My mum never hugs me anymore??????????:(?
Okay, so I'm a 'huggy' person if that's how you wanna put it :-) I always hug people! And I tell close friends and other members of my family that I love them alot to make them know I do. Me and my mum are close but it seems as if she can never be bothered to hug me anymore? She used to always hug me and tell me she loves me but that's when I was a bit younger, I'm 13 now. I know it may sound stupid that I'm wining about wanting more love from my mum but it really isnt. My mum is on her own and she's single, she has been hurt and lost people in the past and seperated from my dad when I was 6 after 11 years together if that matters. I still see my dad alot and he's always giving me hugs telling me how much I mean too him. But when I go hug my mum she doesn't hug me she just lies there and doesn't put her arms around me, I feel unloved it really upsets me! My mums mum (My nan) doesn't really hug people either, but my mum's a caring person and hugs and kisses everyone else apart from her only child? She just can't be bothered It seems :(I see my friends and they don't even want to go near their mums or hug them and never tell them they love them or anything! am I weird for wanting more care? I need to spend more time with my mum but she just never does anything! She's lazy.. Do you know why she doesn't hug me and doesn't care? Thanks for reading:-) No mean answers please? .. Btw, do you think I should ask her? I dunno why she's suddenly changed.x
My mother only cares about money?
And it's pretty upsetting. We've been poor all of our lives. My father and mother split. Dad is well off now. Mum still struggles to live, but I earn enough to make sure she lives quite luxuriously and so she should. She would starve herself just to feed my brother and I when we were growing up. The thing is that she was going on about the iPad 2 which she fell in love with over a month ago. She kept going on and on about how lovely they were etc. But now I believe she thinks I might buy it for her (which I already have - way back when she first wanted one), and she's going on and on about not wanting something so expensive and that she'd return it and have the money instead. She really rants on about it. So should I just give it to her now and tell her to ****ing return it then, since all she cares about is money? It bloody hurts. She can never accept a pricey gift. She always whinges about how expensive it must be. All I want is for her to finally have the finer things in life. She grew up as a poor farmer's daughter and was poor all throughout her life. What do I do? Give it to her on Christmas anyway or give it to her right now and let her know how disappointed I am?
Stressed out caring for parent with Alzheimer's?
I have a friend whose mom has dementia and she and her brother are caring for her along with hired help during the days (they just added the help in the last year). She and her brother split the nights and stay there with her mom then. She is cooking meals for her and she is exhausted as she also works during the day. Her children are all raised though, her youngest is away in college. I think hiring someone (or a few people) to help is what you need to work towards. Only do what you absolutely can as you must be there for your kids, they are not raised yet! My friend is VERY glad about the hired people (they have two who split the days) as it has eased the burden tremendously. My dad has just been diagnosed with dementia, he is still OK, but I am aware of what's coming (and he's only 71). Only my mom and one sister are in town to care for him when needed and we all have kids we are still raising as well. We will have to hire day help when things get bad. Your siblings must be made to understand this. They may make you the bad guy, but hiring help is not a bad thing. It will ease everyone's load. Good Luck.
In the movie "precious" when her mom said "come and take care of mommy" what did she mean?
SPOILER ALERT! :) I'm only repeating this because it answers your question. The mother is forcing Precious to perform 'oral sex' on her (thus, 'taking care of mommy because you took my man') If she performs the oral sex, she will give Precious the money she needs. Or at least promises her the money but then doesn't give her any which is why Precious steals the bucket of chicken. The mother later tells the social worker (played by Mariah Carey) that she does this to Precious and that's the moment a tear runs down the social worker's face. Very sick and very sad...
I told my fiance to stop giving money to his mother because we need to pay for a mortgage. Am I being unreasonable?
Traditionally, parents raised children as an aging insurance to have someone take care of them when they are old. That's before social security and government assistance step in. Especially for the eldest child, it's epected as a duty or a family deed. Asian families are the worst in maintaining this tradition while Americans have shun away from making themselves a burden to their children. I for one do not expect anything from my kids. I think there is nothing wrong for you two to put your family before others. I think this is what you should do. Sit down with the wife and have a heart to heart talk. Do not stop the support completely but let the family know that it's not a set amount committee but rather what you can afford to give if they needed the money. When I first got here, I did what your fiancé did and gave a portion to my family religiously like tidungs. I didn't have a big wedding and skim on everything until I got wedding pictures of my elder brother and found out how ravish and extraordinary of his wedding. I was so mad that they didn't need my money but didn't tell me. Here I am struggling between raising my own family and live a thrifty life style so I can send money home every month. Needless to say, I stopped sending money home and start living my life without feeling like a tool. So give but give wisely and the family will adjust. Best wishes.
My mom requires me to pay back for taking care of me for my entire life. Should I pay everything back to her?
Not only no, but hell no. She should be ashamed of even asking you.It was her choice to have a child. If she didn’t want a child, she had a choice to protect herself from getting pregnant.She has no right to ask for any type of reimbursement, for her having a child, especially from the child she raised.Shame on her, for her audacity, to even ask this of a child.How about asking her for your inheritance. That should slap her in the face. This is outrageous behavior, for a grown woman. Takes a lot of balls to ask you for money, to raid you. Tell her to get it from your dad. I bet he isn’t even in this equation. I’m I right? I know. Forget it. And that’s what you need to do. Move on. You don’t need this woman in your life. She’s cruel and evil.Good luck. I hope things will work out for you. I’m very supportive of you, for having the courage to ask for our opinions, in this regard.I love my kids. I would never ask them, such a thing. It seems so outrageous, to me, in light of the fact I lost a child in a drowning accident, 36 years ago, the 27th of November. My mother-in-law blamed me, because I was on a trip. I was a flight attendant. I could not be working and home, at the same time. But it was my fault. This sounds like your mother.Id tell her to go to hell, before I’d give her a dime.The best of everything.Chris
Family is short on money but they spend it all on Cigarettes?
Alright I just don't know what to do. I just turned 18 and it seems I am the only responsible person in my family. I am the Housekeeper. I Mow the lawn I take care of all the dogs and keep the house spotless. I do not spend money on anything extra at all just what food is brought to the house and I shower and use a little bit of electricity but I do not keep more than one thing on at a time that includes lights. To the point! My mother is addicted to cigarettes and my brother just went from Dipping tobacco back to cigarettes. They buy big brand cigarettes even not generic they buy marlboro. Which is like 6-7$ a pack? My mom smokes at the very least one pack a day sometimes she buys two. So lets say she buys 1 and a half a day. My brother is about the same if not worse. At the very minimum that is 420$ a MONTH! My brother is 25 he doesn't have a job and he doesn't even go to work to help my mom out anymore he is messing with some married woman he knew in highschool with a baby and it's starting to piss me off. I take care of his dog he doesn't. And my mothers dog. I have no choice really to even get a job I wish I could but there's too much responsibility here that needs taken care of. I can't even go out with my friends (except for weekends) So it's like a full time job for me. So they go and spend money on cigarettes like it's nothing even after I tell them how much they're sending a month. My brother just bought a bunch of **** to fix his car which he won't even use the damn thing to go get a job with he'll just be ******* around all the time. It's really getting frustrating. So it just got to the point where my mom had to get a 600$ Loan and she'll have to pay 100$ a month now which we can NOT afford. I ask her what was she thinking she replied what else are we suppose to do? I say quit spending 400+ dollars on cigarettes a month and we'd be TOTALLY fine. Yet she some how shrugs it off. WTF is wrong with my family? It feels like a damn prison in this house sometimes.