Should i put my baby for adoption?
Please, do not give your baby up for adoption. Read all of the links provided here - research. You will NOT be given honest answers in "adoption land". I hear that you are scared and thinking that you are not ready (I can tell you I had the same fears at 30 yrs old). Adoption = your problems are solved (but only momentarily - read first mom accounts of their loss). This is not placing your baby first. As far as "giving your baby more/better than what you can give him/her = selfless". No - there is no guarantee that your baby will be better off (usually suggests financial, or two parents, etc.). Fact is, divorces happens, adoptive parents don't "bond" with the baby like they thought they would, baby doesn't bond with aparents like someone thought they should, finances change, adad's sexually abuse adoptlings, and adoptees are physically abused. Now, no one knows the percentages or numbers of these occurances, no one. Do not let anyone tell you these circumstances are rare - they are not. No one knows, no one keeps track. This is a "crap shoot" on whether or not they are getting a better life - are you willing for a crap shoot? And, as for "if you love your baby, you will give it up for adoption" - no. If you love your baby you will find the resources and support that you need. You will be 27 or 28 when your child is 10 - you will be in a completely different situation. There is absolutely no need to sign anything before or after your baby is born. Get the support, try it out. If you find after that time you are not in a position to care for your baby, first look to relative care - it is second best. Look last at stranger adoption - and don't let anyone tell you that if you don't give him/her up at "birth" that no one will want him/her then, it's not true. Your baby hears your heart beat, your voice (your music, family, dog, etc.) from within the womb - it is you that he/she wants when she's born. A baby suffers the loss of being taken away from her mother - perhaps for the rest of his life.
Should I put my baby up for adoption?
This is probably the hardest decision you are going to make. I am proud of you for deciding to not abort you baby. As for whether or not to give your up for adoption I have a little a little advice. The thing about becoming a mother is your life kind of stops at the point of life you are in. I am 25 and a mother of an 18 month old. I have earned by bachelors degree and have been married for 3 years. I had a wonderful time in college and high school and if I had a baby and decided to raise it I wouldn't be as accomplished as I am now. I think we owe our children who we raise, an education and some life experience. You are so young. Raising a child at your age would mean to stop your progression in many ways. I am so glad I had my college experiences and can't wait for my daughter to get older so that I can share all the fun things that I did before she was born. I don't get to go out and do those fun things anymore but I am okay with that because I knew I was ready to become a mother. And it helps a lot when you have a husband at your side. We raise our daughter as a team. I would recommend looking into adoption. It doesn't mean that you have to go through with it. Adoption is something that is so amazing. They are open if you would like them to be and can get visits. And you get to pick the parents you would have wanted to raise your own child. I would find an adoption agency and look through profiles and see if any of them feel good. This sounds might sound silly but pray to know what you should do. Prayer is amazing. Continue to think what is best for the baby. You are already so selfless and loving by deciding to give this baby a life. Good luck
My baby is ugly. Should i put it up for adoption?
I do not understand how you could think that your baby is ugly. Parents never think this way. I would say yes if you think your baby is truly ugly then obviously you don't love him so put him up to a good home where he will not be called ugly and people will look for his good points.
How do i know if i should put my baby up for adoption?
If it is not something *you* want to do, a choice that *you* freely make, then it is not the right thing to do. NO ONE can tell you what you should do with your baby. I'm sorry the baby's father feels that way. If he didn't want to be a father, he needed to not have sex. Now it's time for him to be a big boy and take the big boy consequences of his big boy decision to have sex and that is to financially, if not emotionally, support his child. DO NOT place this child for adoption, no matter what anyone says, if YOU want to raise this child. Wishing you well.
Should i put my unborn baby up for adoption?
First of all you need to protect yourself and your baby. Change your number and only give it out to people you can really trust. I would let a friend or family member who you can really trust aswell know exactly what's happening. Maybe a neighbour aswell so they can look out for you. If things are that bad where you fear for your's and Baby's safety you need to talk to the police and maybe look into moving. Regarding the baby the only person who can make the decision is you seeing as he doesn't want to know. Again talk to someone you can trust or maybe your doctor can help or refer you to a councillor. You need to weigh up the pro and con but remember to make the decision because it is right and not because someone has made you do it. However because you have put down that you want whats best for your son makes me think that you are a very good mother already :-D I wish you good luck and hugs x
Should I put my baby up for adoption or keep him/her?
Since your parents are supportive, my advice would be to raise your baby yourself. You will have the help of loving grandparents (your parents) and you will never have to wonder how your child is doing or what he looks like because he will be RIGHT THERE WITH YOU. :) 2 pieces of advice: 1) Don't fall for the myth of "open adoption." In most states, open adoptions are not legally enforceable. Adoption agencies and potential adoptive parents (PAPs) use the ploy of open adoption to convince young women like yourself to give their babies away. Most so-called "open" adoptions close within two years. Or the adoptive parents limit the contact between you and the baby because they "suddenly become uncomfortable" with it. Because they're not legally enforceable, there is NOTHING you can do about it if this happens. Even calling the police won't help. If you give your child away to strangers, you might as well plan on never seeing him again. 2) You don't have to decide anything until after the baby has been born. You may see that tiny face and fall in love immediately and decide you could never give him away. Or you might not. If that's the case, there will be dozens of couples lined up for the chance to take your baby home with them. Just wait. Don't contact any agencies. Don't plan anything. Just wait and see how you feel after the baby has been born. That way if you decide you want to parent him (her?), no harm, no foul. If you don't, I promise you someone will want him.
My Baby is 3 Weeks Old, Is It Too Late to Put Him Up For Adoption?
People are telling you you're suffering from depression, and this may be true, but from your past questions it sort of seems like you might also be too...immature for parenthood. It's probably time to leave the guy as well as the kid before your situation gets even more screwed up. "Had I known pregnancy was this demanding I never would have let my husband talk me into it. And maybe I'm heartless, selfish, whatever but I don't even care at this point whether I have the baby or not. Granted I don't want him in there anymore, but I also don't care if I ever meet him or not. I've done more than enough. ...I never wanted a baby. His father wanted one though, and I obliged. Well, I'm the only one who has to deal with it and not a day goes by that I don't regret becoming pregnant." http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AukHJ0p3GuOOEKqcYBVDsBDty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090327172243AAhcX3y "To be honest, I never wanted kids. My husband did though. He has two girls from a previous marriage who he doesn't get to see much because of where they live, and so he talked me into having a baby. Bad idea, I know, but there's no going back now. And truthfully, I'm excited for the baby to come too now. We're having a boy. But, I think part of the reason he wanted me to have a baby was to, in a way, tame me. That probably sounds bad. But, I'm 22 and I am young. Before being pregnant I raced cars, drank heavily on the weekends and my only responsibility was my two tiny dogs who aren't tough to take care of. He is 30, definitely more "grown up"." http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkSXMnRXVgpV97UhAxe8Qu7ty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090323121054AAaCc3o
I don't know if I should keep my baby or put it up for adoption.?
Only you from your heart can decide what is right for you and your baby. Adoption has a wide range of experiences like many other things in life. We adopted our daughter three years ago and have a full open adoption with both sides of her birth families. There was much hesitation on their part at first wondering if we would keep our word that they would be part of her life or not. For our situation, a full open adoption is not only possible but a wonderful thing for all of us. We see her birthmother and her mother every 2-3 months and invite them to come to outdoor concerts and other fun things we do. Her birthfather's family is very close to us as well. We even took his mother on vacation with us to Puerto Rico this year. Our daughter will know exactly where she came from and what her story is. Open adoption works for all of us. There are agencies and others who do not always have the best intentions out there so you do need to be careful as you learn about adoption. There are also families like ours who keep our word, are respectful and are eternally thankful for the opportunity to be parents. Our dauughter's birthparents struggled with a very difficult decision as it is for you to weigh the options you have. The good news is that you do have options. Take your time, listen to your heart, ask questions, learn about the options and trust yourself. You'll know what to do. Please feel free to contact me if you would like to talk with either of our daughter's birth families. They would be happy to listen and answer any questions. We are adopting again and know that the right match is out there somewhere. Our website if you would like to learn more about our experience is www.helpgrowourgarden.com Best wishes to you....everything will be okay....trust yourself to know what is the right thing for you.