Best friend chooses boyfriend over me?
To be honest, I feel hurt that this is the case. My best friend has been dating this guy for 10 months, and she always manages to talk about him in our conversations, a lot. We are 17, and she is slightly obsessing over this relationship. We used to text quite a bit, but now I barely hear from her, and she just ignores texts. Last night even, we were having a text conversation, and she just suddenly stopped replying at around 10pm. I got into college this morning, and she tells me how tired she was because she was texting her boyfriend until 2 in the morning! It's frustrating - I wanted to organise going to the cinema with our mutual group of 5 friends because we hadn't met the other girls for over 5 months. My best friend backed out - to see her boyfriend, who she sees everyday. I have a boyfriend too, but I still make time to see my best friend. I just feel she values her boyfriend above me, whilst I value her and my boyfriend equally. I just don't know what to do. Should I tell her how I feel? Or should I just go and hang out with my other friends, and back out of our friendship?
My best-friend chose her boyfriend over me?
We have been friends for 7 years, both dealt with abuse together, grew up together, etc. Now she has this ugly, drug obsessed, cheater as a boyfriend and she ignores me for him. If I don't message her first we can go weeks without talking. She seems more b*tchy the way she speaks too. She doesn't message me first anymore, ignores my messages sometimes and ends the convo. I helped her when this pig cheated on her and now he's not cheating anymore she can just ignore me for him? It's f*cking rude. I confronted her (not rudely) and she denied there's a problem and actually acted kind of annoying and nonchalant about the whole thing, like she doesn't care. So I guess this means things won't change till they break up (I know they will since she's only 16 and they're online dating but meeting soon.) Wtf, you can't even 'love' someone until you meet them. They Skype ALL day. I'm not exaggerating. When one of them is sleeping, the other is watching. Even when they go to the toilet. How creepy. What do I do? Don't tell me "this is how people grow up." because no, this is how immature people act. I've never put a boy over a girl.
My best friend chose her boyfriend over me?
To Joey, you couldn't be anymore wrong. I'm far from jealous, I was happy for her. This is an unhealthy relationship and it's not worth the friendship in my oppinion because he's a very ugly person inside with even uglier views. I find happiness in myself and the people around me, I don't have a boyfriend that is correct, but that definetely wouldn't be the source of all of my happiness anyway. She should know how to balance friendships and her no good boyfriend at the same time, because it's been done before. Don't give her an excuse because she is not the victim. I know she will be back because I know her, but she will have to regain the trust and it just won't be the same. I just hate the way we ended such a mature and great friendship. It's on her though, and she will soon realize what she's missing, and she tried to give me a sorry apology and she can keep her words because I'm not sorry, she is .
My best friend chose her boyfriend over me...?
Holy fxuck that is long well i dont like reading so im just gonna answer the big bold words :) ! kk?! well first of all i jsut had the samething happen to me and i dont know wut im going to do yet i wanna forgive her but i dont think i can and at the same time im still mad at her.... and 5 friends stood by me when i did it... just move on is what im doing yes yes she was a very good friend but i dotn think i can handle her anymore i think im kinda more protecting her than hating her...... if you dont like your boyfriend or something lieke that just tell her to make time for u and her alone and the rest of the time she can be with him as much as she wants if it isnt i dont know sweetheart ik its hard.. Alright i read some of it not all of it but yea your best friends bf does sound like a real dumbas* and it will be very soon they break up and jsut tell him to go f*ck himself and tell her you dont like him and you dont like how he treats u and stuff... and she'll be coming back to u without that gay bastar* soon enough when they break up for good it just takes time and if u dont like this new answer just stick to my other answer :)
How would you deal with a best friend who chose her boyfriend over you?
You describe her as choosing her boyfriend “over you”.Seeing things that way is a choice. You have chosen to see the love (or lust?) relationship between your friend and her boyfriend as a kind of rival to your own relationship with her.It doesn’t work that way.A friendship is quite different to a love relationship (which will often also include friendship in any case). You can’t possibly expect to stay number one in your friend’s affections when she has grown up and found herself a boyfriend.Did you really expect her to spend most of her time with you - and just fit him in around the edges of her life? That would be a horrible way to treat a boyfriend.You are still her friend. She just can’t see you as much as before. She will also probably want to keep certain things private between her and her boyfriend now. That’s normal, and another part of growing up and maturing.Be happy for her - that’s what a true friend would do. When you do meet up, keep things upbeat. Don’t whine about not seeing her as often as you’d like etc.Friendships wax and wane throughout life. Some may last for years, others for only a season.Let her enjoy her current romance. Who knows - it may be a short-lived thing.So try to let go a little. Don’t be that not to be that clingy, needy kind of friend. Be as supportive as you’d like her to be for you if the roles were reversed.
My friend chose her boyfriend over me..?
So, I have been best friends with this girl since I was in 6th grade. (I'm now in 9th grade) She got a boyfriend when we were in 8th grade, and ever since then she has ignored me and spent all of her time with him and I have been basically a loner. We have maybe hung out a total of 4 times since they have been dating! & when I ask her to hang out with me, she chooses him over me. She has always gotten mad at me for hanging out with other people too. Like it seems I can't even have any other friends. So I really have no friends now. And now she has been hanging out with this girl that she always talks about and says that she hates. Recently, her and her boyfriend got in a fight and she expects me to be there. I really don't think I should be, she hasn't been there for me. What should I do? It's been going on for too long and I'm in tears.
My friend chose her boyfriend over me? ?????
So last night my friend and I were having a conversation on the phone or whatever.. and then her boyfriend calls and he is on the other line so she goes "My boyfriend is sick and he really wants to talk with me.. i'll call you tomorrow i promise" so I go "Fine it's alright.." but it WAS not ALRIGHT i was just trying to be polite. She didnt even call back today... Ever since he came in the picture I see her doing so many things for him... traveling 2 1/2 hours from her house "after work" to go see him... and she wouldn't do that type of stuff for a best buddy "AFTERWORK". She's changing... and i understand that she is totally "sprung" but she has been changed. I don't want or need a boyfriend right now because I'm concentrated on other things that im doing like school, work, charities i'm busy. so dont u even dare say i need a man too...but it totally sucks that my friend chooses her "boyfriend" over me. I guess i should just leave the love birds alone and continue minding my business!
My best friend is choosing her boyfriend over me?
My best friend just got a boyfriend two weeks ago and ever since we've been fighting a lot because she seems like she doesn't care. Last night she was ignoring my texts and then she's like sorry I was talking to my boyfriend. I've been telling her about how I feel and she's like I don't see I'm doing anything wrong what more do you want. It really hurts because now her texts are one words and she just acts so careless. She said I'm still her best friend but if their relationship doesn't work I'm sure it'll happen with the next guy too and idk what to tell her. Help!
How do I get my best friend to forgive me after I chose my boyfriend over her, I was under a lot of stress from my family and took it out on her during this time as well?
You’ve probably guessed it already, but communication is the answer to everything. Personal communication, and more specifically face-to-face communication is the best way you could possibly fix the situation. Don’t settle for something meaningless like talking over text. If you’re going to do it right might as well do it right the first time.When you talk to her, be open. If she’s really your best friend and she means a lot, then talking to her should be easy. Tell her straight up that you’re sorry for doing what you did (only if you genuinely feel sorry) and tell her why you did it. Don’t just touch the surface, but go deep. Tell her how all the stuff that’s been going has affected you, and tell how you feel. Be genuine, because fake and cliche won’t work
My best friend choose a boyfriend over me and I've been crying for 3 weeks. I'm still depressed about it. She is texting me but I don't read them. What should I do ?
my go-to way of getting rid of a crush I have on someone is to get to know them deeper. mostly you'd find something icky and annoying about this person here and there, and then they would no longer be the perfect, angelic existence in your world,and all the special feelings go away, if you want them to. but I guess that may not work for you as you already know her very well, so here's another of my personal strategy. I'd write a piece of sad music about this person, or let out my human emotions in a journal. I face the emotions completely and by that I refuse to let this depression be a part of me. I will be able to say, "this happened, and it was horrible! I was so miserable. i was miserable like this, and like that." but then I'd be over it in say most a few days, because things happen.