Jealous Of My Friend Getting Loads Of Attention

Why do guys always pay more attention to my friends than me and make me feel invisible?

Indeed why. There are a few reasons possible, why this could be happening.The reason may be that you are very pretty. Beautiful people are used to get all the attention. No judging, it’s not their fault it’s how human beings function. Ever since they are kids, they will profit from the halo effect (assumption that beautiful = good, talented, great etc.) and therfore learn that their looks is all they have to offer. This will make them incredibly dependend on validation. The problem is that most guys are afraid to approach a beautiful women (unless they are drunk), because they fear she is out of their league, and prefer to approach her not as beautiful friends. By doing that they are not only withholding the much needed validation and making you very insecure, but also making you feel invisible, because you suddenly aren’t the center of attention anymore. If you want to remedy this, just join in in the conversation, don’t expect others to come to you. By being more accessible you will get more attention.You feel uncomfortable in your skin. There can be a lot of reasons that make you feel this way and unfortunately for you other people can instinctively tell and thus prefer to talk to your friends. Which in turn will make you feel even more unfomfortable, which will block you to join in in the conversation or show your potential, and thus make you appear stand offish. Work on your confidence. Find an answer to the question why this guy should approach you. This will help you to locate your positive attributes, and if you repeat them loud in front of the mirror every day, you will get more confident in no time.You are more of an introvert or shy, and it feels like a chore going out and meeting people. In this case, you probably know that this is the reason for the lack of attention. If you would like to overcome this there are some tricks that may help you to, just know that they will usually not fundamentally change your personality.I hope this helps.Thanks for the request

Why do I get jealous when my best friend talks to another girl?

You and your bestie go way back and this new girl is just new.Jealousy comes from insecurity. You’re feeling insecure about the possibility of loosing your bestie, and BELIEVE ME, that’s exactly what will happen if you let this feeling take hold.You stared at your phone all night, why, were you protesting? Trying to get attention? Or were you genuinely left out? Its awkward when you meet a new person for the first time but you gotta make an effort to include this girl if she’s going to be a part of your friend’s life.Feel secure, you have a good friendship, you’re sharing your friend more now, it happens. Become part of this group. You may really click with this girl if you give her the chance. If not, you may be cast aside.

My boyfriend has a lot of female friends. They text him as often as I do, and it makes me jealous. They even send him selfies and want him to send selfies back. It feels like they're waiting for us to break up. How do I let go of this frustration?

In a way, this is completely normal and a scenario that happens all the time. As a guy, I can attest to the fact that, regarding attention from women, "when it rains, it pours." Basically, whenever I've been in a relationship, a ton of other women come out of the woodwork all of a sudden, and are flirtatious with me. This causes a point of friction with my girlfriend, who hates the "competition". I'll tell you a version of what I tell my girl.They aren't popping up because I woke up today and suddenly found myself richer and hotter; they only want me now because they see that someone else has me. People want what they can't have, this seemingly goes double for attraction. Any smart man understands this, and doesn't let it phase him. Moreover, being in a relationship must mean that I'm dateable and date-worthy - that is, someone finds me attractive, thus I must be! So, my social "stock" (for lack of a better term) goes up, raising my perceived "value," which raises demand even further (which raises my value even more, and on and on).What does all this nonsense mean for you? That as a smart "investor," you picked a winning stock early on, and are reaping the rewards. Does Warren Buffet get jealous when he makes a stock pick, and everyone and their dog tries to buy in as well? No, he kicks back, satisfied with his investing acumen, and (in my mind's eye) says "suck it bandwagoners!" As should you: you made a good pick, and now everyone else is trying to say "ooh I want in too!" But he's yours, and you should be a little smug instead of jealous. Confidence in your boyfriend and his fidelity is key. If you act neurotic and jealous, he'll either a) eventually get frustrated and wonder why you're so insecure (ie are you worried he'll find someone better? maybe he should?); or b) understand your insecurity, and leverage it to get his way. Either option isn't good, to put it mildly. So outflank his friends, be confident because it's sexy and self-assuredness is self-perpetuating. (It's a fine balance between arrogance and confidence, so be mindful!) His friends will smell you being the confident alpha, and know that your bond is unshakeable by those who occupy the cheap seats in the stadium. And remember: just as much as you picked him, HE picked YOU as well - not any of those other girls! So shoulders back, chest out, and eyes up…you're the alpha in the room, and never forget it.