Does everyone show love differently?
My BF is not the most affectionate guy. We cuddle sometimes mainly because I want to at least thats what i think and when he leaves for work in the morning he wakes me up and gives me a kiss and says he loves me, then kisses me goodnight, but we dont kiss a lot in between those 2. Then sometimes he'll hold my hand when we're out somewhere. And occasionally he'll put his arm around me or something like that. But he's not much more physically affectionate than that. I'm a very affectionate woman. I love to cuddle, kiss, hug, hold hands, etc. im also very verbal about it. but the mushiest he has ever gotten was on valentines day he wrote me a note with flowers saying what he likes about me and that im pretty. I tell my bf pretty frequently that he's good looking. But he rarely ever tells me I'm pretty. I cant remember if he has said it since v-day. Then today I was at Victoria's Secret trying on bras and sent him a pic saying this one makes my boobs look big, and all he said was yeah they do but it's kinda hard to tell with the bra on. That's all he said. I was expecting him to maybe say I looked good or something, but no. I was a little hurt. I'm worried that he doesn't love me as much as I love him, I make it obvious that I love him and am attracted to him but he is so much harder to read. I've heard of something called the 5 languages of love meaning everyone shows love differently. Is that true
How is the perception of "love" different for men and woman?
I once read somewhere that men wish to own and possess whereas women wish to be wanted. I suppose both of these are true but in different ratios depending on the gender. However, what I am describing is simply the start of romance. Once courtship is over, this is when both sexes choose similarly on whether they wish to continue to show affection in their specific ways. A woman, may for example want to seek to affect the behaviour, appearance and level of proximity of the man, to demonstrate his attachment to her. A man in love will allow the female a certain level of control and relax his boundaries that he naturally makes around his life to keep him within his comfort zone. The old story is of the mistress who continues to look nice for her man but expects gift and eventually, for him to leave his at-home life and make a new one with her. Is there any reason why a man would behave differently? Only the effect of testosterone and roving spirit, which he must release if he wishes to enter into a full relationship with the female. As I said before, the biological urge of the woman is to create a home, life and family in codependency with her chosen mate. When a man feels ready, he will make the sympathetic deciding and join with her in what appears to be a marital union. Once this is done, life changes for both persons and they forced by circumstance to behave in ways that allow for the smooth continuing of compatibility. I think that men and women both feel love for each other in different ways throughout the relationship. Once the flame of passion fades the best place for both to be is in a loving friendship that has developed around the shared lives and family. Remember, there is no long-term relationship that has survived without some contention. The love that works is the one that forgives and allows the other, at the same time as maintaining freedom of individuality.
Why do women seem to need/require constant affirmation of our love for them?
We don't need it constantly, but once in a while is appreciated. Why? Because we are emotional beings and we want to know that we are loved.
Philosophy: Do Asian cultures have a different concept of "love" from Western cultures? If so, how?
I have worked with and had many friends who were Asian American, and I've had the opportunity to travel to China, and I've also known a few Asian immigrants, and my sense is that their concepts of love are largely no different than westerners.However, I will say that Westerners don't all have the same concept of love! And to that point, I think people all over the world have different, and often changing ideas of love. Some cultures have multiple definitions of love. A love for your children, a different love for God, a third love for a spouse, and other loves for life and friendship.I find that a lot of people (Western or Asian) will think of love as how you feel when you are madly "in love" with someone. That crazy shit that happens when you first experience a mutual attraction that is strong, physical, and almost overwhelming emotionally. I know that feeling well enough, but I don't think of it as love - I think of it as something much, much simpler, superficial, and almost artificial. Its a wonderful feeling - as strong as any drug! Stir in some sex and emotional intimacy, and its almost like something you would die for. And sadly, some do.But its not love. Its not enduring. Its not real love. Its nothing like the love of a husband for his cheating wife. Its nothing like the love of a mother for her son. Its nothing like the love between two people who've shared 20, or 30, or 40 years of life, through all the ups and downs, all the quiet moments of desperation, the glorious chapters of warm family life or exciting economic growth. Its not the love of a soldier for his fallen brother.It seems crazy to call it love, but its OK to call that love. But, certainly, there are so many versions of what we can call love, and they seem so radically different from one another, at least to me.And in that sense, I think they are very, very similar. I think they are the same. Because, I think that when you get past the superficial, hollywood, bollywood, fake love, the deeper, more meaningful ones, the ones that hang by a thread in the darkest hours, the ones that sit quietly at the side of a bed when the other breathes their last breath, the love that calls people to risk their own life for the other, all of these are inherent to all of us. I think they transcend culture and geopolitical boundaries. They may need the nurturing of maturity to be fully formed, but they have little to do with where we were born or what our flag looks like.
Why do all men express their love differently?
It isn't just men who express love differently; men, women, children, even animals do it. What you're talking about is as individual as the term "personality." It's about preferences, experiences, cultural expectations, religious beliefs, you name it. As to how to cope with it, if you're "coping" then you aren't doing it right. Truly, if the way your man shows affection for you (or doesn't) is something you have to "cope" with, then you have the wrong man. Something is wrong with the compatibility between you. Oh, there will always be times in a long term serious relationship when you wish for a hug and don't get it or fall into a lovemaking rut or don't kiss as much, etc. But when it gets to "coping", you have a problem. If this is you, two suggestions: First, think about whether or not it's a rejection issue. If you push your man away all the time, argue constantly, don't have time, etc. then it might be that the problem is just that the two of you need to re-connect. Second, if you think there's a problem, talk to your man about it. Don't just assume he knows there's a problem or why there's a problem. Talk it out.
Libra woman with Scorpio man ... PLEAS HELP!! 10 PTS?
Libra woman is very easily attracted to the passion of a Scorpio man, but whether this will develop into a serious relationship is an entirely different question. They will have intelligent conversations between themselves and are also will show mutual affection. But, he is strong-headed to the extreme and it may frustrate her when he makes decisions for her too. Her casual relationship with the opposite sex will not appeal to him and he may not be able to give her the independence she so much desires.