New homeowner and wife wants her parents to move in?
This is a disaster waiting to happen. If you think they will be mad at you not letting them move in.... wait til you co-habitate with them for 6 months.... the entire family will be in disarray. ESPECIALLY with a new born. Everyone will end up with resentment. Have you ever seen a grandmother around a newborn baby? Grandmothers tend to think they know the "right way" to do everything. It's already irritating when you have to go to a family gathering and put up with another woman telling you how to care for your own child, let alone- living with that person and having to deal with it all the time. Your wife will go insane with her mother constatly telling her how to do things the "right" way. Then your'e going to come home to a man with a heart condition who is helpless, and two brothers-in-law sitting around after you busted your butt all day. You providing for ALL of them, and the stress of a newborn child, compounded by a wife who is totally stressed- you and your wife are going to end up arguing and fighting over this all the time. Either the maraige will dissolve or you will kick the family out which will create more negative feelings than if you had never allowed them to move in to begin with. Trust me, I've seen this happen several times. Even when the family gets along GREAT before the move-in.... it usually takes about 6 months and everybody is blaming each other and everyone hates each other. I think you need to come up with another plan. Get them some government assistance and some food stamps and medicare and social security until they are back on their feet, and you and your wife and your newborn- live your lives the way you intended.
I need help with domestic abuse :(?
As the police have told you, it's normal for women to stick around a person that's mean to them. Maybe it's because it's all they know and they think that's what love is, or maybe the fear drives them back to the person that's supposed to love them but hurts them instead. You and your son deserve much better than this. And no I don't think people change, it might be "okay" for a while, but all it takes is one stupid little thing, like leaving a dish out, and the pattern repeats itself. I think you need to seek out a Battered Woman's shelter and try to get counseling for yourself and for your son. I see you're a very strong and smart woman to realize the situation you are in, isn't good for you or your baby, you should get a restraining order on this guy and work on building a brighter future with your baby...maybe go to college and get an AA or AS to help you get on a career path to support you both. You're only 19 years old, you have a whole life ahead of you, you shouldn't see this man as your only path in life. Children learn by watching, if your son sees Daddy hurting Mommy he's more likely to hurt his girlfriends/wife/children in the future as well...and it's not healthy for him to develop in such a horrible environment. I hope you seek help and try to get rid of this guy, he doesn't deserve you or your son. Good luck to you both.
We need help !!! ASAP READ!!!?
Hi, If you are out of a job and will have no place to live here are some options. Contact your loocal HUD office. They will put you in a priority status since you will be homeless and are currently unemployed. They will find housing for you right away and you will either pay nothing because you have nothing or, you will pay a portion of your income once you get a job. I have helped many people get back on their feet and I know that you can also find an apartment yourself, ask the landlord if he'll accept HUD then, you can go into the HUD office prepared and all they will have to do is inspect the apartment instead of trying to locate one for you if they don't have on on the list. Sometimes we have to have a job to get a job. Know what I mean? There are times that we have to accept a job that we really aren't real happy about but, money is money and money sure helps out. So, my suggestion is go to burger king, anything, until you find other options that suit you better. Also, if you are out of a job and your in this awful situation, go to social services and apply for food stamps and anything else you would qualify for until you can get on your feet. They offer emergency food stamps so you do not have to wait. There's nothing wrong with getting help where ever you can get it. I hear your frustrations loud and clear!!! There's just times we have to change our stratagy in order to get our feet headed in the right direction. You're a people person? Then, get out the and let that light shine. You've been letting your frustration and anger show instead of that great personality that will certainly get you places. Good luck kiddo'...JOSA
What happens to hippies when they get old?
I was just thinking about a hippie couple that lived in Central Park, New York, for decades in a small dwelling they had apparently built up a tree. I thought it was such a beautiful story. You know, these old hippies living in a tree house in the heart of the craziness of a modern metropolis. I thought it was outrageous that they got evicted from their home by the city. So I began to wonder what happened to other people who "dropped out" during the 60's and early 70's. Do you fall into this category, or do you know someone who does? What is your (their) story? Did you re-adjust to mainstream society when the party was over, or did you continue to be a nonconformist to your old age? Also, what do you think about the world today? It certainly didn't turn out the way the love generation envisioned it. Did you become disillusioned with the hippie thing or do you still hold on to it despite the increasing hostility of modern society towards ideas like that? I know there isn't a definite answer to this question because people are different, etc., so all responses are appreciated. Everything about the 60's fascinates me because it was the decade that saw this enormous mass movement for changing the modern world into a more humanly tolerable place. That is something almost unimaginable today, what with all the phony commercialized individuality and social isolation, and the moral and political apathy among kids these days.
How to spend my money on my house?where do i take it from? best way to invest it?
I have 30k in my savings account. Only debt i have a 50k towards my second mortage and 290k on the 1st mortage. 1st mortgage is fixed owe 26 years at 5.75% 2880$ month(taxes are 13k year) 2nd mortage is 50k line of credit 180$ month at 4.25% (180 is only intrest i pay 400 month) income I take home 1600k a week and get 1000 a month from apartment. I can take 50k out of my aunity at 4.25% and intrest pays back my self(15 year loan) Things i want to complete 1. siding 10k 2. inground pool 18k 3. kitchen 15k 4. driveway 3k 5. sprinkler 2k so 48k to finish my house. but this 50k line of credit killing me. whats the smartest way to invest the money into my house? credit cards? Take the 50k from my anuity and pay half line of credit/kitchen on creditcard/everything else anuity money?