My best guy friend forced me to make out with him and tried to do other things?
i've been best friends with this guy for a year at least. we're really close. we don't really hug or do any of that physical best friend stuff, but everyone knows we're best friends. i was at a party and everyone started playing truth or dare- kissing and just doing innocent things. then a lot of people left and it was just me and some of my friends, me being the only girl. i should've known to leave, but i thought i was safe being with people i trusted. they dared me to make out with my best friend. making out isn't a big deal to me, but with a guy like my best friend, i knew i couldn't do it. i started begging him and saying that i didn't want to, to the point where i was shaking and about to cry. the people who dared us even said that i didn't have to go through with it. but the guy wouldn't let up, saying it was a dare and we had to do it, trying to kiss me and getting way too close to me in front of everyone. it wasn't the first time a guy has been really forceful with me, but it was a lot more disturbing as this guy was (is?) a best friend. he was getting really aggressive and eventually we ended up in the bathroom with the door shut and me still begging not to go through with it. he forced himself on me, and eventually i gave up and let him. after that, he almost forced me to let him feel me up, but i screamed and he stopped. i asked him why he did it, and he said it was to impress his friends. but with the door shut, we could've faked it. i don't know what to do.
My best friend forced himself on me?
please dont be judgemental about me, just need some advice. so last night, me and my best mate at uni (he's a guy, im a girl) got drunk and for the first time we got high together. after running around for a while (quite literally) we went back to his dorm and started watching a film. by this time we were both soo high and then he put his arm around me. he then tried to kiss me, i told him to stop (we both have long-term partners at home) but he didnt. he kissed me and then had sex with me. i tried to get him to stop and i couldnt push him off cos im only small, he then stopped suddenly and threw me out his room. he has since messaged me saying we shouldnt talk about it but i dont know what to do. is it rape? do i tell my boyfriend? i dont know if i could! just really really need some serious advice (please don't call me names or blame the drugs or whatever) x
My best friend forced himself onto me...?
I'm a guy, 17y, and my best friend (who is 19) We know each other for 6y and early this year he confessed that he kinda likes me more than a friend. He is gay and I am straight. Yesterday evening he forcefully undressed me (I tried to fight him off and told him to stop, but he was too strong and ignored my pleads). Not to go into too much details. I surrendered to him and allowed him to take it further... I started to enjoy it. A lot. Now I am so sexually confused and still rattled by it all. Idk what to do?? (I'm just so desperate for advice because i have no one to talk to about this)
My friend forced himself on me?
Well we're officially friends. But I love him and he loves me but the thing is that his ex is my friend too. And if we got together it will upset her. We never confessed about our love for each other. But I feel and he feels it. Yesterday he was driving me home and when we arrived and I was going out of the car, he grabbed my arm forcing me to stay then he kissed me. I was pretty shocked and I didn't want that to happen too. So I pushed him and showed him I'm angry but in fact I didn't wanna let go. Now ofc he feels guilty. I don't want him to feel so and at the same time I can't tell him I love him.What shouldI do?
My best guy friend raped me...? should i forgive him?
He's my best friend but for some reason, i don't know what happened but we were at a party and the 2 of us were alone downstairs playing pool...suddenly he grabs me from behind i was totally shocked...he didn't let me go and forced his hand inside my privated area and on my breasts...he kept breathing hardly and kept whispering my name. i eventually got out of his grasp before he unzipped his pants...i made an excuse for needing to go back home and didn't tell anyone what happened even though it bothered me so much he was my BEST friend...i can't believe that happened...it was like he was a whole different person. i felt that i couldn't forgive him for it now that i know he's not safe for me... he apologized and said he sweared to god nothing like that will ever happen because he wasn't himself.... he says that he doesn't want our friendship to end just because of what happened...and that he really wants to start over and just be friends because he really likes hanging out with me and our friendship means a lot to him... he also stated that all of his best friends in the past have left him some way or the other and it seems like this would be just another failure do you think i should forgive the guy for what he did and...start over? also, what do you think he was feeling when he was saying these words?
A friend forced himself on me. I asked him to stop, but he didn't. I was drunk, had a terrible night, so I didn't fight. Was I raped?
Yes.Rape - sex without consent.You are using the word “forced”. Your friend* initiated sexual contact in a manner perceived to you as forced. That reads to me as “unwelcomed sexual contact”.You then used verbal request for him to stop, which means you have revoked your consent to the sexual activity initiated by him. I am assuming that he had heard your request and understood it. If so, he ignored your withdrawal of consent and continued anyway, I guess because he wanted to, without regards to your autonomy.He took advantage of your drunkenness and subsequent lack of resistance to satisfy his own desires. He acted like a bully, and, since it was a sexual activity, he acted like a rapist.You don’t have to fight for your life to indicate withdrawal of consent. Sometimes when your partner is in the heat of the moment you do need to assert yourself a bit more to get your point across loud and clear, that “no, I do not want this”. With a good partner you do not have to go that far. In your case it sounds like your boundaries were trampled. How badly they were violated, is only for you to know, since you were there.Thinking of my own experiences, there were times where I didn’t want sex, but I relented to it anyways for whatever my own reasons were, where I had chances to say no, but I have not used it - I didn’t ask the other person to stop, I just endured the sex, and kept on living on. I can share more details, should you want to know more.There was another experience where I did ask the person to stop because the sex was hurting and wasn’t getting me much good, but the person expressed selfish desire and coerced me into continue. At that point I chose to endure the sex, rather then argue or fight back, since I didn’t feel like fighting back. I thought to myself that it was easier for me to just let the sex happen than to assert my boundaries. So I let it happen and yeah you can say I was raped. That partner didn’t care two bits about me. I wasn’t badly hurt by this, so in my case I chose to move on and forget about it, like a bad dream, and just nurse my hurt body back into good working condition.Whether to report what happened to you, or whether to press charges on that person is for you to know and decide. In either case, you may want to look into and re-evaluate the status of “a friend” in your relationship with this person. Friends who are any kind of good typically do not force themselves onto you, and they do not violate your boundaries.
My friend tried to force himself on me and I went with him despite knowing his intentions and I did not resist that much either. Am I to blame too?
Everything after the moment it clicked that he tried to force himself on you is no reflection on you now and never will be.Your reaction was not a free choice. So you didn't resist to much then good on you. Sadly you have been sexually assaulted. The path you took may of saved you from injury you will never know.The question is how do you deal with the fact that you were raped. The moment he became forceful you became a victim.There is no way around this one. Make up stories. Remember he's a friend. So you didn't scratch and yell . None of it matters a bar it happened .I truly and honestly wish the best for you so I suggest you get medical counciling.As for are you to blame 100% no way ever.
A “friend” forced himself on me when we were in my room and I was distracted. I cried and asked him to stop, and he did it. He was inside me for less than a minute; Could I still be pregnant?
Not really sure how to take this situation with the right response.But one if this is the case that should be the least of your worries for now (chances are slim).You should be more worried about the fact this is technically rape. Which by the way is a serious criminal offense either committed by a man and or a women.If you’re worried wait for the right time to get a pregnancy test. But in the meantime i’d be calling the police or at least do something about it off the radar. If this is also the case are you sure you want to be friends with someone who forces themselves on people? More over what happens to the next person he or she does this too? prevention is better than cure. I’d get this person off the streets or at the least spoken too.
My guy friend tried forcing me to have sex with him?
I've known him for about three years now, we're both 18. I moved here and he was my first friend. I was so grateful to have him...and he always made me smile and was a supportive friend. I knew he is a whore of a guy, I've seen all the girls he's been with, and his lifestyle choices suck (smoking, drinking, etc). Obviously I am not interested in him romantically and he isn't into me. I like him as a sober friend and he was always down to earth with me, but I don't actually associate myself with him so much anymore. When given the choice of another girl and me, he always chose the other girl...but would never talk to her again, and call her a ***** afterwards. I thought i made it clear to him he would never have me like that ever. it is strictly being chill together. He has had sex with one of my best friends, however He and a friend of his came over last night. They stayed until late so I told them to crash on the couches in the living room, and I went to my own room. That night he knocked on my door asking if he could come lay with me. I just assumed he would cuddle and sleep like we have before. Instead he really forcefully tried kissing me in the middle of sleeping. He got really forceful in taking my clothes off when i tried stopping him. He was grabbing at my privates and violently started fingering me and it really hurt. I was telling him to ******* stop and he was taking off his pants and had his dick out saying he want to **** me. He tried getting it closer to me like he was going to shove it in. He was practically raping me!!!!! I told him I was a virgin and was NOT going to have sex with him. He wouldn't stop saying reasons why I should have sex...like he has condoms and he'll be slow and why I've always been the girl he couldn't have, how all the other girls were distractions from me and how beautiful he thinks I am. and I was like NO I like someone and i'm waiting for them and he really really needed to get off me...I wasn't going to be pressured into sex. He eventually got off me and got out of the room. I just cried and thought really hard about calling the guy I liked (who likes me too and respects EVERYONE, not just me) I am so hurt right now that a good friend could've done that....well i guess he wasn't really a friend afterall. I don't know what to think right now. All I can think about is being with my guy.
My best friend is forcing me to come into a relationship with him. What should I do?
If you are so clear and assertive about your choice of not going into a relationship, why don't you respect his choice of not being even in a friendship with you? You have done your bit of explaining the worth of your friendship. Young lady, the fact of the matter is that when a proposal gets rejected, the other part always feels that he/she lacks at least one attribute which you would like to see in your partner. This fills him/her with a sense of inferiority. Either party may be wrong in assessing the situation completely. But as of now, he is bound to feel as someone who was not 'good enough' for you. Whether, we like it or not, all of us try to hide one's negatives under the guise of being good/best friends. And you have right to do so. After all you can't change your aspirations just because someone will get hurt. But at the same time, don't insist on his choices too. For heavens sake, leave him alone. Respect his dignity, his feelings for you; always remember him as a poor fellow who was not good enough for you but he thought to make someone larger than life. You will and you should have a sense of guilt by rejecting him. After all, no friend can develop one sided feelings for you. Dig deep down, you will find the traces of your actions which much have convinced him that you may respond affirmatively if he proposes. We all do this to diminish our guilt. But now whatever has been done has been done. At least leave him alone. Don't try to be a Mother Teresa of his life.