Lack Of Confidence In My Apperance Give Me Some Advice

Are girls more attracted to confidence or the look of a guy? I've seen some couples where the girl is very attractive and the guy is just average, and I'm asking myself, how? Is it because of his confidence? Maybe he's funny or rich?

I'm going to go completely against every other answer here and say that it's NEITHER.It's well known that looks are not the most important thing girls look for in a guy, unless they just want some hot, freaky sex for a night. And solely relying on confidence and being supremely-confident in yourself will get you nowhere fast, too. Confidence is just a part of something bigger - it's a part of your overall personality. And what girls are MOST attracted to - what completely trumps things like money, looks, status and any single characteristic like confidence, courage and so on by itself - is your PERSONALITY and THE WAY YOU MAKE A WOMAN FEEL.Women are attracted to men who are desirable, have developed personalities and are sex-worthy - and confidence is just a little part of that.And desirability has nothing to do with looks. I know plenty of average or even dorky-looking guys who date amazing and hot women, and it's never solely because of their confidence. I know these guys, because I teach them.Hope this helps you dissolve the myth of confidence. There are plenty of guys out there who sleep with lots of girls and have hot girlfriends, and they aren't supremely confident in themselves, they just have enough of it, combined with a number of other as equally important traits as confidence - like humor, wit, sexuality and so on.If you find this helpful and want more dating advice, you can always check out my profile or follow me on Quora.

I plan on starting a YouTube channel but lack confidence, any words of encouragement or helpful tips, including your own experiences?

Like Nike says, “Just Do It”The biggest piece of advice I can offer is to not be scared. Think of all of the best looking models in the world. Even they receive negative criticism and harsh words. The key is that they don’t let it get into their heads. Even if you are the best at something you are likely to be disliked by some. Heck, even the best presidents of the United States of America were disliked by half of the country. So you have to ask yourself whether you are going to let that get in the way or whether you will stay motivated.In today's world, YouTube is hard to break into. You can’t just create a channel with unoriginal content doing the same old thing that everyone else is doing. Something about your channel has to be original.Maybe you are more humorous than other cooks and you want to start a cooking channel. Focus on your humor because let’s face it, there’s 1000 other people that have made a video about how to bake a chocolate cake. Always ask yourself “why would someone watch my video instead of my competitors?”My prior advice is kind of the precursor to even starting a channel or making a video. My next advice is to learn how YouTube works and what it takes to get your video to the top of the first page. I’ve written a guide on it but if you have any specific questions you can send me an ATA on Quora. If you read How to Rank YouTube Videos and Get More Views, you will get a better understanding of what the difference between a video on the 5th page is versus the videos in the top 3 spots of the YouTube search results.

What advice would you give to a person who has extreme low confidence to approach girls?

Sometimes it can be difficult to "break the ice" and start a conversation with someone attractive. It can be difficult to know how to talk to girls, guys, women, men, etc. It can also be hard to make a good first impression while doing so.However, approaching and talking with a stranger can be done easily...and persuasively. You can learn to break the ice with finesse and talk to the girls or guys of your dreamsWhy is Breaking the Ice So Hard?Speaking with someone you don't already know can be anxiety-provoking for a number of reasons (some of which I have addressed in previous articles). These reasons include:Having approach anxiety, social anxiety, or being anxious about dating in general (see here).Worrying too much about your potential date's initial opinion (see here).Fear of rejection (see here).Not having the proper motivation to approach (see here).Having a poor understanding of body language (see here and here).Not having a clear understanding of what you want (see here).Not being prepared to ask for what you want (see here and here).Beyond all of those reasons, however, approaching someone is difficult because you are often opening yourself up for evaluation. Essentially, you are saying "I like you"...and asking "do you like me"? This gives the other person all of the "power" and "influence" in the situation. They are in a position to "take you" or "leave you", without you having much more say in the matter.Given that, it is no wonder breaking the ice and making the first move is so hard. Who would knowingly want to put themselves in a position of vulnerability? That is the reason why many women prefer to be "attractive" and try to motivate the man to approach them. It is also the reason why many men refuse to do so.Fortunately, there are a number of ways to approach and start a conversation, without opening yourself up to evaluation. Furthermore, they are just as "confident" and "assertive" as putting yourself out there directly. In fact, sometimes these techniques are even more persuasive than the "direct approach".Techniques to Keep Your Power and Say Hello1) Ask a FavorRather than "putting yourself out there", get the other person to invest a little first. Ask them to do something for you. Make a request. This could even be something small like, "could you grab me a straw"? Or, "could you watch my stuff for a minute while I get a coffee"? Frankly, any small request will do the trick.

How do I tell my friend (who's a girl) who has low confidence in her appearance that she's beautiful in my eyes and that she's fun and that her chest and hind size doesn't matter, without things getting awkward or her getting embarrassed?

You bring up her chest and her behind but you have no interestin that part of her?  It could be her self image is low becausethat's the only thing anyone ever comments on. Since I suspect your  real motives, do you think you could resist the  temptation to carryout your plan, however you have planned it, and introduce her to Quora, and perhapsfind some real answers to her problem. Since you are already part of the Quora community, I trust that you will do the right thing and even be a hero, at least briefly.  Sometimes integrity is the best reward, WillThanks for the A2A

I am less confident to talk with girls. I don't know that I am good looking or bad looking. Can you help me to know?

Your looks are a hindrance to your success with women - but not because looks are needed to succeed with women. Confusing? read on.But first, proof women don’t care about looks as much as men:Look at this pale, pudgy balding ginger (using this guy’s own words) with a a girl that isTaller than himHad more money at the timeCould very well be a runway modelAnd we all know this one ugly deadbeat who is dating drop dead gorgeous women in spite of having no money or looks.So what gives? How come these “guys beat the system”?This is because men are attracted to looks, and women are attracted to behavior.Yes yes there are exceptions to every rule. But this is the general trend. Women often look for assertive, honest, confident, high status males while men often look for good looking females.The guy above is Owen Cook, a dating coach for men that teaches them how to become more confident, assertive, purposeful in life and honest, all behaviors that attract women in men.The logic states That preferring men who exhibit certain behavior (assertive, confident) would cause the women to end up with the alpha males of the group who’d have the social standing to end up with more food and protection for their offspring.In caveman times:Having a square jaw is not as helpful as being assertive enough to boss the hunters to give you the bigger part of the mammoth.Being honest and reliable guarantees the man will stay and care for the baby more than six abs.Being 6 foot was not as important as being socially savy enough to be the leader of the group, which would provide the best for his offspring.Evolution itself tells you that success with women depends more on behavior and how you present yourself rather than how you look. Yes looks do matter, but they are light years behind better behavior.The irony is that your looks make you doubt yourself and not think of yourself as attractive. The lack of confidence shows in you, and women can smell that a mile away.So indirectly your looks affect your success with women. When you will approach the women you want without giving a thought to how you look, you will experience the success you wish with women.

If people, in real life, never give me compliments about my appearance, is it safe to say that I’m not attractive?

If you’re not pretty, try to discover and exploit the particular gifts you were given. Are you funny? Smart? Accomplished? Do you have talent? Can you work hard? Every one has been given different gifts. Yes, attractive people have certain advantages, but this isn’t always presented well, and they might seriously lack confidence despite their God-given looks. there will be attractive people that rely on you for comfort, advice and support. Make sure you learn how to accentuate your features or improve something you don’t like about yourself. Confidence is better than attractiveness. If you are not confident about all of you’re particular features now, that doesn’t mean you won’t be soon. Learn about hairstyles, make-up etc. you can learn anything on YouTube. Don’t be afraid to re-invent yourself, become really competent at something - a hobby, or your work - and find confidence. Give it time. You’ll be fine. Many blessing to you.