Best friend hooked up with my crush?
I agree with both of the answers above. Your a caring and sensitive friend to consider your friends feelings before your own. But because she is not doing the same for you, I don't think she is worthy of being your friend. You have addressed your concern with her already, but try doing it again, perhaps in a note. I would suggest something like, "_______, I know I have already mentioned this, but I don't like it when you and ________ hook up. I told you at the beggining of the year that I had feelings for him, so I hope you have the heart to think about what I feel. If not, then I don't think I want to be your friend." Continue to make friends and hang out with current friends, because your friend needs to stop thinking about herself. The fact that your crush does not have the same feelings toward you, I would let our friend and your crush continue their realationship and look for new guys to crush on. What is the point of having a friend that is a backstabber, and a crush who doesn't like you back, anyway?
Best friend hooked up with my brother?!?
Why you are mad? Who knows. But if your going to be mad at her you might as well be mad at your brother too. They both knew what they were doing. And as far as you being mad this happened a while ago... let it go. Ok so what they ****** though, why are you so mad is she a whore or something? is that why you DON'T want your brother talking to her ? that's the only reason i can see why you'd be so mad. They ******. her relationship with your brother is already greater then hers with you. You can be her best friend BUT that wont change the fact that your brother knows her on a personal level now and maybe she tells him things she doesn't tell you. they slept with each other let it go you might be ******* up a potential relationship just cause YOU are mad. it's not like she ****** someone you were talking to. ....just saying though.
Best friend hooking up with your ex? is this ok?
ok soo my best friend and i have been close for a long time and we are on the same sport team and today we were all hanging out with a group of friends including my ex. my ex and i still hang out and talk on a normal basis but never hook up or anything, we are just friends. and tonight we were all just hanging out and my best friend and my ex went in the back bedroom and did everything except for sex. lucky i was with my two best guy friends and they were comforting me and reassuring me it will be ok. i dont know how to tell my friend that what she did hurt me very much. i still would really like to be her friend but i want her to know what she has done to me FYI: none of us were under the influence of anysort..
Me and my best friend hooked up and now I am in love with her, what do I do?
Please be honest and up front, but not demanding or desperate.I just went through the same thing and at the same time I was going through a lot of struggles. All my friends had left for college far far away and i felt like I had no one but she was there. I didn’t tell her I loved her and it happened again. Then I started getting sad and vented to her a lot and started talking to her constantly, almost to a bothering degree. I could tell she was slipping away and that scared me so I tried harder and harder to keep har around and eventually told her I was deeply in lover with her. Then when she told me she didn't want to talk or hang out I lashed out in anger. She won't talk to me at all. Even when i appologized and tried to explane everything and why i was acting totally unlike myself, she still wants none of it.Just let this person know how you feel and, depending on how they feel, work out a way to go forward from this while staying friends. This is a crossroads that has killed much more than just my friendship and if you can get out of this together then you have a solid friendship and you are lucky. Open and clear communication in which you don't hold this person hostage with guilt paired with honesty and a will to stay friends will help you.I hope you work this all out
Hooking up with your crush's best friend.?
I don't think you are going about it the right way, here. Do you? Using his best friend to make him jealous...is going to backfire on you when he realizes you are using his best friend. And what about the friend? Do you think that using him like that is a nice thing to do? If you aren't interested, decline. Perhaps this is why the one you like is not interested in you to begin with. Because he knows his best friend likes you. So by showing him you aren't interested in his friend, you may be clearing the way for the two of you when his friend realizes you aren't interested and moves on.
I hooked up with my best friend but he has a girlfriend - what do I do now?
He's your best friend right? Although it sucks for his girlfriend, I think you should do him a favor, and pretend it never happened. This might sound like I'm being bitchy, but I'm not trying to...but, what did you expect? It was sex. You were both drunk. He obviously realizes that it was a mistake he never should have made. He sounds like he really doesn't want to lose his girlfriend, and as his best friend, you should stick by that promise to be there for him, and just let it go.I think that he's trying real hard to get things back to the way they were, and that's not easy. I've hooked up with a best friend before. It's awkward afterwards, but for some reason, it worked out. It'll probably work out for you too. :) Do you have feelings for him? It sure sounds like it. It sucks,but it's kind of just the way it is. You shouldn't jepordize his relationship with his girlfriend just so that you can be happy. Just because what would that do? I think you know that you two will never happen or anything. I mean, you're best friends. It just doesn't work like that.What he did to his girlfriend was wrong, and it may seem like you should tell her, but I don't think it's any of your business. (ever if you were the "other girl") It'll only make her hate you. Just try to get over it, It'll be best in the long run. Sorry if my answer was harsh. Goodluck =)
I hooked up with my ex girlfriends best friend. How much of an ****** am I?
If the feelings were mutual and she wanted to do it as much as you wanted to then I don't see the problem.. Just because she is your ex girlfriend's best friend doesn't mean anything, not to me at least. The two of you broke up for a reason.
What do you do if your best friend hooks up with your crush?
Ultimately, this is on you to work through. You didn't approach your crush and ask him out. That is your fault and your fault alone.There is nothing wrong with your friend then hooking up with your crush. He's not yours. She didn't take anything from you.Now that I've said that…You're the one who knows your friend. We aren't. Her quality as a friend depends on the context here. Did you tell her about the crush, and then after encouraging you to pursue it she went straight over to his place and banged him when she had never shown any interest in him before? If so, she still didn't take anything from you, but that would show a bad attitude.I have known a few people with such low self-esteem that they simply want to get whatever anybody else has or wants, to somehow “win.” One former friend in particular? I noticed that she exclusively pursued men that her friends mentioned being interested in. Somebody would say, “I have a crush on so-and-so, I'm going to ask him out next week,” and Former Friend would then immediately attempt to seduce the guy. If it worked, she would brag (even to whoever had first stated their intention to ask the person out) about how before her he'd never been with anyone as good, and she was sure nobody else would measure up in bed after her. It got to the point where she was regularly trying to seduce men in monogamous relationships with her friends.You can see why she's a former friend and not a current one. Not because she was “stealing” anything, but rather because she was obnoxious, disrespectful, and malicious in her efforts to feel better than her friends she claimed to love.So… is your friend a good person who just happened to hook up with someone you wish you could be with? Or is she someone who just wants to “win” whatever and whoever anyone else wants?If it's the former, you need to work through this on your own. If it’s the latter, her hookup with your crush is not the problem — being friends with her at all is the problem.
Should i be annoyed that my best friend hooked up with the guy i like?
So i'm 18 and my best friend and i like the same guy who we have only met him a few times. We have liked him for the same amount of time too. The other night we went to a club (she and he had been drinking) and she told me that she hooked up with him at the club and asked me if i was okay that she had done that. i said yes because i couldnt have exactly been like "no im actually pretty hurt" when we were in the middle of a dance floor crowded wih people. i was annoyed and upset that she did that because she knew i liked him, she knows that i would never do that to her and the fact that im semi shy if i like someone (would not just hook up at a club, i like it to be meaningful) i cant stop thinking about it because i really like him. i know i dont know him reallly well but i know him well enough. he asks me if im okay, he kind of gets shy around me to... hes just really nice! and the fact that my friend hooked up with another guy like an hour before she did with our crush made me feel even worse...because...like wtf? you know?!! and she kept talking about how nice he was to her....sort of rubbing it in my face, not over the top though, shes not a ***** she was just happy i guess...sort of?! i dont know what to do...he dosnt know i like him! i 100% did not think he liked my friend...in that way! i just feel so down... ive never had a boyfriend because im sooo picky and now i have found someone i really like, that happened! please help all advice welcome please! sorry its so long! x
One of my best friends tried hooking up and I said no. How do I make it less awkward between us?
If you want to maintain the friendship and look past this awkward little situation, accept that, he has a crush on you also, he was at least honest and open with you about it.Just try your best to, encourage this girl he's sleeping with. Don't pay any mind to the similarities and never mention it to your friend. Understand, men can be blind even when, everyone else sees the picture plain as the day is long.Calling him out could be a devastatingly harsh reality check that could make him feel extremely embarrassed. I could be wrong too and maybe he knows the similarities. However, lets just give the man the benefit of the doubt.Basically, you just have to direct him toward the notion that, best friends is what's best for the both of you.Tell him he should make something out of this girl he's sleeping with. If he's just using this girl, that's really disrespectful and you should probably be a little cautious of that.If he's sour at all for any reason about your choice then, slowly distance yourself and fade out this connection. Best friend or not, a man should respect a woman's decision when she makes it clear.All in all, carry on with your life and be as kind and understanding with this situation as you possibly can. I hope things get normal for you.