I found inappropriate photos on my 15 year old daughter’s Facebook account. What should I do?
It is impossible to really answer this question as most teenagers post things that us oldies would consider inappropriate. I would have been FURIOUS if my mother had looked at my Face Book Page without my permission, although now of course, I totally understand why mothers are tempted to do it. I think that you must admit to your daughter that you have been spying on her and then tell her WHY you did and WHY it is so inappropriate to post such stuff. Does she realise that once anything is posted out there online, it is there forever and NOTHING is safe? Maybe then she will realise that she must be far more careful about what she posts. If these photos will be harmful for her or another person, try to explain to her why. Try, if you can, talk to her as if she is a sensible young woman and not rant and rave at her, then she is more likely to listen to you. It is so important for a daughter of that age to feel that she has some privacy, but she can rely on your to be there to be her protector and friend, not as a grownup trying to be dominating and over-protective her. She must know that you are worried for one reason only, that you love her.
My Almost 12 Year Old Wants a Facebook?
Hi!, My 11 year old son (12 in January) wants to get a Facebook. He is very mature for his age, and most of his friends have one. He says "They make fun of me at school every day for not having a facebook" But I am not too sure about that.... Parents, are you dealing with a similar problem? Please answer!
My little 12 year old sister has had sex! :'(?
I know there are already stories on the same topic but my story is different from the rest. Well, my parents just found out yesterday that my little sister who is 12 has been lying to them and telling them that she is going to her friends house afterschool some days to makeup for the U's she gets on her report cards and that her friends' parents (who is usually a girl) is going to take her home, when she really goes to her "boyfriend's" house (which my parents as well as I have made it clear that she cant and isn't old enough to have one) instead then goes to her gal friends house after to get picked up from there. Well, she got caught by my parents yesterday and they took away her phone and iPod and asked me to look through her messages to see what she's been saying to her "boyfriend" (13 yr old and a really bad influence!) and I read some really terrible things. I found out she's been going to his house, having sex and she has smoked weed TWICE already! I'm 21 and I didn't have sex till 18 because sex NEVER crossed my mind at that age! AND I've NEVER smoked anything! I don't know where my parents or myself went wrong with her because I HAVE talked to her about sex and have told her to wait and I HAVE showed her pics of STDs and birthing videos but she always told me she wasnt and wouldn't do that until she was old enough. *sigh* And it just hurts more to see that my mom feels like she's failed. I told my parents that they should take her to a clinic to get a pregnancy test done and put her on the birth control shot because we can't be with her every hour of the day whenever she tries to be sneaky again. I even mentioned summer bootcamp for her because she's getting wayyy out of hand. She's the youngest out of 4, my older brother is 22, I'm 21, and my lil bro is 16, and we each have a significant other so I'm assuming she wants one herself but she's way too young. :( We don't know what to do with her.
I just found out my 15 year old little sister is not a virgin?
This came as a shocker! So apparently she had a pregnancy scare, and i know this because she left her facebook logged on to my computer and her chat was still up with someone she was talking to about it. I dont know how to react. Im shocked,sad,angry because I would have never expected this from her. I thought i knew her more than anyone. She fronts like she's this goody goody and she's always degrading the "sluts" in her grade. Part of me wants to comfront her and just go off on her mostly because she claims that she's such a christian and she tricks my parents into thinking she could be trusted and here i am fighting to get my parents trust at 19. They trust her more than anyone and that really urks me!! Im also dissapointed, were really close and it just saddens me :( What do I do? I dont wanna blow things out of proportion, It may seem like i'm overreacting..but you have to understand the situation...should i just stay quiet?
My 13 year old sister keeps borrowing my clothes its soo annoying!!?
she takes my clothes and wears them when she goes out with her friends. she takes pictures posts them up on facebook. its soo annoying. when people comment on her clothes she tells them where she got them from and she never says there mine. today i caught her wearing a £60 jacket. the thing that is annoying me the most is my mum told her to wear it. she always does this. what should i do?
I found inappropriate stuff on my 15 year old daughter. What should I do?
Phone? Computer? what do you mean? am i reading the question wrong?Her clothes? in her pockets? on her as in contraband? what inappropriate stuff?Grown up Stuff or illegal Stuff?if it is illegal, then unless you want her to be taken away from you for some time, i would keep Quiet even if you are a Truthful person.I do suggest you see if you can keep an eye out for any of her friends that could be getting her in trouble and see if you can influence her away from them.If it is 18+ over stuff, then understand your daughter is growing up and she respects your privacy. she is pretty much the age of consent which is 16+ so if it is sexual, i suggest you do nothing.If the Lad is in his 20s, i suggest you keep a close eye but don't intervene. Your daughter isn't stupid and i am sure her contraband is protection in her getting pregnant. if it is sex toys, then she is experiencing orgasmic pleasure without taking risks, so i wouldn't do anything.
Why is the youth of India unable to understand that Facebook is a waste of time?
I don't wish to sound biased, so please allow me to begin by saying I'm 18 years old and I don't intend to defend or berate facebook. Simple facts.I started using Facebook when I was 14 years old (Many more sign up early, even though the official age is 13, nobody seems to care)My reason? Everybody was there, had to be something interesting. So, in a bid to not be left out, I signed up and started wasting my time.Silly apps and games, sharing nonsensical quotes by irrelevant people, I regret every second I spent doing that. However things started changing. The basic idea of facebook was to reconnect with people you can't physically meet. That started happening. Amidst the summer programs, inter-school events, etc there are a number of friends I found. Facebook seemed to be the only way I could talk to them. They were all interesting people and it'd be a shame if I couldn't talk to them anymore. Facebook provided me with a platform, and that was NOT a waste of time.However, I'd say Facebook is not subject to anyone's choices anymore. Chances are you will be on facebook, the only difference can be made is how you use it.Basically what I'm trying to say is you're asking the wrong question. The youth is already on facebook. 'How do they make sure they don't waste their time?' should be more like it.Times are gone when people could be convinced they shouldn't use facebook. I don't see that happening anymore. My 7 year old sister wants an account, because all her friends are 'online'. She'll be surely wasting her time, but fortunately I'll be able to tell her how NOT to waste her time. Tough times ahead, but I don't see Facebook disappearing. We have to embrace it and make better decisions instead.
13 year old- Me and my boyfriend broke up?
So I've been going out with this kid in my grade for almost ten months. I turned 13 in January, and he is turning 13 next week. So, his friends hacked his Facebook and "dumped" me, but he said he didn't want to break up with me. The next Friday, he says he doesn't know if he wants to be with me, and after school he says his Mother is trying to stop it and that he has to break it off, and he'll ask me out again. I left after that. I don't really believe some of the things he said. Like, I thought maybe he encouraged his friends to do what they did on Facebook, and maybe he does not love me anymore and just wanted to break it off nicely. There's a dance this Friday, and I have a plan for a rebound but I did like our relationship and want something like that with the person I love. It was the first time someone's really liked me back. I can't stop thinking about it, but at the same time, I'm sorta happy it has ended. It makes me sad to see 10 months down the drain and I think I'm emotionally upset right now. Any advice out there?
How would you feel about your 12 year old wanting to use Instagram?
I do not know the age where a person can even have an Instagram account, but other sites like Facebook require someone to be 13 years old. I am not familiar myself with how Instagram works.A lot of my comments therefore will consider social media in general rather than Instagram specifically, due to my own lack of knowledge. If Instagram cannot be used or abused in the ways I describe, then that is because I do not know how it works.I would certainly forbid a child of 12 to have a social media account of any kind. There are many dangers even for sensible young people, and teens have occasionally been murdered after having been groomed online by people posing as other teens.Even quite aside from rarer and more serious incidents, there tends to be quite a bit of bullying that occurs on social media. It gives young teens another avenue to bully. The worst part about it is that it can continue at all hours of the night and on the weekend. The victim has no respite. There have been a number of suicides due to such relentless targeted bullying. There is something about the on-line environment that tends to draw out more bullying. The circle of bullies has been know to grow quite large. More people will say threatening things on-line, and worse things than most would ever say in real life.Even a year later at age 13, many young people cannot handle the responsibility of using such sites.My advice, even for early to mid-teens would be for them to only have access at home. If they need a phone to contact you, then a basic phone that rings and texts is all that is needed. Most children these days have access to or own phones and tablets with data that allow them to be using social media in various ways, not all of them good. Using it at home when someone is around is much better if the child is only 13 or 14. Later on, gradual release of responsibility can occur.It is not good to never allow it, as once they are 18, they can get these things anyway. If they have not had this gradual transition, where you talk about what is appropriate and what is not, then they are likely to be too lacking in good decision making skills to handle the sudden increase in freedom well.