Friend trouble help!?
Well, you sound pretty much exactly like someone who came to my school. She just transferred in, and didn't have friends, so we (my usual group of friends and me) decided to talk to her. At first we thought it was nice, but then she just caused a TON of drama. The group of friends i'm in (7 people, and no, we're not a clique! It's just we are a small group of tightly wound friends...) who used to not have a single real argument (there were the joke ones where you aren't really fighting, and you all end up laughing), is now having some major issues!!! And no, it's not a coincidence, they are caused by her. We HATE it!!!!!!!!!!! If they don't like being around you, get new friends. Ones who enjoy being around you!! But, just know that this is misery for both sides, and so just over your friend!
I accidentally got my friend in major trouble with her parents, what can I do now?
She was wanting to go on this weekend trip with her boyfriend for their anniversary but her parents said no. She asked me if I would say she was staying at my house for the weekend. She asked me to switch the sims cards out of our iphones so that if her dad looked up her location it would show she was at my house. Her plan was for us to forward each other's texts, and for me to write back as her when her parents texted. I really didn't want to do this but she made me feel sort of obligated to because when my phone got ruined she gave me her old Iphone. She's also been super generous and given me a ton of other stuff and done nice things for me. So I did want to do something for her, but I didn't want to something that elaborete and dishonest. Anyway my friend and I were talking about all this on speakerphone while was I driving my sister home from school. This was on Tuesday. My sister gets hooked on drama so she was like all excited about it. Then on Wednesday my friend said she was calling everything off. That she knew it was wrong and she was sorry for asking me to go along with it. Okay so then on Thursday my sister just went and told my mom everything. I hadn't told her that the plan was called off so she was still thinking it was on. Without even talking to me about it first my mom called her dad and told him everything. He got VERY mad. He didn't believe her that she had already called everything off because there's no text proof, we actually talked. She's now in a crazy amount of trouble and is angry at me. I am mad at my mom and my sister for doing this. Am I wrong to be mad at them? My sister feels bad but my mom said it was the right thing to do. I should add that my mom has a pathetec crush on her dad and looks for reasons to talk to him. Should I call her dad and tell him that she had called everything off? I think he's being unfair
My friends are bullying my other friend? (MAJOR issue)?
I used to be friends with this group of five people (four girls and a guy) but I left them because they were a bad influence. The boy has caused me a lot of pain, but I'm friendly with two of the girls. The other two girls just annoy me. However, they are always bullying my younger friend to the point that she cries and yesterday the boy and two annoying girls cornered her into an empty classroom after school and screamed at her because she overheard them talking crap about one of the girls in the group so she told the girl what they said. Then they made up this huge lie that the younger girl made the whole thing up and was trying to break them up, which is stupid. But after getting threatening texts and being bullied, I told her to tell a teacher. The other kids found out and started texting me and trying to convince me not to, but I basically just told them if they didn't stop, I'd tell administration. Now they're all pissed at me. I want to help my friend because these people are awful and just rotten, but they're all in my grade and if they get in trouble I'm going to have to deal with every day. There's an out of state trip coming up that we're all going to, but if they get in trouble for bullying, they might get that taken away and then hate me. And as much as I don't like them, I don't like when people hate me. What do I do?
What does it mean when a friend wants space?
So I've been having a bit of trouble with a friend lately. A few months ago, i was diagnosed with major depression after a suicide attempt. i'm doing much better, i have supportive friends and family, but one of my best friends has just not been able to wrap his head around what i'm going through. Our friendship has been strained and awkward since my incident, and i find it difficult to talk about my problems and vulnerabilities about what i'm dealing with because i can't help but detect in him either fear, or simply that he doesn't take my depression seriously and just wants me to be back to normal in no time. I don't think he knows how to handle it, and my second guessing has gotten to him, i suppose. Last week, I decided to try to have an open conversation about what's been going on with us, and it just did not end well. But what perplexed me is that by the end, he asked me to give him space. It was confusing because it's not like we are around each other all the time...we mostly hang with a group of other friends at most a day or two on the weekends. we aren't constantly calling each other or anything like that. My suspicion is that he probably simply doesn't want to deal with me and is overwhelmed by what is happening to me. I just don't get it because I'M the one dealing with depression, but he's the one claiming he needs "space", whatever that means, as if what he's dealing with is somehow more important than what i'm dealing with. I guess i'm just curious as to what this could really be implying and if i should back off and give him space, or just tell him to be straight up with me.