How would you deal with a best friend who chose her boyfriend over you?
You describe her as choosing her boyfriend “over you”.Seeing things that way is a choice. You have chosen to see the love (or lust?) relationship between your friend and her boyfriend as a kind of rival to your own relationship with her.It doesn’t work that way.A friendship is quite different to a love relationship (which will often also include friendship in any case). You can’t possibly expect to stay number one in your friend’s affections when she has grown up and found herself a boyfriend.Did you really expect her to spend most of her time with you - and just fit him in around the edges of her life? That would be a horrible way to treat a boyfriend.You are still her friend. She just can’t see you as much as before. She will also probably want to keep certain things private between her and her boyfriend now. That’s normal, and another part of growing up and maturing.Be happy for her - that’s what a true friend would do. When you do meet up, keep things upbeat. Don’t whine about not seeing her as often as you’d like etc.Friendships wax and wane throughout life. Some may last for years, others for only a season.Let her enjoy her current romance. Who knows - it may be a short-lived thing.So try to let go a little. Don’t be that not to be that clingy, needy kind of friend. Be as supportive as you’d like her to be for you if the roles were reversed.
Best friend chooses boyfriend over me?
To be honest, I feel hurt that this is the case. My best friend has been dating this guy for 10 months, and she always manages to talk about him in our conversations, a lot. We are 17, and she is slightly obsessing over this relationship. We used to text quite a bit, but now I barely hear from her, and she just ignores texts. Last night even, we were having a text conversation, and she just suddenly stopped replying at around 10pm. I got into college this morning, and she tells me how tired she was because she was texting her boyfriend until 2 in the morning! It's frustrating - I wanted to organise going to the cinema with our mutual group of 5 friends because we hadn't met the other girls for over 5 months. My best friend backed out - to see her boyfriend, who she sees everyday. I have a boyfriend too, but I still make time to see my best friend. I just feel she values her boyfriend above me, whilst I value her and my boyfriend equally. I just don't know what to do. Should I tell her how I feel? Or should I just go and hang out with my other friends, and back out of our friendship?
My boyfriend chooses bars & his friends over me, what should I do?
We have been on & off for 3 years now, long story short the last time we got back together has been almost perfect. He even surprised me with a promise ring on Valentines Day. Everything was going good until he started to recently choose his guys friends over me and the bar to go out & get drunk instead of making time to hang out with me. We hadn't seen each other for a whole week, and the funny thing is he lives right up the street from, we had plans to hang this Saturday then out of now where he tells me its one of his friends birthday & asked if we could only hang for two hours & then he was gonna go out. This was the 3rd weekend he pulled this kind of bs, so I told him I'm not gonna have him half *** sh*t with me, all he would want to do in those two hours was try & have sex, & then would go out. When I would rather actually go out & do something! Go to dinner, go to a movie, arcade, anything but just stay home & mess around! All he does through out the week is tell me how much he misses me & sh*t but then when the time comes where he can actually see me he chooses drinking & the bars over me. I grew up with my dad drinking a lot, & I myself don't drink & hate being around drunk people. & he's started to develop a lot of these habits. He says I'm over reacting but I don't think I am, also in the past he's gave out his number to girls & done a lot of shady stuff behind my back while out drinking with his friends. So I deff don't have his full trust. The easy thing for me to do would be to move on, but I don't I can quite yet. I've already tried talking to him & telling him how I feel & how it pushes me away when he does this, & all he says is that not every weekend is going to be like this. What should I do? Any advice would be helpful!
My best friend chooses her boyfriend over me? advice?
aw dude, this sucks cause i went thrugh the same ****. wanna know what i did? i got better friends. i guess i didnt handle too maturely though... see, i'm the type of person who bottles it in. if your anything like me... word of advice: DONT BOTTLE IT IN. you gotta say whats on your mind! if you REALLY want to keep this friendship than all you gotaa do is communicate. If it still doesn't work out right then... find new friends. it IS a growing up process. I had a really close bestfriend i mean we did EVERYTHING together. but she fell short. she fell short on me many times. when she starte doing it too often.. i burst. i couldn't hold it in. i told her then just stopped talking to her altogether. we didn't start talking again at all until like 6 months later. i learne you could never trust anyone. i trusted her with everything and i believed her when she said she would always be there for me. but she wasnt there. i was having a hard asss time at home but all she cared about was how i wasnt being my normal bubly self. she was concerned about how it affected HER. she would get mad when i wasnt as excited about stupid little things when i was more worried about the hardships i was facing at home. word to the wise: dont EVER think you know a person. cause you don't. what you really should do is find other friends. can i just say it IS possible to have more than one bestfriend? cause it is. dont limit yourself to only counting on her. plus, its always good to have a variety of friends. trust me. cause if for some reason she stops talking to you altogether then you'll start to feel lonely when the truth is, you ARENT lonely. theres so much doors waiting to be opened... so go open them. hope i helped.
Scorpio Boyfriend chooses his friends over the girlfriend?
You know what he sounds pretty immature. Its hard when your more mature then your bf. Its pretty selfish for him to go to meet your folks then be more involved with his phone, like seriously first impressions matter and the fact you have to constantly tell him to put it away etc etc This whole sweet text other girls, srry that's very "playa" like traits. How about maybe try having a d & m with him? Maybe even a short separation, just so that you can clearly see what's really happening with a clear head. Compatibility zodiac wise you aren't a good mix, but everyone is different, i have heaps of great Leo friends that i get along brilliantly with, anyways hope it all works out for you :)