How do I deal with a person who hates me?
It's really unfortunate that we all wish to be loved, yet, some would easily jump to hating on others. If you've been a victim of hate or cyber bullying, this should be inspiration enough for you to tackle those a-holes.But first, let's understand what builds hate in people. Haters are usually people who are insecure. Know this. It has been established time and again that if people hate on you or criticize you without you having harmed them in any way, they most definitely are jealous of or intimidated by you. And their hate directed towards you is only their defense mechanism. Because they know no better."Not all insecure people are haters, but all haters are insecure people." ~ Jack Schafer, Professor and AuthorWhether you're a person who actively voices out their opinions or not, as long as you're on social platforms, you've most definitely experienced some kind of hatred - directed towards you or one of your social connections. But, it's amazing how people have started taking hate on social media, turning it into something nicer, and throwing it back into the digital universe. Earlier last year, Australian academic, Susan Carland decided to donate $1 to UNICEF for every hate tweet she received.This Is Exactly What You Should Do When People Make You Feel Ugly.This understanding of haters and bullies has led to many people coming up with ways to easily tackle them. Here are some:Be calm, and don't react. Because that's exactly what insecure people look for - attention. And knowing you got affected by their snarky remarks, will make them feel like they have some sort of power on you.But if you must, respond - instead of giving into stimuli, take a couple of milliseconds, and come up with a quip instead to tell them off.Don't take what they say, personally. Remember, it's not you, it's them.Know your own strengths (and weaknesses), and concentrate on those (the strengths, of course) instead.Know your opponents' strengths and weaknesses too. Then point them all, and say, "You see, like I just pointed out, you have some strengths and weaknesses too. We all do. So, we're all the same."Thanks for A2A!!
I feel like everyone hates me and that i should be dead.. whats wrong with me..?
im severely depressed and i self harm, not recieving help for it at the moment though ;/ so dont tell me to talk to my parents or tell someone professional, ive been reffered to camH but cant go for a few months.. for the past 2 years ive felt like everyone hates me and that i cant do anything right, recently ive been feeling like everyone hates me and wants me dead, i feel as if everyone is talking about me and saying nasty stuff about me. im bullied by almost everyone in my year in fact my nickname is smellen..i dont understand why people who i have never even spoke to me before treat me like such dirt and call me names and push me around. im not nasty to people not even my bullys i ignore them and they are so horriable still. today in p.e i went in a team with people who i thought liked me but then one of them called selina who i love to bits because she understands what im going through and ive always been there for her even when she was alone i would never leave her by herself but she came up to me and asked me if i could go into a different team. i said i would sit out but miss said i had to and the whole time i was sitting with them and playing with them they was laughing at me. i feel like everyone are laughing at me behind my back and always talking about me like if someone was talking to another person then looked at me and laughed i would think they was talking about me . i have dogs and i have friends but i hate this, i dont really care whether i live or die anymore , i dont look when i cross the road anymore and when im always by a road i just want to jump out, i hate myself. i actually drew a picture of myself the other night and wrote all the bad things that people had called me and matched it with my face then i smiled and it made me feel better, i hate this and i hate myself, i cut myself to punish myself and for other reasons.. i just i dont know what to do anymore i just feel so alone and as if no one wants me or cares about me. whats wrong with me??
Why does someone hate me?
They didn't want to be helped. They wanted to do it themselves. You enabled their weakness. Every time you helped them you took away their independence and their right to do it on their own and their right to fail. It's funny; I've been that person before, the one who thought they were giving so much; and I can almost do that today, but not really because my time is shorter than it was 20 or 30 years ago and I just don't really want an adult child. Today, I am way into adults that are making a difference on their own terms. That's who I like, that's who attracts me, and frankly they are kind of rare. A lot of people sell out somewhere a long the way. But not all. If you love someone, you want to see them soar. Period. People are put on earth to succeed. To use their gifts and talents to enjoy them and to be of some reasonable service to others. They're not supposed to be enabled to persist in immaturity. I could have your situation all wrong, this is my first blush; please don't be offended, just offer more details then I can be more spot on.
I want to die, everyone hates me and I hate myself?
I'm 15. For my entire life all I've done is make mistakes. I'm a bad person. Everyone hates me. Family, friends, anyone that I meet or talk to. I'm better off gone.
How can I stop hating someone?
You can start by understanding that the hatred is something entirely inside yourself. Often, when we hate, we feel like this is something between us and the other person. It's not, it's inside yourself, it doesn't affect them, they may not care or even know about it. Often, we feel on some level, that we can't let go of our hate. Like justice depends on us hating them, and to release those feelings is to accept their actions. That's not true. If they were wrong, they were wrong, but that's true no matter what you feel. Your hatred only affects you. Once you realize that your hatred exists inside your own mind, realize how toxic and corrosive it is. Like venom in your bloodstream. It does nothing to the person who you hate, and does a great deal of damage to yourself. Now, if you love yourself and want yourself to be happy, you need to let that hatred go. Put the other person aside. You can't control them, your emotions can't affect them. Decide, logically, how you'll deal with them, and let the emotions go. Decide to be happy. Happiness is incompatible with feelings of hate. Emotions are tricky things, and it can take a lot of effort to properly school your feelings. Acknowledge what you feel, acknowledge how it affects you, and decide to let those feelings go.
I'm bad, do you hate me, if not, why don't you hate me?
Well, I don’t hate you. Why?Because I don’t actually know you. Like, I don’t hate people I don’t know with the sole exceptions of rapists and child abusers, who I still… I don’t know, it’s more like I’m disgusted with them and would like to deck them in the face/lock them up in jail, but not really… hate.You say you’re “bad”. Can you back that up with textual evidence? Or is is just a general thought? Because I don’t trust general thoughts. General thoughts are fat liars.I’m not big on “hating” people. I’ll say that I hate something, but it’s more like “strongly dislike”. I find it very hard to actually hate people.You being bad isn’t a reason to hate you. It’s a reason to know you and try to make you better. If you think you’re bad, and some people will hate you for it, well, you should be trying to be better. The fact that you asked this question means you’re not too far gone. A truly “bad” person wouldn’t care whether or not someone hates them.It depends on your definition of bad. My definition of actually “bad” is reserved for people who kill or hurt other people for fun and who honestly like hurting other people/don’t think anything of it, i.e. people who hurt others for their own gain/comfort (although I have some sympathy for the first kind because they are obviously not right in the head). Everything else falls under the jurisdiction of “people who screw up” or “someone who made a mistake”. So, unless you fall into the first category (and even then I think there’s a good person underneath), I don’t think you’re a bad person. I think you’re a good person who screwed up.While I do think that there are jerks out there, there’s a big difference between being a jerk and being a bad person. Make sure you know the difference.Anyway, in summary/conclusion, if you think you’re a bad person, then you just need to figure out how to be a better one! And even if you think you can’t make it, just know that I don't hate you for messing up.Good luck!
Why do I feel like everyone around me hates me and would never want to be my friend?
I am going to say something harsh but I speak from experience. Truth is nobody really hates you because truly no one cares that much to go out of their way to hate you. Hating someone is such a taxing emotional investment. Life is already too hard to add to it more baggage.Truth is you probably suffer from very low self esteem, as in you yourself hate you and think everyone else thinks they are better than you. Which, couldn't be further from the truth. As a defence mechanism you are the first one to immediately project and initiate hate towards them and this serves two goals: First one being a defense “You can’t hate me and judge me because I HATE you first" and the second a reaction “ How dare you judge me and hate me, the feeling is mutual". The reality is it is all in your head. All the person facing you is seeing is an immediate and unwarranted hatred towards them from minute one so they respond in kind and with confusion. The solution ? Work on your self esteem.Potential source of your problem? A mother or father that constantly put you down regardless of your accomplishments, it is an old school shitty method of negative reinforcement. They think it encourages the kids to do better.
Why does life hate me?
Well if you ask me from my perspective on life, it is all about karma and the way you treat others, usually I have the most horrid days that I wish I could take back and start them all over again, trust me I have been in your footsteps, but as I come to understand more about the things I do wrong In my life, I feel I have the chance to re correct these mistakes with good doings, which through my experience actually works, when I do good things for others my days feel more worth living and I am able to live with myself knowing I have done something good for a change, I am 22 years old and ever since I was a teenager I have done very bad things that had hurt others and wish I had never done them, but as I got older, I developed this philosophy, which has really took a good toll on my live and I have changed into this amazing person who actually cares for others, and wants to live his live to the fullest, I have bipolar and back then, I often though of killing myself when I would have the most bad days, but something in the back of my mind told me this was wrong (my conscience) and to continue on with my life and so I did, as I grew older, I learned to respect others and my life got better, I rarely had the thought of ending my life which is not the way to leave this world, so please don't kill yourself just because you have had bad days, help others and make something of your life, grow old and in return life wont kick you in the ***, I hope you take my advice.