Lazy husband won't get a job and I'm 8m pregnant?
I have a 3 year old son from a previous relationship and I have him watch him while I work (online) and although he usually does a good job my husband will expect and demand that not only I pay for all the bills, gas, etc, but also purchase his cigarettes and "spice" (spice is a legal alternative to marijuana that causes serious addiction, paranoia, mood swings, etc. (very toxic to your mind and body.) He smokes around $40-$50/week in spice and requires a pack of cigarettes every two days. He threatens that if I do not buy him his cigarettes and spice that he won't be willing to care for my son while I work and says that "it'll be a bad day" if I don't because of the irritabilty that withdrawals from the two cause. I honestly just want my husband to get a job so my toddler can play with other kids in a REAL daycare and not just watch tv and play with the same blocks every day (seems to be the only game the two play), but my husband spends most of his day online creating graphics in photoshop and on facebook. To add to it I am 8 months pregnant, and my husband has not had a job for my entire pregnancy. He knows that I have no money saved. I shouldn't have to pay for the kids, myself, my husband, and a daycare BY MSELF. I can't afford both my husband's expecnses and daycare so I don't know how to make this stop without kicking him out right before the babies born. Please help, how do I make him get a job or what should I do until he gets one?
Why is it a man's job to protect women like a nanny babysitting kids?
Are women that dumb? Can't they figure out things their own? They have all privileges in the world and favoring laws yet asking for safety from men. Women can get any jobs they want if they are smart enough and get paid same as men. Women are you such a burden for men?
I think my husband is messing around with our babysitter?
She's very attractive and "willing" if you get my drift. I work two jobs. He's a stay at home dad but has insisted on getting "help" for the summer. He wants to take her on vacation with us next week but the thing is - the kids are staying at his mother's. What should I do?
Husband=Glorified Babysitter...Anyone feel the same?
When i read this, I almost thought you were talking about me! :) I have a 6 month old son as well, and my boyfriend is the exact same way. He is an amazing father, when he WANTS to be! I know he works a full time job, I only work part time, but even on the weekends it's like he can pick and choose when he wants to help out. Sometimes I almost feel like I have to thank him when he gives me a day off, and he always gets mad when I do that cuz he will say, I'm his father don't thank me its my job! But really its only his job when he feels like it! Honestly I think it is just men! Although it was hard for me to get used to it because my dad is an amazing father and he was always around for everything, him and my mom were a team! (They had to be with 4 kids!) It really annoyed me in the beginning because I was so exhausted! But now that our son is sleeping through the night I don't mind as much. I would just like a break sometime to take a nap, go shopping, or just clean up the house! I'm glad there is someone else out there in the same situation as me!
Wives - Is your babysitter hot?
The babysitter is hot. However, the sitter is a guy that takes care of the pool and other odd jobs around the house. If he is attracted to my husband, we are in trouble.
All my husband does is lay in the bed!! What do I do?
I'll start off by saying yes my husband has a job and I understand he's sometimes tired from his job. During the week he gets off work and sleeps then wakes up long enough to eat and watch a little tv all in the bed. Then he sleeps the rest of the day until its time to go to work until. When the weekend comes he's in the bed because he's tired from the week. He literally stays in the bed everyday. He can't understand why I'm always "nagging" him. He says why do you constantly have something you're mad about. I feel lonely and he doesn't get it. He just says "come lay down with me". I'm sorry but I don't get enjoyment out of laying in a bed all day long. What can I do more than what I've done?
The father of the kids I babysit makes me uncomfortable.?
Okay so I have been babysitting for this family off and in for about three years. They have two young daughter and they are a middle aged couple, but I'm pretty sure the father is at least 5 years older than the wife. I'm 16 now and lately the husband has been making me feel uncomfortable. It's started with him insisting on taking me home. One time I came and my pants were a little wet from rain and he insisted that I wear his sweatpants. Then when he comes home he always brings pizza and makes me stay long to eat. I feel like he is sometimes looking at my breasts sometimes. The other day he wanted me to come over just to play with his daughters then just sit at his house while he was there. What do I do? Have another job now so I don't really need the money but I feel bad saying no.
I just had a baby girl and my 18 year old daughter has been angry and refuses to look after her. She tells us to get a nanny. What can we do?
I just had a baby girlCongratulations. That's awesomeand my 18 year old daughter has been angryThat’s obviously upsetting. Have you asked her why?and refuses to look after her.I'm sorry, was this part of the deal of you having a baby? She isn't the mother. You are.What can we do?Talk to her and see why she's angryEver since she found out I was pregnant she has been very angry and gloomyI'm assuming she is an only child. She never had to compete for attention. Now, she will go to college or already is in college. She'll call you because she misses you. Maybe she'll want to visit, but she can't because the baby takes too much time and attention.She refuses to hold herDo you want your daughter to hold the baby and hurt her? I didn't think so. It's best if she doesn't hold the baby. She doesn't like her sister. She doesn't want anything to do with her. Don't hand your child over to someone who won't show her affection. It may damage your baby when she gets older.when we ask her to look after her while we're gone, she will leave and tell us to get a nanny or babysitter because she doesn't want anything to do with her.1)Your daughter has her own life. She is eighteen. This is your daughter. She should be with her friends. She shouldn’t have to watch a baby that she hates.2)Your daughter isn't a built in baby sitter. She is your daughter. Stop going out with your husband until you can get someone reliable to watch your baby.3)It's not just because she doesn't want anything to do with the baby. She's not a babysitter.My husband and I are very upset.And she's not? Do you think she is acting this way because she feels like it? This baby is taking her mom and her social life. She's more upset. She sees your baby as a putrid thing that she is forced to give everything up for because her mom got knocked up.I seriously don't mean any disrespect. This isn't meant to be disrespectful, but you don't understand how your daughter feels. You've only thought of yourself. You need her point of view. We can give you advice on Quora, but only your daughter knows what she is thinking. For all we know, she isn't jealous. Maybe she's just a bitch. Maybe she's just angry. Maybe this baby came at a bad time for her. Talk to her.
What do you think of a woman who is less than 60 years old and doesn't work but lives with her husband and has no children to care for?
You're desribing me! I'm almost 50 and I don't work and my child is no longer living at home.You ask why I don't work, I will tell you.I had my son in 94 and raised him pretty much by myself, then guess what? Surprise he's autistic and low functioning as well. At this time there was really no help for us so what choice did I have? No one in my family would help me so I could get a job and I couldn't afford to pay a babysitter.Fast forward to 2009 and I was on the verge of having a nervous breakdown and we decided to put my son in a supportive living home so in about a year he went to live there. Now it has been 17 years since I worked, who the hell is going to hire me now? Then I suffered a heart attack in late 2010 and this put me down very badly ( psychologically) this scary event stopped me stone cold.Ok so I'm good for a couple years after this and was planning on getting some training for some kind of job and was getting out more until 2015 when I started feeling unwell again, so I went to the emerg one day in December and they said I was in acute heart failure! I had bypass surgery that summer and that took about a year for me to recover.Now it's 2019 and been well over 20+ years since I've worked for $$ and have absolutely no marketable skills , who the hell is going to hire me for anything? Now I'm sick too.I receive CPP disability now and will till I die.So you have no right to judge someone who stays at home and doesn't work because you don't know their situation and it pisses me off when people get on my case about it or accuse me for being a gold digger!Hahaha! fuck no,we're barely getting by but I help out as much as I can.Thanks for reading.