What should I do if my 15 year old daughter refuses to go to school?
First of all you should not become panic or make it a big issue.your daughter is in adolescent stage sometimes mood swings & behavioural problems are commen in this phase of life, so be patient with your daughter.second thing if she don't want to go school , & study them ask her that why she don't want to go school if there is a pressure to perform better which scares her or she has certain fear from teachers ,if there are any such issues ,they can be resolved .After knowing all these things it will be easier to understand her problem,and if she simply don't like to study at all then don't force her for that . you just gradually make her understand that she is in 9th standard so it is only one more year to complete her 10th class, and also you should discuss with her that there are so many vocational courses like theatre dance, music cooking interior designing fine arts etc which one she likes ,just let her go and encourage her.More over make her understand that it is very important for everyone to be financially independent and have some goals in their lives .It is my belief that it is not necessary that a child should study only medical, non medical or commerce for being successful in his or her life so give her some time to think over it,many a times patience pay a lot . One more thing ,encourage her to make some friends because for normal development of a person , it is necessary to have at least one friend so that she can vent out her emotions & also besides giving her company they may give her good suggestion New ideas & sometimes motivation too. I am sure your daughter will definitely find her way. ,.you as a parent , be more patient & sensitive rewards her take right decision for her future , without obssesing about higher degrees or taking other's advice, just be with her & support her. One more thing I like to suggest that don't humiliate or give frustrated or sarcastic remarks ,deal this situation with utmost care.
My daughter is in grade 1, and hates school, she told me that she misses me when she is there, and she refuses to go daily to school. What should I do?
Have you discussed this condition with your daughter’s teacher, both with your daughter’s presence and without?Is your daughter a single child who has not felt comfortable in making new friends? Was there bullying by one or two mean kids in her class?Have you asked your daughter to describe her ‘a day in school’ for you? If she’d talk to you about everything that happens to her in school - starting from as soon as she gets there till she leaves - you might be able to identify problems.You could on occasion take a day off from work to be the classroom mom for a day to observe - to show your daughter that you miss her when she is in school too - and to show her that you like other kids in her class and her teacher too.She might be trying to get your attention on matters that are not related to school at all. Are there any other possible reasons that she is afraid of leaving you for a few hours?Go down the chain and check every connecting point. 1st grade is a precious age. It takes lots work. But if she start liking school - after you solved the puzzle - she will have a happy path forward.
My 12-year old daughter hates to learn anything. What should I do?
My husband and I raised my 3 grandchildren. When the muddle child hit age 12, she was horribly hateful about most everything. Her intelligence was evident in previous years of school, but her attitude threatened to undermine her future. Then my husband came up with a strategy that was highly successful. We called it 'Grade money.' Instead of a weekly allowance, the kids would receive money for their school grades - $100 for honor roll (all As and Bs) plus extra for As and A pluses. They used this money for clothes, movies and other desires. We provided for their needs including their basic wardrobe, coats and shoes. Grade money was theirs to spend as they desired.Not only did this program end all the fights about getting homework done first thing after arrivung home, it became ingrained behavior to do their best in school.Now that 12 year old tyrant is graduating high school as Valedictorian and headed to MIT on a full scholarship! She's also an accomplished ballroom dancer and active community volunteer. She's extremely responsible, never drinks or parties with kids messing up their lives. She's a great role model and eagerly tutors others. Plus she just received an additional $7000 in local scholarships, which she promptly deposited in her savings account.Not every 12 year old will achieve so well, but that carrot of grade money gave her a reason to give schoolwork her best effort - and it was money we likely would have spent on her anyway! After just a few years its wasnt that important- earning good grades became its own satisfaction.
Please help, my daughter hates her high school?
My 16 year old daughter absolutely hates her Catholic high school, and I don't know what to do about her anymore. She's cried, begged, and bargained to get out of the school, which is strange because she's level headed. This is her second year there and she has straight A's, plays two sports, volunteers at a daycare, and has friends. I've asked her why she dislikes the school and she tells me about how the administration constantly badgers her about her grades and about the background she came from, because she is a scholarship student. She says that they look at her like she's lower than she is and that she's worth almost nothing if she doesn't bring the school any awards from state activities etc. She also says that there is the problem of boys constantly trying to get with her. My daughter is a pretty girl (I've had strangers come up and tell me) but she HATES people seeing her as only that. I've had random boys come up to her and start flirting with her, and she turns them down every time (She already has a boyfriend at another school.) She tells me that this happens in school too and that they don't know what the word "no" means and that she's had to get teachers involved. Anyway, this is just a small fragment of what she's told me, but I need help. She's completely willing to transfer to public, but I'm hesitant. I know she'd fit in there, but I've been told Catholic education is better, but is it good enough to make me force her to stay there and remain miserable?
My daughter is 14 years old. She is going to be a 9th standard student. She is not sincere about her studies. How can I motivate her to study well?
I am a teacher. I work with children your daughter’s age. The problem you stated here is shared by millions of worried parents. There is no easy solution. Please don’t threaten or punish her. You will force her to hate studies. You have to approach it in a systematic manner, but you have to be actively involved. 1. Organise her daily routine. Let her sleep, eat and study at fixed times. 2. It is ok if she studies for just half an hour every day. (to start with)3. Let her settle into a habit. A habit is a very powerful force. 4. Once a routine is formed try hard not to break it.5. Now when she is close to her class test, increase her study time.6. Get measurable work done from her. Set her daily targets.7. Give her little incentives like a hug, a kiss or a sweet if she attains her target.8. When results are out, show her how effort is proportional to results.9. Propose putting more daily effort, now her resistance should be weaker. If you are consistent, there will definitely be significant improvement.This is a tender age. Handle her with as much demonstrated love as you can. Wish you and your daughter lots of success. For more parenting help please feel free talk with experts.Chat with Susan Berland, Expert in Parenting
Help my 15 year old daughter is behaving awful?
I know my daughter is angry because her mother is jail and she hates living with my wife and I becuse she doesn't like My wife's rules and doesn't thinks she my wife has the right to tell her want to do. My daughter got mad at me because I wouldn't buy I her a Iphone so she broke my wife's phone on purpose. My daughter doesn't want to go to school because said the other kids pick on her about her weight. My wife and I don't think she is over weight and my wife caught her trying to make herself throw up, she has also been trying to skip meals when we told her that we are not going to allow her harm herself, she got mad and told us to mind our business. We are making her go to counseling. And are going to family counseling. Last night my parents come on to eat dinner with us, my daughter tried refused to eat, when I told her that she had to eat she knocks over her tea and plate herself on purpose then starts crying and yells grandma you did the on purpose you ruined my favorite shirt then she runs and locked herself in the bathroom.
My 15 year old daughter hates my husband. We've been married almost 10 years. What do I do?
I’m going to take a crack at this for two reasons: in my previous relationship I was the step-father of a tween through high school aged girl; and I have been blessed with two boys in my current marriage, so this issue is but a distant memory!I don’t really have answers, but hope I can steer you to think about questions.I would start by picking up a copy of ‘Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls’ by Mary Pipher, Ph.D. Read the pages about blended families. Ignore the dated references to the 1990s, and look at what it really says about how girls minds, feelings, relationships change as their bodies mature. There is a lot of information throughout the book that will enlighten both you and your husband (yes, he should read it too!) about the many issues girls and young women wrestle with.You haven’t indicated in your question whether she had a loving daughter-type relationship with him when she was younger, how long she has hated him, nor what may be going on that would make her despise him now. Is her birth-father in her life? If so, does she compare the two? Has there been significant upset, life changes, or moves in your family in recent years?Has his behavior changed with her over the years? Does she avoid being alone with him at any cost? Not to cast aspersions over him, but it would be good to rule out any inappropriate behavior.I would certainly not blame your daughter in any way. Her resentment may be borne out of something very real, that either she can’t articulate or won’t discuss with you. It may be something she is simply processing right now, and when she is 18 or 19, she will snap out of it. But I do think family counseling is in order. If you can afford it, or if his or your workplace has a program that offers free counseling, I encourage you all to take advantage of it.Post script: The girl in the above relationship went from being an eleven-year-old who was totally infatuated with her new step-dad to being a total terror at 13–15, then got the better of her own hormones and turned back into a princess. She is now a full-fledged adult, and I am proud to have weathered the storm with her and witnessed her growing up. It got better, and hopefully will for you too.
How do we deal with a 14 year old daughter who refuses to do school work, turn in assignments, or help out around the house?
You take everything out of her room except the bed and the bedsheets. Electronics, toys, phones, videogames, magazines, anything that she would deem entertaining. U make her earn time on them back. If she can do an assignment without complaining and you see it, she may get 10 minutes on the phone. If she can turn in her homework for an entire week, she gets 1 hour on the video games. If she can do her chores, she gets 30 minutes of tv time. You are the parent. You make her play by your rules. She will cry and whine and complain. Oh well. Stick with your guns.
Daughter hates where we live?
So,several years ago we moved from NY to Virginia. And my daughter hates it. She is 18 now- but all through high school she came home every day in tears. She was popular in New York, but she says she is bullied every day, people make fun of her accent, and in general, treat her like garbage. She was always an honor roll student, but now she only makes C's. I believe everything she says, and I even moved her to a new school- and they rejected her there too. My daughter has always been sociable and well liked until we moved here. She's extremely depressed/sad all the time. What should I do?