how to meet your needs in this situation. Don't play "victim" or your life will go down the tubes.
Have you ever been guilted into accepting a date? How did that work out?
Bordered on stalking!? Temple, I watch you sleep every night from the foot of your bed. If that's not stalking, then I guess I have to try harder... Oh wait! You were talking about a DIFFERENT man. My bad. Want me to kill him for you? I'm just kidding! But seriously, get him to the park. I'll be 200 yards out with my .308. If you want to that is... no pressure. But, no I have never been guilted into a date. Nor have I guilted anyone into a date. I don't need to.
Is it wise to study the whole night before an exam?
I request everyone…not to try thisI myself experienced this kind of situation ..where I was writing my 12 th final exams ..it was March 19 ,2014 and I had to write my chemistry exam the next day ..I spent my whole evng wit my family ,chatting wit dem as though my exams were done !But it was 10 pm Wen I saw my watch so i rushed to my study- room and started to study.the time was 12 am ..the next day!! but still I could complete 2 chapters overallSo I decided to study whole night where I could complete Max of 7–8 chapters by 4am ..later my dad came from his room telling me to sleep else it would be difficult for me to write my exams ..but I was tensed about my subject than my sleep at that time ..so I continued to do the same Wat I was doing ..Atlast it was 6 am ..and I had to leave my books and get ready to write my exams ..so I finished all my works ,went to college wit my hall- ticket and then I opened the first page of my notes ..I could not imagine myself in that position ..u may think why ? ..the answer is I could not remember the answer of my first question itself ..later I started reading once again ..but realized dat nothing was in my head ..I was angry on myself ,,,,I scolded all the words I could possibly ..I felt very bad for not studying though I had almost 20 days to studyBut finally I wrote exams ..but the result was bad ..u know Wat ..”I FAILED”I could not show my face to my parents ..I had broke their dreams .I had all the guilt in meBut never gave -up …my parents didn't discourage me for my results instead they encouraged and helped in writing my supplementary exams ..where I could score 70 out of 80 ..which was my highest marks ..So I suggest last minute preparations all are always bad ..you will b in a state that you are learning everything but they won't fetch you anything the real fact is ur oly reading and nothing is going to head !!So always start from the first day ..and you will surely see ur best results and evn you can find a change in the results which u were getting in the past by last minute preparations and the present one which s done from the initial day ..Thanks for reading !!
Tell me about a time you felt guilty, how did you deal with it?
I focused on something else until the feeling went away.
I am 17 years old boy. I am worried about my future. Each day I sleep with the guilt of not making my day productive but the next day I waste it again. I am getting depressed now. What should I do?
Firstly, do not worry. Secondly, be happy that you do realize that you are are not putting efforts in the right directions. This realization is the stepping stone to a brighter future.But, that is only possible when there is some action from your end. Procrastination is very human. You have to overcome this hurdle and it is not difficult too. Do try the following method -Identify three to four goals you want to achieve. For example, they could be:Get better gradesLearn swimmingPractice guitarThen make a time table for everyday of the week, where in the time period you are free, you have atleast two slots for the two goals you want to achieve. Example: You could attend swimming classes in the mornings before you are off to school/college, and once you are back you give equal time to studies (for better grades) and practicing guitar, before you hit the bed.If this becomes a habit, then there's no stopping you. You could later accommodate more goals or get rid of those that no longer matter.To keep yourself motivated along the way, I suggest you put up a chart in your room with 3 calendar months on it. And everyday when you complete one item of your timetable, mark it off the calendar. This way you can track your progress and motivate yourself to achieve more.