My previous partner bought me iPhone 6s. We broke up and now he wants to get the phone back otherwise the police will be called. what should I do?
A lot of people seem to be suggesting destroying the phone and then giving it back to him. I strongly discourage that. You would be a) acknowledging that he owns it and has a right to it and b) then destroying what you’ve now admitted is his property.I was in a similar situation awhile back. I bought my girlfriend an iPhone and we split the cost of an iPad. When we broke up, I recognized that the iPhone was a gift. I asked her to pay for my half of the iPad (she never did).Bottom line is, unless he can prove that the phone was not a gift and that he was only letting you use it, he’s got a tough road ahead. The police are going to laugh at him. This isn’t criminal; you didn’t steal his property. At best, this is a civil matter and he could take you to small claims court. So he’s either ignorant or bluffing.If he’s bluffing, call his bluff. The police won’t do anything and might tell him to file a claim with small claims court. If that happens, wait for the summons, go to court, and argue that he gave it to you as a gift. You have a pretty good chance of winning that unless he has some kind of evidence that it wasn’t a gift.If he’s ignorant, ignore him. He’ll call the police and they’ll laugh and tell him to work it out.Either way, don’t destroy the phone and don’t give it back to him. He’s going to be hard pressed to prove it wasn’t a gift. Keep the phone and wait for him to actually do something tangible.If you don’t want to wait around, sell the phone and use the money to buy your own phone. He can still take you to court, but you can say you thought it was a gift and you wanted to upgrade.
He bought a house behind my back, should I leave him?
Ok, I read your post and read what everybody else had to say and I have to agree with some of the people on here who feel that if he will do this behind your back with your hard earned money what else is he capable of? This was a total lack of regard for your role in the relationship as part bread winner. I also agree with what someone said about his not marrying you with you having his child. I think he is unscrupulous and has questionable character, I would get out now and never do this again. If you are married then what he owns is half yours, even though a married man could very well do the same thing only keep it a secret forever. From what you've told us about him I can tell you that I don't like him. Play it smart and protect yourself and your finances I read the added on stuff you posted later, you want your son growing up witnessing this behavior? How long before he isn't breaking stuff and hitting you, especially if he is drinking, he is verbally abusive and thats a total lack of respect for you yet again. I too stayed in a bad marraige for 17yrs finally left after it finally sunk into my thick head that what everybody had been telling me for years that it wasn't right to stay in a bad marriage for the sake of the kids, and I left and you know what? My daughter was sooo happy the day I left and she just seemed to enjoy life so much more ever since she and I both have absolutely no regrets over leaving that jerk. Its not good for your child to be exposed to this you'll see the long term effects on both of you sooner or later.
7 months pregnant and my boyfriend beat me was he right?
Hon, he's going to keep bringing up your past until he deals with it. That will take real remorse on your part. Not "get over it" but "I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you, what can I do to make up for it?" Show him you care about how horrible it made him feel and all the insecurities he is still having because of it. You can't ignore your way through infidelity. That said, he shouldn't have hit you and you need to draw a line in the sand. I would start out saying, "I'm sorry you're still hurting and I wish it wasn't an issue, but you can't risk the health of our baby or me like that again. Next time, I will call the police, you will wind up in jail and I just won't bother with you again." Good luck.
My husband left me and our two month old baby. I have a question.?
My husband left me and our two month old day before Thanksgiving. Our first born baby between the two of us. We started arguing immediately following his birth and my horrible recovery with a C-Section. We had a great marriage until he was born. My husband would have a very difficult time handling our son. He wouldn't want to hold him for more than 5 minutes without sweating bullets. I didn't make the tense situation any better as I added to what ever mounting pressure my husband was feeling over whelmed with, by trying to get him to be more involved and hands on. Which he didn't like apparently. Anyway so he bails and removes a very large sum of money from our two joint savings accounts, money market account, and checking account. And refused to pay the rent or offer child support. I was smart enough to retain myself a lawyer with what he did leave me because he served me with a petition for this pending divorce. And I also had the lease cancelled so I wouldn't be spending over $3,000 a month I didn't have for rent, utilities, bills, baby needs food for myself ect. Our rent was $2,000 by itself. So I moved in with my dad. I have no other family here, everyone is in California. And my husbands whole family lives right here. They're behaving like his army or body guards, I didn't cheat on him or abuse him or mis use our money. I was just raising our baby. Anyway here is my question: if you're looking on the outside in, and I'm asking you what would you think about me if, I told you I never text, call,email my husband to beg him to come back? He doesn't pay child support and I am soft spoken with him through all this, and he literally turned into the devil in the flesh with me and our son. So what message am I sending him by not chasing him, or not making any contact with him what so ever, and keep our hand offs for his temporary visitation agreement as a business like situation. Emotionally I accepted He is gone and we are over. By not chasing him what does this mea
Should I forgive my boyfriend after he hit me?
Hello, my name is Tommy. I'm 18 yrs. and my boyfriend is 22. Yesterday we went to our local cinema and we had a great time. After that he took me to a club and he had a few drinks. I don't drink so I just tried to enjoy the moment. While we were there, a guy came and sat next to me and started a conversation with me. We talked for a while and he was very funny. But, then I noticed my boyfriend didn't look very pleased so he approached me and grabbed my arm and took me to the car. He wanted to go home and he looked a bit angry and serious. While I was driving he didn't say a word so I asked him what was the matter. He said he doesn't want to see me with another guy again. I got a little angry because I was simply talking with the guy and my bf seemed to think I was cheating or something. We continued to argue and it escalated to the point where I pulled over on the side of the road and got out of the car to walk home. My boyfriend immediately got off and grabbed my arm and said that he wasn't gonna let me go. We struggled and I pushed him against the car and I began to run. I was so scared because he was running after me and I didn't want him to hurt me. Finally he grabbed me by the shirt and pinned me to the ground. I was was sobbing and pleaded to let me go. He kept saying that he didn't want me to leave him. He was in the verge of tears. I struggled to push him off and finally I did, but he grabbed my ankle and I kicked him in the chest. At that moment he got rough and slapped me across the face. I was shocked and and I began to yell at him and sobbing. I said that I hated him and that I would leave him. He stayed face down kneeling on the ground and sobbing as I walked away. I took the bus and went home. Later he arrived and he looked completely devastated. He apologized and said he was sorry and that it was all his fault. I hated seeing him so miserable so I said I would think about it. We haven't talked all day today and he's waiting for my response. I'm so full of guilt and confusion, I just don't know what to do. I love him so much but I feel like I don't deserve him. We were both mean to eachother. Can someone please help help me solve this, any advise or suggestion are greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Im 17 weeks, My Boyfriend wants me to have an abortion?
Im 17 weeks pregnant.I have been with my boyfriend going on 3 years now.I had a scan at 9 weeks,its fair to say we are not in the best time in our life to afford a baby,but at the scan he seemed excited after seeing it&was even arguing about whether it was a boy or girl! However the day after the scan he totally flipped&said he didnt want the "thing" so "get rid of it".And hes been like that pretty much ever since,Hes so cold hearted towards me&all he keeps saying is how expensive they are&how we wont be able to go on holiday next year.So hes taking me to a clinic on monday morning to talk to someone about having an abortion.I dont want to have an abortion but i dont want him to hate me&think im having the baby to spite him because im really not,I love him so much but i just know i dont want an abortion but i dont wanna do it alone.Nobody knows im pregnant, his family will REALLY overreact&make out like the world is ending, mine wont be that thrilled either.I dont know whats best,help!
What do i do when i got ditched by my bf on our anniversary?
me and my boyfriend go out to dinner on our anniversary every months, its just something we have always done and he buys me flowers and its always a really really fun night together.. well weve been dating for about a year now and... he straight up ditched me for a high school basketball game on our 5 month when i made dinner for him at my house and HE KNEW THAT.. he didnt even tell me he was going, i txted him and he txted back 2 hrs later saying he was out.. :[ then on our 6 month we had plans to go to Chicago all day, and go to dinner and just have a good time, we didnt even do ANYTHING because he didnt want to go... and then he stopped ditching me til this month and was like ya, im gonna go golfing ill talk to you tomorrow :[ and my best friend told him i was upset so he came with flowers and starbucks and apologized.. but he knew.. ughh wut do i do? and not to mention hes leaving for college in two weeks :[