HELP :( sad about leaving home for college!?
It sounds like you're very close with your family, and that's great! And because you guys are really close, that also means that they'll always be there for you, no matter how you are. At this age, I can relate, everything feels like the end of the world. But it's not, it's the beginning. It's the beginning of your new life, a chance to see if you can use everything your parents taught you and your family. Trust me, nothing feels worse than to be homesick, but eventually, you know, you have to go live life. I mean, your parents went out and learned to be independent, and fall in love and have you and your family. Who knows what could happen? Try to view it as an adventure, not dreading that you'll never see them again. When I visit my godparents and then I have to leave, I feel like everything is just stripped away from me, and it's heartbreaking. But what helps me, is to think of it like you're going on a vacation. You'll be back! (I hope this wasn't too cheesy)
Parent's marriage falling apart...advice?
My parents went through the same thing. When i was younger (16) mine fussed and fought so much, sad to say i was glad they separated it was just that bad. I may have been wrong but that was the way i felt back then. In court i think the age is 14/15 where the child can decide which parent he or she can go live with, providing that parent can take care of that child..... With that being said I myself would really consider the parent that will look out for my spiritual needs FIRST.. will they take me to the hall, will they make sure i get my lessons (school, and the meetings). Not just Let me do what i wanted. Also the one that will take care of my emotional and physical needs. So just consider that... I like the sitting them down yourself to talk with them suggestion someone posted above me and tell them to get counsel and remember the reasons they got married in the first place and to try it out for six months. Unless infidelity is involved its up to the innocent mate, to stay or separate..... You are going to Hurt Rachel, a matter of fact hurt alot if this dont work out. But do your part as a child, talk to them, beg them if you have to. But in the most negative circumstance of this situation; even though its gonna hurt in this process my advice to you is to be STRONG. This is something that goes on in 50% of married people. If in these last days family members let Satan get one crack in the 3 fold cord the Battle is even tougher. I hope im not giving you bad advice if you feel that way disregard what i say, but i do feel youre gonna have to be strong. And promise yourself that when you grow up and get married you will do everything in your power , not to let Satan come between you and your marriage. (Matt 19:6). Like I say Im really hoping that they work things out , but if for some unreasonable way that it do not. Like i say, Its gonna hurt you and your siblings, but you must be strong for each other and yet you will LIVE through this terrible crisis. Our prayers are with you little sis.
Im very forgetful lately...why?
There could be a number of possible causes - Are you preoccupied with many things going on in your life? Are you stressed out about something? Has your diet changed and could you be missing out on some key nutrients - The B vitamins in particular (thymine, riboflavin, niacin.) Are you getting enough sleep each night? Consider what has changed from two months ago. Take a multivitamin; re-examine what you can do to take a load off of your daily schedule; make it appoint to consciously consider your behavior and surroundings so that you are less likely to forget things.
How do I deal with parents who fight all the time? My parents argue over trivial things. Mom has a temper, blames people, and controls everyone. She compares us with others, saying how good they are. Dad is too stubborn to apologize, and has an ego.
There is nothing you can do about your parents' fighting. Believe me. I spent years wondering what I could do.The only thing that you can do is get some space from it. It is not likely that their relationship is going to change unless they decide to change it. It's not up to you or your siblings to change them and trying will just make it all the harder for you to disengage from this very toxic dynamic in your family.It's time to grow more independent of your family and seek more sane and peaceful relationships for your own life. These dynamics have a way of creeping up into your own relationships simply because you have been in the midst of them for years. You need to know that and begin to become as conscious as you can about thinking about and having good communication in your life.Decide how you would like to proceed in creating a different energy in your life from the one that your parents have created. Get some help for this. Over time, you will create your own set of relationships that are based on healthier, more loving values. If that becomes your goal, you will begin to beat the stress and move forward in a new direction. Just don't spend your life getting stuck in their dynamic- unless you want to create such drama in your own life.
At what point did you realize no one cares about you?
I thought everyone around me was with me only for who I was. But I was hit hard with the reality only at the end of my college life.I always kept myself open to anybody and everybody. I try to help others with their problems.I thought people really liked being around me. Only later I found out that everyone used me and no one was ever real to me.All the people you meet at the age between 18–25 are fake. Only those who are with you from the childhood will be always there for you.In such a competitive and selfish environment, everyone will try hard to pull you down for their own well being. I learnt it the hard way.No phone calls.There was no messages in the everbusy WhatsApp group,it was not even a week after the final exams of my college had ended. Everyone bid farewell and exchanged good byes. Everyone parted their own ways.Things were entirely different back during the beginning. The groups were buzzing. No day will end without a phone call from the so called BFFs. During college days I was the go-to boy for everyone. Need notes?? contact me. Need new movies??contact me. Group studies?? Contact me. Need money?? Contact me. I always tried to help others within my capacity. I am like the clown who people enjoys during performance but later gives a damn. I have only faced betrayal from them.Not even a single person has messaged me since then.I thought they cared for me. But they really used me.The friendship you think which will continue till the end of your lives will end along with your college life.Everyone has their own life to look after. No one will be ready to spend time for you. Everyone will be busy when you need them.No one ever checked on me about my well being. Only if they need anything, they will message me.Only at this point,I learnt that no one really cared about me,but rather faked their feelings.So never believe anybody other than parents in your life. Only they care for you truly from their heart. The rest are like passing clouds.The worst thing in life is not ending up alone.But ending up with people who make you feel alone.
I feel so worthless lately, someone help me?
Lately I've been feeling like everything I do is totally worth nothing and I'm a burden to most people I know. I've been getting upset lately about more things and it's starting to weigh on me. I feel like everything I do I'm just going out and walking around doing things to embarrass myself. I feel really stupid and ugly and mediocre or even terrible at things I love to do (dance, music, writing, etc.) and people are just better, and I'll never be better or as good as them, and that feels crappy. I feel like I'm sort of just a big joke because I'm so ugly and stupid and washed-up and talentless. I really hate feeling like that, because I have no confidence. I haven't had the best grades and I'm a junior, and otherwise I've been kind of stressed about things, and my hair has been falling out. I just feel like such a freak show. Can someone help?
HELP PLEASE!!!! My mom yells at me sometimes... but I'm afraid to yell back...?
fear takes the best of us. it might be good that she doens't forget easily. just get enough courage to finally yell at her. all she's doing is pushing everyone away from her. tell her like it is. don't worry if you think it's mean or if it's too harsh. she has to know the truth. then maybe she can sit on it and think of what she's done. maybe it'll make her realize. tll her how it is tough with bills and everything but that doesn't give her the right to take a bad day out on you or your dad when all you guys do is try to be there for her. tell her that all she does is complain and yell about everything, makes big deals out of nothing, and hold grudges and is immature instead of thinking what she should do. tell her she's being immature and isn't a good role model for you because what she's doing. tell her that all she's doing is pushing you away and your dad away that eventually it could lead to a divorce and distance between you (even if it's not 100% true, it's still good to try to scare her to prove a point). tell her that all she's doing is hurting everyone she says she loves and if she loved you guys as much as she said you did then she wouldn't ***** for every little thing. tell her that the world doesn't revolve around her and that she needs to get over herself because she accuses you of disrespecting her for the smallest thing thus showing that she doesn't know the meaning of disrespect. and for her doing all that that it is disrespectful to you and your dad. it's actually very easy to pick things out from someone that doesn't know what they do. it should come naturally to you. all you have to do is finally take that 1st leap. and if it keeps happening and you keep exploding back on her, then you'll soon see that she'll gain more tolerance and start to learn how to forget if she wants things to work out. well, hopefully. but you'll never know unless you try.