I ruined my moms christmas. what can i do to make it up to her?
First off, she shouldn't yell at you like that. She should have told you what it was or brought it with her so you wouldn't look. And to answer your question, I think you should thoroughly explain to her that there was no way of you knowing what was inside the notebook because she hasn't even said anything about it. You could also add how you were just curious. Now, if she's still mad you could lie a little bit to make things sound better. You could say "but once I looked and realized what it was, I swear I closed it and put it back where I found it. I didn't want to know anyway" If that's the truth, then bravo. If it's not, try not to give anything away. If it's too late for that lie, don't even try it. After that, you could say how much your mother's generous thoughts mean to you and you really didn't mean to 'ruin' her Christmas, then tell her that everybody could still have a really fun time on Christmas and that this shouldn't really damage the holiday spirit. If she's still worked up, buy her a really cool gift (be it a diamond necklace or a new iPhone or whatever) but that's only if all else fails. If all else does fail and you don't have a lot of money to spend on her, you could get her fake jewelery that looks like the real thing (snowflake earrings from target, for example) You could also make her a really nice gift from the heart :) Hope I helped, and merry Christmas! :)
Sister ruined christmas?
I agree with other answers that there is something else going on. If this kind of behavior is new, there is a serious problem in her life. It could be a health problem, she may be using drugs or alcohol (or having a mental reaction to a prescription), someone may have died that you don't know about, her husband may be having an affair, one of her kids on drugs, who the heck knows? If your relationship was good before, give her a pass for a good long time. Someone doesn't change so radically for no reason. there will be other ruined Christmases someday, so don't get too wrapped up in the bad timing. *** PS I hope you read this. You cannot change your sister, so the only thing you can do is respond to her different (learn not to escalate her, if applicable, and also there are tricks like "fogging" that I am no good at and still trying to learn. you have to figure out which might work for you) google fogging communication and that will give you some websites that will have other useful advice. You will have to accept that you don't have a perfect family and will not have a Christmas the way you want it to be. I come from a family full of abuse and it is a minefield dealing with it and my therapist finds it unbelievable that I can even do it (it is a very bad situation there). You might have to limit contact with your sister, if you can't find a way to deal with her. A therapist can role play with you, or your husband can practice with you if he is good at that stuff. Make sure he is your ally in this, which I'm sure he's frustrated and distressed over it too. It is so hard to disengage feelings and use the communication tricks. keep in mind you are the little sister, and anything you say is likely to be at least partly discounted by other siblings as a result. Sometimes you can be the perfect communicator, and it still doesn't work.
My 19 year old son ruined christmas?
my 19 yr old college son ruined christmas. we bought him a 650.00 laptop and he is saying that he wanted a mac notebook. i can not afford a mac notebook. he would not even be around the family yesterday. i am so fed up with his crap! this is the straw that broke the camels back so to speak. we are not wealthy but usually spend about 500-600 dollars on each of our kids for xmas. he says that I ruined christmas. i am at a complete loss. he was diagnosed with crohns disease when he was 14. his medication was changed about a year ago and he started to feel better.before that he just hung out at home. a year ago while being a senior in high school he started to smoke pot and hang around questionable kids. he did graduate barely and went off to college. we have gotten parent loans to help him in college. i have tried to give my children the opportunities that i never had. he does not appreciate anything i do. i know that i have babied him because of his illness. i do not know what to do. i am ready to kick his butt out. i want to return the gifts, but i am afraid that i may loose him forever. i am a mother that needs some help on how to deal with an ungrateful 19 year old. HELP
My Dad Ruins Christmas Every Year?
This sounds really mean but my dad ruins christmas every year. I love my dad a lot but its getting ridiculous. Last year it was because my mum went visiting my grandma, it was christams eve and she went to deliver my grandmas presents. My grandma was ill with a cough, and when my mum came back my dad started shouting saying christmas was ruined and that she had ruined his christmas by going over there and risking everyones health. The next day he stormed out and walked around town,came back was in a mood all day,then started moaing saying that my mum had ruined his christmas and didnt eat any christmas dinner and even stayed in his office upstairs all day. The year before the tree fell because the dog rolled into it, and he started shouting at me because he said i was making the dog do that (wtf!). My mum tries her best every year,even when my dad does this to make sure christmas os happy.He doesnt do this every year. What should i do if he ruins it again!!!!
I just ruined Christmas. Do you think there is a way to fix it, and should I even try?
Right now don't do anything. This just happened and emotions are still very much there. First you need to calm down, you didn't do anything wrong. You clearly love your family for wanting to make a good Christmas for them and they are the ones who should be coming to talk to you. If they do come to talk to u don't do anything to make it worse. Don't yell or show attitude or anything (I know it'll be hard) It doesn't sound like you've ruined Christmas, just things got out of hand. Your family are still having fun which is something they should have included you in. If you really want to make things better, go and talk to your family, apologize for things you have done and say it's Christmas and you want to make it a good Christmas. Merry Christmas to you :)
My mom hates Christmas?
Your Mom has "Issues..." And the Trick IS; NOT to let Her make Them YOURS !! :o If Your Mother CHOOSES to dislike the Holidays, then let HER play "Mrs Scrooge." -It doesn't mean YOU have to. Just try to empathize with Her as BEST You Can. -And Celebrate the Spirit of the Season the way YOU Want... Because after all; it's YOUR Holiday- too !! :)
My mom has ruined my life?
im 16 male. My mom wont let me exercise or workout. Shes a control freak and a drama queen. I got a stress fracture in 08-09. Since then she hasnt let me do any type of body exercise. FFS! It was just a stress fracture. She must have serious mental issues. But she doesnt understand what she is doing to me. My life has wasted away and iv become thinner and thinner. I dont go out no more because of self esteem issues, iv stayed indoors since 09-10 and 10-11 apart from school, havent been anywhere else. Working out made me happy and confident. But behind my back she sold all of my equipment and now refuses to let me buy it back again. I told her i got a stress fracture from running, which i did!! but she phoned up this gym and threatened to take legal action and got everyone under 18 banned even though i constantly shouted at her that it didnt even happen at the gym. Now im left with nothing. Iv develeped major depression, i havent been able to take care of my own body. I socially isolated mytself and only turned up for 55 % of school because i thought every one would laugh at me. I look nothing like i used to and its all because of my mom. She has had problems in the past. When i was little she used to check me all the time if i feel in the road because of needles. She used to come in my room and say stuff to me like did you fall on a syringe, where did you get that red dot from and would generally scare me. That made me develop anxiety and anxiety attacks. She totally messed me up because she would be totally scared of everything, always washing her hands etc, That i had to keep going to the doctors, hospital because i kept shaking and had panic attacks and it was all down to the things she would say. She has completely ruined my life and now i feel like i can do nothing about my self image that i just want to die.
Dealing with nasty and ungrateful family member at Christmas?
Hi there, I know this question is pretty early on in the year, but I’d like some help or information before Christmas. My brother (36) always ruins family gatherings at Christmas. Last year, mum invited him round for dinner, like we always do, and he was (reluctantly) opening his presents. He was saying: “What the f*** am I going to do with this present? I didn’t want a f***ing (insert present here).” We ignored it. The Christmas dinner was served and he didn’t bother to help himself. He just stared at it as if it was a piece of trash. Afterwards, mum had a surprise present for him (it was a very expensive camera and printer). He opened it, still in an obnoxious mood, and found that there was a component missing. He started screaming at my mum and she started to cry her heart out. She ran upstairs and he ran after her, shouting. I told him to leave, and he did. Other Christmases have been the same: i.e. him putting his fist through our door, saying I dress like a slut etc. How can you deal with a person like this? Do we stop inviting him round? I’m really sick of our Christmases being ruined, and I’d rather stay out of his way altogether.