My parents treat me so unfairly compared to my younger brother?
Yes, I've had my fair share of sibling problems as the older one in the family. My brother gets rewarded bountifully for a small achievement, while when I get an A on my exam, I barely get a glance and a "get an A+ next time." My brother gets away with blaming everything on me, so my life isn't perfect either. I like to think of it as my parents think I have more potential then my brother. Where you said, "It's as if my parents want me to get a degree, get a good job, and give all of my money to my brother." Think of how embarrasing it must be for your brother to have his sibling raise him. "He's grown to be spoiled and is rude with literally no manners." Well, good luck finding him a girlfriend. "But that's not the case, he's going to be a junior in highschool and soon entering college yet they're so submissive to him like he's 5 years old." Your brother is going to think your parents don't care about him. "When my brother wants to buy $200 worth of clothes my parents pull out their wallets without hesitation. When I try to get TWO t shirts, they seem uncomfortable and I always end up buying only one. My brother would also get gifts on MY birthday." When your brother grows up, and your parents are too old to support him, he's going to learn the hard way that he doesn't get everything he wants handed to him. YOU though, by that time, will have already learned that lesson. Younger siblings can really be a pain, but everything will eventually turn out right. Like Kelly Clarkson said,"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!"
Would you let your 15 year old get a tattoo?
A co-worker of mine told me how her daughter is turning 15 in 2 weeks. The only thing she asked for was a tattoo. She wants a small flower & butterfly on her shoulder. The girl doesn't get in trouble, gets good grades etc. My co-worker was asking if I knew any shops that would do it. I said NO! I thought you had to be at least 17 with parents consent because my mom had a ton of paper work to do when she signed for my brother to get his tattoo at 17 (3 months before 18) I came home & asked my husband what he thought about a 15 year old getting a tattoo. So I was wondering what everyone else thought? Would you let your 15 year old get a tattoo?
Becoming a parent was the biggest mistake I ever made....?
I don't have kids, so maybe you can answer this for me. WARNING: This is heartbreaking. Over the years I've had several friends who always wanted to get married and have kids. They were on cloud 9 until they had a baby. Then they would confide in me that they believe they made a mistake. I thought: "This is normal. Post-partum depression." 10 years later, they still feel the same. What's more distubing is "Oprah" had a show on "Happiness Now" last week, and the most unhappy women were the ones who gave up their lives for their kids. They said they "pretend to be happy" because that is what is expected of them. Can someone please explain this phenomenon? The friends I have that regret it, say there are terrible parts about parenthood that no one tells you about before you have kids - because if you knew about that beforehand, no one would have kids. I'm also hearing (not just from friends) that if they had a chance to do it over- they'd get married, but not have kids. Why?
I blame myself for my daughters pregnancy?
My youngest daughter is pregnant. She's only 16 years old a junior in high school. Maybe I was naive because at 16 I wasn't having sex? I blame myself so much for her getting pregnant. I ask myself constantly what more could I have done to prevent this? Did I not do a good enough job? I never allowed them in the bedroom alone or to be at the house when nobody was home. I have 3 other children 1 son & 2 other daughters & they never wound up pregnant!! I've heard parents say "she's too busy with her job" or "thank God my daughter isn't doing those things" or whisper behind our backs at my sons games (hes a senior in HS) I wonder how she is going to deal with being bullied when she begins to "show" I cry almost daily & constantly blame myself for this. Am I a bad mom? Are these feelings normal? Why our family? How did this happen??