Mom dislikes my boyfriend?
My mom just seems to have something bad to constantly say about my boyfriend. We've been together for about 6 months and we're in a long distance relationship. He's a biggish guy. She moans how all we do is eat takeaways yet she tells us to get them as she's down the pub. She moaned at him for doing nice things like he bought me and my mom dinner and she only ate half of it. She moans all we do is sit around and eat when there's nothing else to do. - she's just really pissing me off now. It's like she doesn't like him; I tell him and then she says she never said half the stuff she said. All she does is moan and when she isn't she's down the pub. What should I do?
How to deal with mom's boyfriend that i dislike?
Hi..firstly I'd like to know if your father is living and if you get on with him ? Next, not sure how old you are as you say you feel uncomfortable. Has he tried something or is it that you just feel uncomfortable because he is coming over ? If I were your mum, I would have probably gotten my kids to know my boyfriend first before even considering him sleeping over. My suggestion would be to talk to a counsellor on a Kids Help line. Someone who has had young people calling them before about these things as they have better experience answering these questions and it would help you to talk to them on the phone. If this guy makes you feel uncomfortable because he is sleazy I would definitely be talking to an adult immediately..your dad first or grandparents. It is very difficult to understand when you have not written more details.
My boyfriend dislikes my son?
I have a 7 year old son and I have been with my partner for 6 months now. My son has some difficulties with his behavior; he can be stubborn, uncooperative and hyperactive particularly of late. My partner constantly shouts at him and seems to shut him out emotionally, he also feels that my son’s behavior is a personal attack (vendetta) against him and he takes it very personal. When I try to explain to my partner that my son’s behavior is not targeted against him he becomes aggressive and angry and insults my son saying he needs to see a doctor for psychiatric help. What saddenes me the most is even though I have only been with my partner for 6 months my son has accepted him and loves him like a father. My son is always very quick to forgive my partner when he is aggressive towards him and he has genuine love for him which my partner interprets as he just wants something from him. When my son is nice and shows my partner affection he always questions what he wants and feels he is doing it for a reason. I have got to a point where family life with my son and partner is so stressful for me because I am constantly worried that if my son makes one little mistake or just steps out of line my partner with ‘blow’. I have tried talking to my partner but he just becomes aggressive and starts to critisize my parenting skills. He says it is my fault that my 7 year old son is naughty.
How should I tell my mom I dislike her boyfriend?
If you are 16 and you are still in touch with your dad, I think a note to mom would be a good idea. Make sure that your mom gets the note first and not the boyfriend. Choose your words kindly and carefully. You are so close to being an adult yourself, you need to accept the fact that your parents have chosen to be separated and to move in separate directions. If you were in a relationship with the mate of your own choice, you would not give up your chance to have the happiness of a personal mate because one of your children was unwilling to accept the change. You, like your mother and your dad must live your own life and accept changes that may be unwelcome but must be tolerated because the decision is not yours to make. Begin to concentrate on your own future and the help of your dad and other friends close to you to help get you over the rough spots. Give your mom and her new mate the same chance for building a life together that you would want your family members to give you . You do not have to like him because it is likely that you will not be living there when you become independent from your parents. Best wishes to you.
I dislike my boyfriend's mother. I wanted my boyfriend to ignore her. But he doesn’t ignore his mother. What should I do?
I think it is extremely selfish of you to expect your boyfriend to ignore his own mother. Most likely, he will not ignore his mother (who raised him and was an important part of his whole life), for you. You are only thinking of yourself. The reason why he isn’t ignoring his mom is because he doesn’t want to. And frankly, it would be unhealthy for him to break off his relationship with a parent for no apparent reason other than the fact that his gf doesn’t like his mother. A relationship isn’t just about getting what you want-it’s a two-way street. You can either break up with him if you can’t handle him having a relationship with one of the most important people in his life, or you can make an effort to understand his mother and form a good relationship with her.By the way, how would you feel if his mother demanded that he ignore you? You probably wouldn’t feel very good about that, would you? You would probably say things like, “He can make his own decisions, “You don’t get to decide who he lets into his life”, “It’s none of your business”, etc. I think it’s time to reflect on yourself and really understand why you are being so demanding and possessive.
My boyfriend's mother dislikes me. What should I do?
It's a story as old as time: parents being protective as their children find romantic partners. You don't mention your age so I don't know what kind of choices to recommend. It matters how old he is and how dependent your boyfriend is on his parents. You don't say what your boyfriend thinks about and reacts to this situation.There are important assumptions in your questions: that she dislikes you, that it affects your relationship or you, and that you should do something. If you are correct and she is showing dislike in a way that negatively affects you, I wonder how long it has been happening. Because she could be assuming something incorrect about YOU. Usually incorrect assumptions or mistrust can be addressed with the passing of time and respectful, caring behavior on your part over a period of time. If you can do that, she may grow to change her assumption. Or if something happened that caused a situation of distrust, you will need to be able to make amends in an authentic manner if you wish to repair the relationship.Or perhaps you don't need to do anything right now. Part of being an adult is allowing other adults the space to work through their own issues in their own time. By being kind to yourself and to others, and by not reacting, you can be respectful instead of potentially contributing to unnecessary drama. You may even start to understand this woman more, which may help your way of relating to her. Good luck!
My mom dislikes my boyfriend and threatened to not pay for my college if I keep on dating him. Is it a good idea for me to invite him to my sweet 17?
To answer your question: no, it is not a good idea.Now onto other important things. These may sound a bit harsh but they are things you need to keep in mind that may not have occurred to you at this point in your life. Every teenager should know these things.For your consideration #1: Your mother is under no legal, or even moral, obligation to pay for one dime of any post-secondary education for you or any other children she may have. Once you are 18, no parent is obliged to do anything for you: feed you, give you a place to live, much less give you tens or even hundreds of thousands of dollars for college. Although they don’t often evict their children from their homes, they would have a legal right to do so.For your consideration #2: Your mother probably knows more about your boyfriend than you do. She may be hiding something from you that she does not think you’d want or need to know. If she disapproves of this guy, she does not do so because she thinks he is kind, good to you, wants the best for you, would never ever get you pregnant, wants you to have a fabulous career and life, and so forth.For your consideration #3: If my adult friends left the room when my boyfriend showed up, I would be distressed, yes, but I’d also assume they had a damn good reason. If you trust the opinions of your friends, who have never lived on their own, why would you not consider your mother’s opinion ( a woman with years of life experience and wisdom) to be worth anything?For your consideration #4: Your boyfriend might be a nice enough kid with no major issues. Your mother may be very worried that you will get pregnant and quit college to deal with the motherhood stuff that takes over 100% of your life, or that you may not go in the first place if your boyfriend asks you not to. You might think that none of that could ever happen to you. But it has happened to millions of women before you. You’re not immune.Having college paid for is worth far more than any high school fling. I’m not saying your relationship is worthless. I am simply saying that you have a relationship for life with your mother. Don’t screw it up now, because you will wish you hadn’t.
It seems that my boyfriend dislikes my dog. What do I do?
It really does sound like he is afraid of dogs and unwilling to admit it. As for how to address it...1. You are already doing the right thing by working diligently to train your dog. That said, six months is well before many dogs develop self-control good enough to drop these habits immediately. I've been training dogs since I was ten and breed them now (another Nordic, independent breed), and I don't think I've managed to teach any of mine to consistently and solidly not jump or bump until they were about a year old- and with the one dog, I'd been teaching him things since literally *birth*. My best friend has one of my pups who is now eight months old, very biddable for her breed, and has also been taught rules of good behavior since she was a tiny baby (diligently, my friend is a good and dedicated trainer), and that dog isn't reliable not to jump when she's very excited, overtired, or stimulated yet either. She's friendly, people she loves or her owner loves really thrill her, and she's a puppy still. It is what it is.That said, if you are making no progress at all you might want to revisit your training methods and consider a different approach. You should be able to at least see the beginnings of him understanding what it is you want even if he can't control himself very well yet.2. If your boyfriend refuses to discuss this at all you can't actually make much headway otherwise, especially if he can't stand to be near the dog at all. It is fair to neither you nor your puppy to simply banish him whenever boyfriend is around.Your pup is part of your life and who you are. BOTH of you have to be willing to work on this to make this relationship work long-term. You can help by making sure to keep discussion nonjudgmental, free of ultimatums, and framing it as a "both of us, to make it work" issue like you did with us- but you cannot make him do his part.
My Mother Hates My Boyfriend!!!!?
first the Information you have given is not much.for example how old are you and your boyfriend?why have you not officially introduced him to your family as your boyfriend surly that would have made it easier from the start?do you often bring Friends over to hang out and eat with you?do you ask your mother if you can bring friends over?what is his culture,how different is it from yours?why should your mother automatically think this man would get you pregnant?has he a reputation of getting girls pregnant?all these are questions you need to look at.is this your first boyfriend by the way or your first serious one? you must also look at it from your mother`s point of few you are her little girl and will always be so,she is worried about you and wants to protect you.first she will wonder why you are not being upfront to her in the first place when it is obvious that you are together,she will automatically blame it on your boyfriend that you are lying to her.also if the age or cultural difference is big she will worry even more over you.maybe if you could explain to your mother more over your boyfriends culture ,put her more at ease try to let her get to know him better.to me he seems not so bad in the way he doesn`t want to stand between you and your mother.he has obviously been brought up to respect his and other peoples parents.you should try to start again with your mother.have a talk with her alone.make an apology at the start that you never told her who he really is ,say you made a mistake and should have been upfront with her in the start.explain to her what you see in him,what quality`s he has.give her the chance to get to know him.say that he doesn`t want to come between you and if she still doesn`t like him after she`s got to know him he will leave you alone as he doesn`t want to come between you.let your mother know that he respect`s her as your mother and does not want to cause problems between you.say you would also repect your boyfriend stand and give him up,if that`s what your mother really wants but at the same time your mother must try to get to know your boyfriend more before she makes that decission.also your boyfriend must also appologise like you for not being totally upfront in the first place.what ever happens i wish you luck.
My mom hates my boyfriend. Please help?
My boy friend and I have been dating for 6 months now. My mom has disliked and complained about every single boyfriend I’ve had, I can understand about them because they were not worth my time. The problem is that I have finally found an amazing guy who treats me like his queen, his good looking and his family love me! I am so in love with him and I wish my mom would be happy with my decisions. I am 20 this year. I have overheard my mom talking to her boyfriend and family about my boyfriend and I, they have said things like he is not a man because he can’t give them a proper hand shake but that is sooo olden days where a handshake really tells if you are a man or not. I am in university and they have always promised to support me. Now that I have a boyfriend they expect him o pay for EVERYTHING. It’s not fair on him and I’m not even living with him! it is so frustrating because when I confront them about what they have said they deny everything and call me stupid! I don’t deserve this and I’ve tried talking to them but it never ends well!! They have said the ugliest things about him and the sad thing is his nothing they say he is! Love is blind but I can tell that this is an amazing man. They saying that the only reason I’m still with him is because they have told me that they don’t like him and so ill stay with him to spite them! Please help me!