How should I tell my parents that I want to move in with my boyfriend without being married (I come from a religious family)?
I was in your position exactly, as a graduate student in my mid-20s. My husband (then my boyfriend) and I were attending graduate school together. I started out in a little apartment by myself, and he lived in a 2-bedroom apartment with one of his best buddies from their undergraduate years. Buddy got himself a girlfriend and decided to move in with her, leaving my boyfriend with a half-empty apartment and more rent than he wanted to pay just for himself. Rather than go through the process of finding him a stranger to live with, I decided to give up my apartment and move in with him.I anticipated a lot of backlash. My parents are pretty devout and disapproved of me even being alone in the same room with him. So, I marshalled my arguments. I thought about preparing PowerPoint slides, perhaps dressing in one of my power suits for the occasion, even though this was all going to be hashed out over the phone. Every little bit helps. In the end, it was a total non-issue. My parents acknowledged the wisdom of my arguments and commented that they’d raised me right and trusted me to conduct myself accordingly. I was shocked. And then I was relieved. I moved in with my boyfriend, we finished graduate school, and then we got married. All’s well that ends well. I had an aunt who was just scandalized, but she got over it.Remember that you are (I hope) an independent adult if you’re talking about moving in with someone. In the end, that’s all that matters. It’s your life, and they don’t get a vote.
How do I convince my boyfriend to move in together?
His reasoning for not moving in is that he likes his bed. Basically, he doesn't want to leave his mom. I love his mom like a second mom, but he's too much of a mama's boy. I go to community college- there are no college dorms. My parents make too much for me to be on financial aid. And he knows I want to move forward with our relationship. We've talked about our plan and that we want to get married at 25. He hates living at his house with his controlling step dad but he doesn't want to leave his mom. Once my parents move I either live at my aunts up here or with my parents in Florida. I'm not forcing him into anything, if I was then we'd be living together now. We grew up together, he's my best friend and we haven't grown apart at all. His plan is to wait until we're 23 to move in together, I want to show him that there is no "right" age to move in and that we are ready to move in.
Im 16 and pregnant and my boyfriend is 18, can we move in together without parentel consent in texas?
Unless the laws in Texas have been changed recently, age 14 can marry with parent's consent. You are still deemed a minor, though, and your bf can be charged with statutory rape, so be aware that your family can charge him with that, so I wouldn't press too many sensitive buttons. And this moving in is still not correcting the problem. You two need toget hitched. Why? Legalities. It protects YOU and your child. It makes the law on your side, should he cut bate and run. It gives you much better standing before the judge for child support, getting your bf (if he gets lazy) to get a job. It provides for giving you more adult status, as well. I would suggest that you two marry, and make the best of things. Ask for a baby shower to help you with the costs that will come with having a kid without a good education (with good pay) that comes with an education. Get practical things - not fun and frilly things for the baby's care. Look into finishing up your schooling. He needs to go to work first and support YOU first in getting done with HS, and get into and get a college degree. By then, your child will be old enough for half-school. Then he can go back to school and get his education, while you work. Both of you will need to do part time work while the spouse puts in full time so that the other can get their EDU's out of the way. This is what my brother and wife did. Bro put wife thru school, and she got her nursing degree. He also was "mom" to the kids as they came along. Then, she got her stable job, and he went back to school, got his bachelor's degree in engineering, and they finished up with kid #3. It's hard, but it's worth it if you focus, and follow through. 061609 4:15
Should I move in with my boyfriend in his parents' basement?
I'm currently in a serious relationship with my boyfriend and we recently talked about moving in together...I currently live alone in a studio apartment and he lives in his parents' basement and we live about 45mins away from each other. Nevertheless, he suggested that I move in with him because I would only have to pay half of $700, which is what he currently pays for renting the basement, and he says that I would be able to save money and then we can eventually buy a house together in the near future. The lease for my apartment ends in May of next year and I am looking to move elsewhere, however, I wasn't planning on moving into a basement. In his basement you can hear the creaking of the ceiling as his parents walk across the floor upstairs, and honestly the interior of his pad is not up to par. I've also explained to my bf that I wanted us to move into a place of our own so we can start fresh, but he emphasizes that we can save money if I just move in with him. I feel that we can still save money if we rent a place together, but he thinks differently. I honestly think that he just doesn't want to be away from his parents. He's 31 and I'm 28 (I've always been very independent and me moving into a basement with a set of parents living upstairs would be a downgrade for me-seriously).
My boyfriend wants to move into his own place after we have been living together for awhile...?
We moved to California and got a place together. He did not have a job at first, but now does and pays his half. I was his transportation until he got his car stuff in order recently. Now he wants to move out! He says because he never got to live by himself, and it has nothing to do with me and wants us to stay together. Living on your own is a great experience but I feel there is more to it. Until now we were in this together. Now it’s all about him, and he isn’t thinking about me or ‘us’. I suspect this was his plan all along. He wanted to move and didn’t have much saved. I got a nice amount for moving expenses, so I paid for most of it. I feel he has been using me to get his finances and car in order, and now that they are, he is bailing. He swears that isn’t true and he loves me, but I feel he is full of it! He doesn’t understand why I’m upset! If he moves I don’t see us being the same. Am I overreacting? Are my suspicions justified? He has been an amazing boyfriend, until now
My parents won't let me go on vacation with my boyfriend, I'm 19.?
You haven't done anything wrong- but maybe if you were asking if you could go on vacation with your b/f and his family it would be way different . It is good that you have been very responsible as a student and with your b/f and it sounds as though they have been able to trust you by your actions - esp. with him for the past two years! But you are now putting something in front of them they were not ready to hear from you, and I am sure they're a bit suprised that you're thinking like that! Of course they love you and want you to finish your college ed (which maybe they are paying for?) and they don't want something like you getting pregnant to get in the way of that. They're just protecting you. You sound like you have had a great relationship with them up until now - don't let this get in the way - it's not worth it. Boyfriends come and go -but your family is forever. If he's really your b/f, he'll understand and honor your parents' decision. All the best