My best friend and boyfriend hate each other...?
you've got to cut it off early. even if your boyfriend and your friend don't click, they should respect you enough to not put you in the position of having to defend the other side. talk to both of them. then listen to what each of them have to say, without freaking out. maybe they're not getting along because they don't know each other or feel they have nothing in common. get them to spend a little time together. who knows? they may end up liking each other! if hanging out doesn't do any good, it's probably best to stop trying to get them to connect. but that doesn't mean you have to give up one or the other. just accept the fact that you'll have to spend time with each of them separately. when your boyfriend and best friend clash, it's difficult, but it doesn't have to make or break your relationships with either. it just requires a little work. and since both sides have something in common - you - they'll likely be up for the job.
My best friend hates my boyfriend!?
leah!!! i love you sooo much. i really dont like red as a person;; thats just cause were totally and completely different: hes like macarroni and im vanilla cake **** i wouldnt want to eat vanilla cake with maccaroni would you. all im trying to say is that i like red alot.... not because of his personality because of the way he treats you and i like him because he makes you so very happy and thats all that matters to me!!!! i love you bestie!!!!!! :D
What should I do if my best friend hates my boyfriend even if I'm so kind with hers?
Do you have any ideas as to why you feel your best friend dislikes/hates your boyfriend? If not, then you need to sit down and have a hear to heart with her about it.For the most part, people aren’t going to have such strong, negative feelings about another individual unless there’s something about that person in their personality or behavior that would be adverse enough to cause us to feel that way. Now if your best friend was single, I feel that would explain a lot as to why she could potentially have some negative feelings towards your boyfriend, as she’d probably see him as taking away time you would normally spend with her and could potentially be envious of your non-single status and bemoaning her singleness. But since she has her own boyfriend, you may need to take other things into consideration.Maybe the relationship she has with her boyfriend is not quite the same level as the one you have with yours. Perhaps she sees things in your boyfriend that she finds lacking in hers and perhaps that could be a reason for her resentment.How does your boyfriend act when you are both hanging out with your best friend? Is he easy-going, fun, talkative, and good-natured? Or is he silent, unsocial, or acting like he doesn’t really want to be around her? If he’s potentially acting in a certain way that could be a turnoff to your best friend, you need to confirm if in fact, this is what’s bothering her to see if that’s what’s causing the dislike on her end.Is it possible that your best friend and boyfriend may have had some kind of altercation that you are unaware of either before you got together or during?There could be a myriad of reasons why you feel that your best friend may not like your boyfriend but the only way you’ll know for sure, is to schedule some one-on-one time with her to discuss it.
What do I do when I hate my boyfriend’s best friend and get extremely anxious when they hang out?
Hi I am 20 years old and I used to experience this exact same feeling with my now ex boyfriend’s best friend too. After we broke up after 4 years his ‘best friend’ turned around to me and blamed the entire break up on me and said to me, ‘How could you have not seen this coming.’I swear on my life I had NO idea he was going to leave me which just proves that all those years of hating his best friend and feeling extremely uncomfortable any time they would be alone together was right or absolutely DREADING the moment my partner would say him and his best friend had plans to do something. Even if it was just the simplest thing such as going to his best friends parents house for dinner or something I would have the most horrible feeling that I just knew was not right.It was not that I thought he was a bad influence on my partner because he was a good man, he worked and saved better than my partner and was setting himself up for the future, unlike my partner. But I think it was the fact that I just knew that I could never find out EXACTLY what they were doing, what they were talking about and I knew that my partner was easily influenced and I also knew that his best friend had a bit of a history for girls/ being reckless so I just knew that whatever they were doing or talking about would be something my partner knows I probably would not agree with. His best friend could also be a bit sexist/racist at times too which I knew was just harmless Aussie banter but I could not shake the feeling I would get when they were together.There are reasons you are feeling this way. Follow your instinct and your gut feeling but don’t stop him from seeing his best friend because this will make things worse.I got to the point where I would try to avoid feeling that way so much that I would try to stop them from seeing each other sometimes. Desperate and evil I know but I could not help myself. It could also be a thing of jealousy? I was very protective over my partner for some unknown reason which I put down to just loving him way too much that it became sort of unhealthy, almost like an obsession and I was terrified of losing him. Don’t ignore it.
My boyfriend and my best friend hate each other. What should I do?
My bf & bff totally hate each other. They liked each other at first, then I don't know what happened! They started hating each other a couple of months ago and it just got worse: I all ready had plans to go with my boyfriend, but my best freind came and asked if I would go to the library w/ her. It was only going to take an hour and my boyfriend wasn't going to be there for a little while yet...but he didn't like that idea. He got mad and as I was trying to explain to him on the phone, I think she got fed up with it and she said that she would just go. She called me and said that until I straighten things out w/ him getting mad & all, she was just going to stay away. I sent her an "I'm sorry" card, but I still haven't heard from her. I'm afraid that she hates me now. My boyfriend has tried to comfort me, but I am just worried. They both tell me that I shouldn't let the other push me around. I love them both and I don't want to lose either of them. They both mean a lot to me.
My boyfriend hates my best guy friend! He is like a brother to me. Help! I don't want to lose either of them!?
Okay my boyfriend is the best. He is sweet beyond extent. He isn't a controlling person at all. The only thing is he hates my best guy friend and doesn't want me to hang out with him. I even call him my brother and he also want that to stop. He is so sweet of a person and I didn't expect this. He even said that if he has to fight he will. I don't want it to turn into a fight! He knew my best friend for 2 years now. I only knew him for one. He says last year he was cool, but he changed this year and he is only saying this to protect and to know what to expect from him. But I don't want to lose my best friend. We have a brother sister relationship and he is like a brother to me. We even call each other brother and sister. Help! I don't want to lose either of them.
My best guy friend ever HATES my boyfriend so much but i found out today that he likes me ? What should I do ?
My Best guy friend ever absolutely hates my boyfriend and today in class i was singing 'cooler than me' and it starts as - if i could write you a song to make you fall in love - and my best guy friend asked me if he wrote me a song would i fall in love with him i said i dont know, then he asked me if he kissed me would i kiss him back, i said i dont know, then he said if he asked me to go out with him would i say yes and i said i cant because im going out with someone then he said forget about him and imagine if you wasnt so i said i dont know because im not im that situation then he said alright do you want to go out with me, now you are in that situatuon i said i cant and i kept saying i dont know. then everyone eas telling me that it was obvious that he likes me. (btw i dont know if he is telling me the truth because when my boyfriend first asked me out he told me not to but i did, then he told me that my bf hits girls, then he told me that my boyfriend likes another girl and said that i should dump him. I really dont know what to do though!) then he said i had to choose between him and my boyfriend and he said i can either be friends with him and dump my boyfriend or go out with my boyfriend and he will never ever talk to me again. I dont want to lose anyone but i have to choose. What should i do ?!?!?!?!? PLEASE HELP ME x and can you give the reasons why please aswell because most of you might say i should dtay with my boyfriend but i really care about my best friend and he really means alot to me so im not sure thank you all in advance - x
Why do my boyfriend's friends hate me?
I read somewhere that, on average, we lose two friendships every time we take on a new romantic relationship. Some things are simply out of your control; it doesn’t mean anyone is a real “bad guy,” it’s just a statistical artifact of the human experience.It’s possible that, when you and your boyfriend got together, the dynamic of the social group changed in a way that they don’t like. It’s possible that they’re blaming you unfairly. But it’s also possible that the dynamic really did change and that you don’t realize how much your own behavior has contributed to that change.It’s also possible that it doesn’t matter. My wife and I lost a few friendships when we first started dating because people had their own ideas about us. In the end, it doesn’t matter that we lost those friends. We have a beautiful life together and a wonderful child. I wouldn’t trade all that for the friends I had before we met. Not everyone is destined to like you and sanction all your choices. Being an adult means coming to grips with that. It’s okay. The people who like you will stick around.
My best guy friend and boyfriend hate eachother :/ what should i do i want them both in my life.?
It never ceases to amaze me that when a boy starts dating a girl or Viceversa they have this crazy notion that life before them did not exist, that you did not have friends or other relationships or that because of them your relationships should all cease. Your boyfriend is way off base by not allowing you to maintain friendships that you had before he came along. He is showing that he is not mature enough to accept you for who and what you are and that he cannot control his emotions which in this case is jealousy bordering on paranoia. By giving in to his "tantrums" you are allowing him to control your life which is most likely what he wants. He is forcing you to choose him over a long time friend, if you let this happen he will just tighten the reigns even more until finally you have no say about anything. It is time for you to put your foot down and tell him he has no right to dictate who you can or cannot see and if this too much of a problem for him it is best that the two of you just part now. I heard this a long time ago and it is very, very true - Lovers May Come and Go but Friends are Forever.