14 year old dating a 21 year old?
I have known this guy for quite some time and I have liked him since I talked to him and I never really thought we would ever be in a relationship or anything, until he told me he liked me too. I personally think that age is just a number, and with my being extremely mature for my measley age of 14, that it would work. The only thing is that how other people would view us being together. I know you all are going to say he just wants something else, sex, and not a relationship at all. We hung out last night and he had every opportunity to make a pig of himself, and try to stuff with me, but he didn't and we spent the whole time talking. We did kiss, and before he even tried to get close to me he asked "Is this okay? Can I kiss you?" I must say to everyone that this is not just some highschool crush, it is really something that I would like to happen, but like I said it's just how people like my mom would see it, i dont know Im really confused. Please dont call him a pedophile or anything, that's not it at all.
20 year old friend dating 16 year old male?
Well I have no problem with it but yeah the 20 year old is dating a 16 year old and ONE of their parents knows about it and its ok. Is it legal to date? im sure they wont be having sex soon but isn't legal if the parents are ok with it? isnt the age of consent 16 years old in CA? anyways is it legal if they JUST date?
My 14 year old friend is dating a 20 year old man?
What he is doing is illegal. There are laws that stop older men or women from picking on younger people that don't have the experience to deal with someone with more experience. At 14 I thought I knew what I was doing. Nothing is farther from the truth and I know because I've been there and done some incredibly dumb things. You may lose your friend because of your telling but you have to take the chance. I would talk to her parents and insist they call the police and get them involved. If they don't, you need to call them. Your friend will end up scarred and/or pregnant. There are those guys out there that stick with you for quite a while when you are a virgin...just because you are or were a virgin. That may or may not be his case but for sure....he should be in a different place than she is and dating girls closer to his own age. To me it shows he has a mental problem of some kind...Usually guys that date really young girls can't find girls their own age to fill what he needs from a girlfriend. All I can say for sure is that she is being used by him and at 20 he knows he is breaking the law. Proof of the mental stuff is that guys that want to manipulate you on a daily basis start by getting rid of all your friends so that they are the only ones around and they are the only ones the girls can rely on. Whatever happens and whatever she says, tell her you will always be her friend and that you did what you did for her sake. If for nothing else, she will never find the right guy for her while she is all hung up on this character. Tell her parents first so that the facebook stuff is still there and be sure they get a copy of it for the police. YOur friend is going to be mad but tell her you will always be there and if he is the guy for her, he will wait until she is of legal age. Also be sure her parents get her tested for any diseases. It isn't going to be pleasant for you but you are a really good friend. Hang in there and see it to the end.
Is it okay for a 14 year old to hang out with a 20 year old as friends?
Friendships between people who are relatively far apart in age can be great, as long as there is mutual respect for boundaries. The intellect knows no age differences, and a 12 or 14 year old mind can connect with an 80 year old mind and be friends. It may be rare but it happens.The challenge is that the life concerns of a 14 year old and the life concerns of a 20 year old are likely to be pretty far apart. In general, the older person is assumed to be more mature and therefore, ethically and legally as well as practically, has the most responsibility in maintaining healthy boundaries. Part of this involves recognizing that it’s pretty common for younger people to develop romantic crushes on people who are a bit older. Happens all the time, and is a sign that a friendship has risks.Dating and acting on romantic feelings are only appropriate with someone close to your own age, if at all, when you’re in your mid-teens.A healthy friendship involves mutual interests and activities, no big upsets if your friend is busy or committed elsewhere, not being jealous of your friend’s other relationships, and vice versa.Secrecy—feeling you need to hide your friendship from your family or hers would be a red flag.Long hours in each other’s company not doing much of anything could also be a negative sign of an obsessive character of the friendship.Positive friendships should make the rest of your life better. Better grades, not worse. Better other friendships, not conflict with other friends.
Is it okay for a 14-year-old to have a 20-year-old friend?
A friendly mentor relationship is great. A man with a group of boys is very healthy. A woman doing women things with a group of girls is awesome. If a 20 something man is regularly hanging out with a teenage girl, call the police. Is it overkill? Only a little. Certainly don't let them be alone together. Any man who is willing to risk the appearance of criminal activity should be suspected. I'm a 39 year old man with multiple life experiences that lend to my position. Don't learn this lesson through personal experience.
14 year old girl dating a 20 year old guy?
I really like this guy and he likes me. I know the age difference seems weird right now but it doesn't once you're older. Anyways, I really want to date him and my mom thinks he'll try to rape me or something because of his age. I know that if he did try anything I would say no and he would respect that. We have a lot in common and we're like best friends. I think my mom doesn't like him because he has tattoos and this 'rough' look but he's really nice once you get to know him. He has a great personality. I want to tell her that you can't just judge people by looking at them but I know she wouldn't want to talk to him more since she knows I want to date someone that much older. I need to know what to do.
My best friend is 16 and she's dating a 20 year old. Is this pedophilia?
Legally, your best friend is not of age to consent to a relationship with a 20 year old, sexual or not. Legally, that 20 year old can be charged and convicted of corrupting a minor, molesting a child, and statutory rape if they’ve ever had sex. This would make him a registered sex offender and it would affect him all through the rest of his life. He knows this, trust me, and he’s willing to take his chances.I suggest you be a good friend and tell her parents, as well as informing the local police. If they’re “ok with it,” it’s probably a lie she’s feeding you & that 20 year old might be older than he says he is. When my friend and I were 15, a guy who claimed to be 20 was very interested in her but she said he was too old and “didn’t want to get him in trouble.” We saw him the other day while taking care of a civil court case in an orange Ulster County Jail jumper and, as it turns out, he’s 38 years old, making him 28 when we were 15. He is a registered sex offender and was in court that day for not registering when he moved to our town.
Should a 20-year-old date a 14-year-old?
Absolutely not!We are at a point in society, where we acknowledge that a 14 year old is a child, and not developed mentally to handle adult situations. Not saying some kids aren't wise beyond their years, but they are stillnot developed adults.Some will argue, “what's the difference if a 26 year old can be with a 20 year old?” I see, “refer to the above paragraph.”A 20 year old in a relationship with a 14 year old is illegal, and morally sick. If you know someone doing this, call the police. It is a crime. Some states allow it, most that do require parent knowledge AND consent, along with the child's consent. Regardless, it's not right and should not be allowed.If this question is about yourself, please, seek help. It is wrong.
How do I convince my 20-year-old friend that he shouldn't date a 14-year-old? He doesn't have bad intentions, but it's still not okay and he won't listen.
Define “bad”.Because any and all intentions he has in dating a 14 year old are bad. Even if he does not intend to have sex with her (he's lying. What 20 y/o male is not interested in sex?) She is underage-does he understand the concept of “jail bait"?? She in 8th, maybe 9th grade, and is just beginning to understand the big wide world. She's immature-even if he thinks she acts and looks (read that as “big tits”) sooooo much older! He graduated 2 years ago and is a man of the world (cough-cough). Their interests and experiences are worlds apart. At 20, if he wants to be with someone so young, at best he’s socially awkward. At worst, he's looking to exploit and control a female, not for a healthy/equal relationship. But I'm preaching to the choir here, I know. You've probably made all those points with him and more.What about the girl? Is she interested in him? Are they already seeing each other? What do her parents know about him? A 14 y/o girl who is willing to date a man who's out of high school has very likely got problems in her family and is looking for a daddy figure, and/or a way out. Including a baby. What a recipe for disaster.What can you do to stop him? Depends on how involved you want to be. Refuse to spend time with him when he's with her, because that gives them social validation as a couple. If her parents don't realize how old he is, tip them off. Make a report to DSHS. It might be a bit much to report him to the police, but you might learn a few things if you call the local non-emergency number and just ask some questions about what their recommendations might be for this situation. Good luck.