My 30-year-old daughter ignores my text messages. Should I "forget" her birthday?
I love my sons. One is 29, engaged, with a full-time job, living in his own home. The other is 19, a sophomore at Caltech which is a difficult school. I'm no longer working due to having an illness, so time is slower for me than it is for them, something I remember, and you should too. When I text them, it is to let them know I'm thinking about them, or to tell them something amusing, maybe to share a joke or a picture. I don't expect them to respond. They have busy lives and schedules, and I don't know what they do when. They'll text me once in a while when they think of me too. The only time I expect an answer is when I am doing something like making flight reservations that requires me to know something specific. I text rather than call specifically because they are so busy. I don't expect an response instantly. Your question sounds like one a 13 year old would write. Ignore a birthday? Is that something any adult really cares about? If it bothers you that your child doesn't text back, why not call them up and tell them it hurts you, and ask why not? And then listen to the answer and accept it. Then make some sort of arrangement that you both can live with, so that you don't feel left out. Maybe you agree they will call you every Saturday, or text you back a couple times a week. Adults negotiate feelings and problems and come up with compromises that work for both. Emotional blackmail does not make for a healthy relationship. We parents of adult children must recognize that we did our jobs. We raised successful, busy people with lives of their own, which was the goal, wasn't it? At this point, our job is to be supportive. They will want to be in contact with you when you are loving, uncritical, and understanding. My kids contact me frequently, because I don't try to make them, and I'm not critical of them when they do. I finished my job, now I get to enjoy the men they have become. I hope you can work this out.
How often should I let my 17 year old daughter see her boyfriend.?
My daughter is 17 and has been dating her 19 year old boyfriend for a year and a half. I let her see him, as of now, once a weekend, usually, for a couple hours. Some weekends such as last, she didn't see him because she was grounded for forgetting to text me while leaving prom. Anyway, she hung out with him yesterday to see xmen. Today his mom wanted her to come to the movies with his family again, and I said no because we have a dinner under our church after church tonight that I want her to go to. Should I let her go out more than once a week? Will she end up hating me if I don't let her go out more?
Is it illegal for my 16 year old daughter to be texting a 27 year old man (nothing sexual happened) in the state of Missouri?
It’s not illegal to text someone of any different age. If the content of the texts is salacious, solicits inappropriate behavior, etc then that might well be a crime.IF you are asking can your child be prevented from talking to him or he from talking to her, likely yes. You should notify him that you don’t want him talking to her, you could block him from her account, or you could complain to the police. I am doubtful the police can or will do much but you should anyway.On the other hand if you read all the texts and find their content is appropriate, positive, perhaps helpful, then you could say “my daughter has an older friend who is a good influence” and continue to monitor the talk. But that’s me personally.You might want to talk to the guy directly and ask him why he is talking to such a young person. He may have good motives. When I was a teenager I had some adults in my life I considered friends and it was positive for me.Yeah it’s suspicious but not everyone is a predator or unable to conform their behavior to the standards of society.
How would you react if your 16-year-old daughter got pregnant?
Three weeks ago My wife sent me a text while I was at the supermarket asking me to get a pregnancy test for our 15 year old daughter as she was saying that she was late for her period. We thought that she had her dates wrong as she told us that she had not had unprotected sex.I brought the test home and gave it to my daughter, telling her to do it when her younger siblings were not around. a little later our daughter called my wife from the bathroom. As my wife was on the telephone I went instead and knocked on the door. When I entered my daughter just pointed at the test, a very clear two lines confirmed that she was indeed pregnant.My reaction was shock at first but, then I went into autopilot. My wife and I sat down with our daughter and asked her how she felt about it and what she wanted to do next. We didn't get angry and we made it clear that whatever she wanted to do we would support her. My daughter said that she definitely would not have an abortion and that she wanted to keep the baby. We spoke to her about the stigma that she would face and the issues her boyfriend might face with the police with her being underage.Three weeks later I am still in shock and not sure of what the future holds but, I am sure that whatever happens, both my wife and myself will support our daughter and her boyfriend throughout the pregnancy and beyond.EDIT: To answer a concern that has been raised in the comments. My daughter and her boyfriend have met with the authorities and there will be no charges. With their ages being very close and my daughter being very close to 16 it was judged to not be in the interest of any parties to prosecute. Here in the UK due to her being over 13 the charge would not have been rape but would have been the lesser charge of sexual activity with a child.Also as to why we left the overall decision on keeping the baby to her is because it is her body and her life that will be most affected. Also a friend of mine growing up got pregnant at 14 and was forced to have an abortion by her parents and I saw how badly she was affected for the next few years until we eventually lost touch.
Should I take my 17 year old daughters phone away?
I take away my 17 year old daughters phone quite often actually. Less than a week ago I took it away for a couple days. Now I'm planning to do it again for however long I feel necessary because my daughter took almost ten minutes to answer my texts yesterday when she was out watching fireworks with her boyfriend. Claims she was "walking to the car". But when she's with me, she nearly always has her phone out, texting her boyfriend. She is turning 18 in 3 months, so I think I'm going to tell her that she's not allowed to buy her own phone, or I will kick her out. My argument is always that I pay for the phone, so I don't want her to be able to get around it just because she's 18.
Boy cousins texting my 17 year old step-daughter excessively....?
These are her blood related cousins, expect that one friend to her cousin. And she is already out of high school. She had one friend which was 21, I didn't like because of her age, but my wife got rid of her because we found out she would give my daughter drinks when they went out. If you ever met my daughter you seriously won't even think of her being bad. She has something hidden in her that comes out when we the parents is not around, but she is very naive and gullible and makes the wrong decisions.
Should I let my 17-year-old daughter drive two hours to another city with her friend and her friend's boyfriend for a university tour?
Should I let my 17-year-old daughter drive several hours to a far away city (2 hours) with her friend and her friend's boyfriend for a university tour?Thanks for the A2A….My answer: of course you should…you might as well allow something while your daughter still thinks you have the right to do so. She might have just said she is going and not asked permission!Mom, your daughter is almost an adult. She needs to learn how to make adult decisions. This is the time for moms to let go of restrictions and relax the boundaries so teens can learn what it means to make decisions on their own.Compared to some things she might be doing, traveling only 2 hours (which IMH0 is NOT a ‘far away city’) is a minor thing to do but important for her development.Be supportive in this..give her some cash for gas and lunch and tell her to have a good time..ask her to text you her opinion of the campus….a sideways way of knowing she's fine. Don’t bug her with worrying cell calls or texts.Hold your sense of “my baby is growing up’ in reserve and let your daughter bloom with your wholehearted support.Time for you to learn how to parent a young adult, BTW. It’s way different than having a dependent teen.I see another has said you should be going-but I disagree. You can go on the next college trip..let her have the freedom of this already planned trip..
Just found out my 17 year old daughter has been sexually active for a year.?
My mom found out when I was 17 also. She read some of my texts. She took me to the gyno because I had never been to one yet. I was put on birth control. I have never had an STD test. I have only slept with one guy though, my boyfriend of now 4 yrs (I'm 20). I would not tell her you read her diary, just talk to her. Maybe she will tell her. If she knows you will not punish her or get upset she might tell you. I lied to my mom because I knew I would get in trouble and of course when she found out I didn't see my boyfriend for 3 weeks, which didn't do anything. I'm not sure if you can ask her doctor to give her an STD test, but you can try. Best of luck!
I recently split up with my wife and my 17 year old daughter always ask me if I want to meet her friends even thought I have told her I am fine. She tries to match me up with them. What should I do?
Original question: ‘I recently split up with my wife and my 17 year old daughter always ask me if I want to meet her friends even thought I have told her I am fine. She tries to match me up with them.What should you do?’.Ricardo Gonzalez, here is a question you posted 6 minutes prior to the one I’m answering now:My parents are forcing me to date someone that supports Donald Trump. What should I do?Some other choice examples of your insincere questions:I started dating my fathers ex wife which was not my mom. He said it wasn't right. What should I do?My dad always ask to check my private parts to make sure nothing is wrong with it. I tell him it makes me uncomfortable and he says that it's fine because he's my dad. What should I do?My boyfriend is starting to text his ex more. I'm worried he will want to get back with her. What should I do?This type of activity burns through the good will of the community which in turn diminishes the quality of the content of the site. Please refrain. If you are taking part in Quora’s money for questions program, know that this program is deeply unpopular among many Quorans.To writers on this site, I have started checking OP’s profiles before answering questions to make sure they are legitimate. This helps me make an informed decision about whether you want to answer a question or not. You may also find this useful in your use of the site.Good luck ahead.