How long did you wait until you got married?
It is very interesting to me that your previous relationships both ended at the 5 year mark. Did you know that scientists have isolated a hormone that cause men and women to be attracted to each other that fades round about the 5 year mark, sometimes earlier? If you are waiting for the perfect "attraction" physically for a relationship to work, you'll never find it. For a relationship to work you should be finding other things that will last and someone who is as willing as you to invest in the relationship. There is no such thing as a "perfect" relationship or "perfect" guy. Trust your instinct about who you date. You've been dating long enough you should be able to recognize what you like and who you can trust. Don't wait for things to be perfect before you'll allow yourself to love someone fully. And don't keep waiting to make the "right" choice. there is no such thing as the "right" or "perfect" choice when it comes to who you love. When you do finally choose, choose someone who you like, love, respect, and with whom you are happy--someone you like spending time with--someone who shares similar values as you. You can't expect anything but that after 5 years "things change". Things always change. Just make sure you're with someone you don't mind changing with. Good luck to you. Got married to my husband after knowing him for 2 months. Just had our 4 year anniversary and we're still doing great.
I've been waiting 7 years to get married, should I give up hope?
In my twenties I wanted marriage more than anything. In my thirties, I still wanted marriage but started leaning towards, “Hey, now I just want to fool around a little.” In my forties, I didn’t care so much about marriage and then I finally got married and my new wife and I both said, “I don’t feel any different.” There was no Disney magic, nothing spectacular, nothing different except a legally binding piece of paper. That’s it! I realized that marriage doesn’t fulfill you any more than having a girlfriend/boyfriend. The difference maker is when you have that sweet little baby and want to do EVERYTHING to give him/her a better life than you had. Your spouse will always find fault with you but that little baby just wants to be with you even if you don’t meet everyone else’s expectations.So my advice, don’t worry about marriage just enjoy your life and everything will fall into place. If you are single you can do more of what YOU want to do. While marriage can be nice, it will bring you more difficulties and heartbreaks than when you were single and dating.
How long did you wait before getting married?
and do you think it was enough time? i'm asking because i waited two years after meeting my now husband but i know a girl who got engaged a month after meeting the guy and got married 3 months after that, and i also know another girl who is engaged and has only known the guy for 3 months. do you think you need to wait a certain amount of time or does it matter?
What is your experience after getting married to someone?
A power struggle ensued almost immediately. Every decision—-this, not that— was a potential minefield. Where to put the mail when it comes on from the mailbox. How to squeeze the toothpaste. Whether to clean the house all in one day or clean one room each day. Artificial vs. real Christmas tree.But we slowly worked our way through each decision by committing to each other that we would be a TEAM. As we had children, we became a “family.” We were KNIT together and supported each other in a bond that I knew could not be broken.The dependability and trustworthiness of my man allowed me to relax into his care (and him into mine.) Here was a man who knew everything about me (even the undiagnosed ADHD) and he loved my anyway. My overall confidence increased. I felt capable of taking on significant projects that my ADHD-shame would have previously prevented.Marriage for me has been hard and wonderful.