I'm afraid to introduce my husband to my friends as he is ugly. Now that I am pregnant, will I face the same embarrassment with my child?
I am sorry if it hurts you, but I right now cannot think of a better example to answer your question. Don't take it otherwise. Think of an unfortunate situation where your house is on fire and you got trapped in it. You are like 70-80% injured and there are very less chances of your recovery.( This is just an assumed situation ).But your husband being very loyal and faithful to you,stands by your side.Now as you can see, you will definitely look more devastating than your husband.He might feel the same embarrassment as you are feeling now for him. He might feel uneasy to introduce you to his friends or tell his son's friend's that this ugly looking woman is his wife. It might also happen that your son dislikes you because of something that is totally not your fault.Will you like that? Will you be able to digest the fact that your own husband and your loving son hates you for the something that wasn't in your hands ?My dear, all I want to say is beauty is secondary. It will fade away. I assume you are very beautiful as of now, but as you will age, you are not going to be the same. That will be the time when you are going to love your husband for his inner beauty and not hate him for being ugly at face.And if the people around you are concerned, they WILL make gossips. "Logon ka kaam hai kehna " ( It's their job to talk bull shit), and you cannot avoid that no matter what you do.For your baby to be born, I am sure if you love your husband and respect him, I am sure then even your son cannot remain untouched. Sow in him the right values, values to respect his parents and others. And not to judge others on basis of their external looks.Beauty lies inside you .
How do I get over being afraid to introduce my girlfriend to my best friend?
Wow, okay, first things first, you need to get over being so insecure. Because if you don't, it's going to weigh heavy on your relationship. Please trust me, because I have seen this before. My sister, she is very insecure, and has been through countless boyfriends, why because she is always calling herself fat, which she is not, and is constantly talking about breasts and skinny women and covering her boyfriend's eyes when a bikini or scantly clad woman is either on television or might happen to walk by. Or accusing him of enjoying to view of the afore mentioned women. They fight CONSTANTLY, just as she has done with every other boyfriend she has had. It's very annoying, I mean I'm ready to break up with her. Your girlfriend, wouldn't be your girlfriend if she didn't like you. Now unless she is one of those "Use, abuse, I only use men to get what I want type and then dump them" type, which you can usually concur after a short time of being them, plus they usually have some sort of reputation that will follow them, then that might be a problem. But if she likes you for you and enjoys spending time with you, then DON'T throw fuel on the fire. As for your best friend, if he's really this fantastic friend, he will put a stop to any moves she makes, and that's only if she makes any. If you're stilling feeling a little shy, then talk to your friend, share your feelings (yes, I said feelings, they're not just for the female population!) about this matter and get his view on it, make some sort of pact if it will make you feel better. If he's really your friend, then he'll get why something like that would be important to you and won't question it or make fun of it. If the latter occurs, then that says something about your friendship doesn't it? Now, lastly, your girlfriend, TRUST is important in a relationship, it's a two way street. And here's a big that I know is hard for some men, but COMMUNICATION is key! RECAP: Build up your self esteem, lose the insecurity. Feelings are meant to be shared (not overly shared, but don't bottle them up) and spoken about (again not only for the female population). Trust; it's important and works both ways. And last, but certainly not least: Communicate! Good Luck
I met a great woman who won't introduce me to her kid?
You are under "consideration" or else she'd not be calling/dating/seeing you. This isn't like meeting the family dog. Her daughter is being protected. Not from you speciffically but from her own emotions. The mother realizes that her daughter has lost that male figgure in her life. (her father) and she's very suceptable to another male's presence to fill that void. Your girlfriend wants to make absolutely sure you'll be around for a long time before she lets her baby get attached to you. Give her time. You'll both be glad you did. And I know (as a single parent) she'll really appreciate it.
Why would a husband not introduce his wife to his male friends?
You must have had a small wedding to have no male friends there...interesting. Have you talked a lot about how attractive other men are? Do you talk to him about how sexy your favorite actors are? He probably is insecure about himself and is afraid you will be swept away from him by these other guys. Just be loving and supportive of him. let him know he is sexy by your actions and deeds. Some women tell their husbands they are sexy but they do not Show them they are sexy.
Is it okay for my girlfriend to have a male best friend?
It all depends with your girlfriend. What kind of a person is she? If she has many guy friends and doesn't fear telling you about them, especially the ones who hit on her, then it may be OK.But if she has few guy friends, and doesn't tell you about them, that is a red light. If she has many guy friends it means she knows how to handle herself around guys. She knows boundaries. If she has few guy friends, it means she doesn't really know that much about guys, and one of them may just sweep her off her feet.My best friend is a girl who has a bf she loves. Normally we talk about almost everything. But when it comes to her rship, she changes the subject. We can only talk lightly on it. She doesn't even tell me about her rship problems. She sorts them out with her bf. She also refuses to flirt with me, lol. If I initiate it, she laughs and either leaves me on read or changes the subject. She her boundaries.She has many many guy friends. She's overly friendly and knows how to handle herself around them. Even those who hit on her, she knows how to refuse, and they still remain friends.So, yes she can have a male best friend. But you need to be confident that she knows her boundaries and won't end up falling for him. And the amount of communication she makes with you and attention she gives you should be twice as much as what she gives him.Good luck.
Do you think a married man should introduce a woman to his wife as a coworker or friend?
I think the man was just being honest. Maybe to him introducing you as a co-worker was his way of introducing you as a friend.. Also being friends with you is not wrong, whether or not his wife knows, he is allowed a friend of the opposite sex without there being an ulterior motive. Also, you may just be assuming his wife will be jealous if he introduces you as a friend, she probably wouldn't care knowing that her husband is hers. They are together, he loves her and is with her so he hasn't given a reason for her or you to think he's in the wrong. He seems like a nice guy, honest (enough to at least introduce you to his wife), etc. I think it's perfectly fine :).
Did I cheat on my wife? I'm not sure if I crossed a line or not...?
I've been married for four years and I have never cheated on my wife. Our marriage is really solid and I would never want to hurt my wife. I am afraid I may have crossed a line dancing and maybe cheated. I need to know if this is considered cheating. On Saturday night a few of my friends from college were in town so we all decided to meet up and go to a club. Most of my friends are single so they were looking to hopefully get laid. I tried to help them out by introducing them to girls. One of the girls I went up to talk to for a friend kept talking to me and flirting. We ended up hanging out most of the night just drinking and chatting. Later in the night she asked me to dance with her and I said sure. We walked onto the dance-floor area and she just immediately backed into me and started grinding. When we were dancing I put my hands on her hips and she put hers on top of mine and I didn't shy away from any of her grinding. She smiled and moved my hands over her a little and then I took a bit more of an initiative and lowered my hands and caressed her body. I let my hands go under her dress a little bit and I touched her but I didn't finger her or anything like that. That went on for a little bit and a slower song came on so I leaned down onto her and let my face come into contact with hers ears and neck and just rested it there. We danced like that for a little bit before I noticed my friends were getting ready to leave. I told the girl it was nice to meet her and said like have a safe night and she said she had a lot of fun and gave me a tight hug and planted a wet kiss on my cheek. She also gave me her number and told me to call her sometime. I have no plans on calling her. I didn't kiss her or have sex with her so I don't really think its cheating. But for whatever reason I still feel a little guilty. So do you think I cheated.