Is my father verbally abusing me?
and please explaine to me how I am NOT acting like an adult. if I lived with a room mate and I forgot to clean dishes up, should that room mate scream at me? NO! **** that, that room mate should be polite to me and ask me to put them away. And if it's a big problem well than put a note up, or find some other way,. People should not yell or scream or hit you. THAT IS WRONG. I don't feel it matters if i was right or wrong or whatever, I DO NOT DESERVE TO BE SCREAMED AT OR PHYSICALLY HURT.
Me and my brother just got into a BIG fight?
He kept calling me a whore and a c*nt and I told him if he didnt stop I was going to hit him. He's turning 12 and im 13 and he called me it again and the I went over and raised my hands to him but didn't hit him he then punched me in the stomachs about 2-3 times so I put him in a head lock And three him on the ground he grabbed me by the hair and started punching me in the face I repesditly kicked him in the stomche so my mom got in the way and started trying to break up the fight my brother pushed her out of the way and then she started hitting me so I pushed her she Pushed me into the wall and went Into the kitchen and started throwing the glass dishes on the floor and breaking everything I littersly thought someone was going to dIe I'm shaking like a freaking animal
I got into a verbal fight with my father?
I asked my dad if we were doing anything fun yesterday and he said no. So than he said "Btw akido starts Friday." (Akido is this thing that I really do not enjoy and he forces me to do it) so then I said "I can t do it on Friday s, i have to work remember?" Thats when he got angry and said "Well tough!" I said "Mom and I already agreed to go on Wednesdays to aikido!" he said "You can t work on Fridays anymore!" "It s my restaurant and its my rules!" i got super angry and said "It s not even yours its aunties!" "She owns it, she works full time at it & Im not skipping my job to go to some dumb thing I don t even enjoy!" He screamed "Your going on Friday s to akido end of conversation!" I got so angry and this came out of my mouth and I never meant it to. "shut up and stop acting like a baby!" I stormed into my room. he got so mad he shouted "Don t you dare talk like that to me!" "You dare to, i will slap you in the face!" I then said "You wouldn t!" "That is chid abuse and you could go to jail for abusing your own daughter!" He than said "I would!" "Call the f***king police if you want I don t care!" I gave up, ran into my closet and cried until my pillowcase was soaked and my contacts fell out. my mom started lecturing me about how I should have never said that. I tried telling her about him threatning to abuse me but she didnt care. She thinks that telling your father to shut up is worse than your father threatning to slap you. Im scared and sad and do not know what to do
My father verbally abuses me & thereafter proceeds to buy me off with material possessions, should I be feeling guilty for feeling terribly abused?
You absolutely should NEVER FEEL GUILTY because of being abused. Ever. Stop making yourself feel guilty for an abusive person’s behavior. Promise yourself you will NEVER feel guilty about being a victim of abuse ever again in life. You need to stop developing the habit of blaming yourself before it becomes entrenched and you grow up, attract an abusive person, and continue the abuser/victim dynamics the rest of your life. That is a miserable existence and you don’t deserve it. Understand? Not only does he need counseling (but will probably never get it) but so do you, for this very reason. Try to find someone you can trust and talk to, with sense. You need to develop visualization skills that imagine a “wall” between you and him when you are under this attack. Make that wall solid and strong in your mind. It will take practice, but this WILL HELP. It doesn’t sound like it, but it will. Once you have that “shield” up when he starts his blah blah blah, you will notice a difference. I don’t have time or space to get into the whole “energy vampire” concept with you here, but believe me, what he is doing is benefiting HIM and NOT YOU in any way. You got to stop it. This is the only way you can do so until you are older and emotionally able to defend yourself. Good luck.
What would cause certain fathers to verbally abuse and emotionally manipulate their young daughters? And what type of impact does said abuse have on the child?
When someone abuses/manipulates, etc., iT IS ALWAYS ABOUT THEM, NOT THE VICTIM. The impact can be severe. I don't know how old these girls are, but the best thing you can do is get them away from it, before they become adult victims. Teach them this kind of behavior is never about them.All people should learn this, then teach it to their kids. I am in favor of teaching communication skills as well as self esteem survival skills to all children, beginning as soon as they start school so they can learn to effectively communicate and defend themselves from verbal assaults.Efgective communication can negate a lot of verbal Bullshit. Like learning no hurt words, meaning you cannot use them to express yourself. Learning how to express feelings without attacking others solves two problems. 1. The speaker can clearly identify for others what they are feeling and why and 2. No blaming can slow/stop the verbal battles we get into. Hope this is not too much information.
Father beat up my boyfriend- Im 30?
I'm 30 years old and my father beat up my boyfriend? My bf and i got into a verbal argument about 2 weeks ago. I went to leave the house and he grabbed my purse, trying to get my cell out of my hand ( he thought I was cheating) I fought back ...basically us pulling the bag etc ...well, I told the story to a friend who is a guy and close to my fam. Without me knowing, he called my father and told him what happened. My bf did not hit me, or in any way physically abuse me. My bf went to work after ( he works for my dad) and my dad located him on the gps for his Mack trucks and pulled him off the truck and beat him. No one in my family ever called me to see what happened or if i was ok. I spoke to everyone the day after. Somehow, the story got messed up and my dad thinks I was on the ground and beaten. He's also now accusing me of staying w him thinking he's.been abusive the whole relationship. My dad fired him and made ne file a report to have him arrested. The reason why? So when he fired him, the story.with the union would make sense. My bf lost his home..we lived together and I was forced to leave, his job, and his love. The love we had was endless and I hate my father for doing what he did. They are at legal war with each other now. He never asked what really happened and just took it upon himself to go and hurt the love of my life. Basically my family has made it known that if i get back w him, they will disown me. Meanwhile, he's never touched me! Ever! I'm 30 years old! Who is he to tell me who I can love and who I should be with????? Was my father wrong for doing this??? Do I fight to get my true love back?????
Me and my dad got into a very bad fight. what should i do?
Ok ill tell you exactly what happen and I will not lie bc you can't tell my dad ha Well I came home and my dad wasn't speaking to me bc on a dumb reason, but I was really high (white widow was in) and he smelt it on me for across the room , boy I knew I was in for it then but he ran up to me and grabbed me up by the shirt and said " you smoking dope boy" and I knew I was in for it cause my eyes were red as balls! So I crack him with in upper cut( the boxing classes since 6 years old paid off) he went straight to the ground but my dad isn't a little guy and he got up, we wrestled around for a little bit , I got about 15 hits on to his face and he didn't hit me at all yet and I was sort of confused bc he was PISSSSSED!! Well he got me on the ground and put his knee on my one arm and said these words exactly "first things first" and hit me harder then I have ever been hit in my life!! Then he tried to rip out my touge and I was biting down on his fingers but they were like bars of steel and my mouth kept fillin with blood but luckly he stopped and got up, stupid on his part bc if you gonna try to rip off any thing I'm gonna get pissed so he stood up and I stumbling to my feet and regained my vision and twisted my hips and throw my body forward and hit him as hard as I could right in his forehead and went to the ground and got up fairly quick and I broke my hand on his head so I stood there and so did he , I walked away and cleaned off myself in the bathroom and went right to my room. What should I say to him to show I'm sorry for smoking weed? He will forgive me for the fight but the smoking what should I do? But I honestly can say I really respect him after that.