I hooked up with my best friend but he has a girlfriend - what do I do now?
He's your best friend right? Although it sucks for his girlfriend, I think you should do him a favor, and pretend it never happened. This might sound like I'm being bitchy, but I'm not trying to...but, what did you expect? It was sex. You were both drunk. He obviously realizes that it was a mistake he never should have made. He sounds like he really doesn't want to lose his girlfriend, and as his best friend, you should stick by that promise to be there for him, and just let it go.I think that he's trying real hard to get things back to the way they were, and that's not easy. I've hooked up with a best friend before. It's awkward afterwards, but for some reason, it worked out. It'll probably work out for you too. :) Do you have feelings for him? It sure sounds like it. It sucks,but it's kind of just the way it is. You shouldn't jepordize his relationship with his girlfriend just so that you can be happy. Just because what would that do? I think you know that you two will never happen or anything. I mean, you're best friends. It just doesn't work like that.What he did to his girlfriend was wrong, and it may seem like you should tell her, but I don't think it's any of your business. (ever if you were the "other girl") It'll only make her hate you. Just try to get over it, It'll be best in the long run. Sorry if my answer was harsh. Goodluck =)
Hooked up with my best friend's girl?
My best friend was with his GF for 6 years. During the last 4 years of their relationship, he cheated on her constantly with at least 8 women he told me about. He finally broke up with her 7 months ago. She and I ran into each other at a bar and we were drinking and we got to taking and we ended up making out -just kissing, it didn't go any further. She and I both discussed possibly hooking up. A few days later, we saw each other and decided that it was wrong to have made out and blamed it "on the alcohol" and decided to be just friends. I felt awful about what took place so the very first time I saw my best friend, I told him that she and I had gotten drunk and made out. I apologized for having hurt him and said he could hit me in the face if he wanted to. He said that I had "betrayed" him and "stabbed" him "in the back". He then denied ever cheating on her although while he was with her he told me otherwise and I knew a couple of the "other girls" he was seeing while he was with her. He has completely gone mad and refuses to want to do anything to do with me and claims that I should have "treated her like a sister". I told him that she isn't his sister -she's his ex-GF and it was just a kiss between 2 drunks. He said his pride and principles were hurt that I did this to him and he can't ever forgive me. Was I wrong to make out with her? Is he overreacting by cutting off a nearly 10 year friendship?
What do you do if your best friend hooks up with the girl you love while you're on a break, but then the girl tells you everything when you get back together?
Its simple, ask the girl who she loves. If its you, then stop obsessing over the past, forgive everyone and live a nice happy life together. Everyone makes mistakes. If she has "doubts" then move on in life, don't keep answering the past when it calls, it never really has anything new to say, speaking from experience. My take on it is that if she's told you everything, then maybe she wants to give you a chance because otherwise she wouldn't really have a reason to tell you. Just be careful of saying things about her past to her when you get mad at her( at some point you will). resist that temptation otherwise you'll end up messing everything up. Good luck!
Should i hook up with my best friend?
lets see.. i was in your shoes over 3 years ago. my current bf (who happens to be my best friend) liked me a year before he asked me out, but he tried to ignore it because "it might ruin the friendship". he went out with some other girl to try to make his feelings for me go away (but dont get me wrong, he did like the other girl). she eventually broke up with him. i picked up the broken pieces. then 6 months later, he asked me out. he told me he likes me and then asked me if i liked him too. i said "well, yea, i do, but what if it doesnt work out?". know what he told me? "but what if it does? then you'll never know what could've happened. would you rather live your life wondering what could've happened?". and that got me. he has a point. its been over 3 years and we're still together. i couldn't be any more thankful that he took the risk to tell me how he felt about me. i think you should go for it. i think it will be worth it. if she says no, then you guys can still be friends. if she says yes, then great. if things dont work out in the end, as long as you end things good, then hopefully, youd still be friends. its all about taking chances. if you dont, you might passed on something really great and something that could make you really happy, even just for a certain time. goodluck in your decision. hope all turns out well. btw, we were in high school too when he asked me out. my locker witnessed it all. :) lol him: there's something else i have to tell you that i couldnt write in the poem without sounding so... you know (i guess he meant cheesy). i care about you more just than a friend me: meaning? him: i like you. lol
Me and my best friend hooked up and now I am in love with her, what do I do?
Please be honest and up front, but not demanding or desperate.I just went through the same thing and at the same time I was going through a lot of struggles. All my friends had left for college far far away and i felt like I had no one but she was there. I didn’t tell her I loved her and it happened again. Then I started getting sad and vented to her a lot and started talking to her constantly, almost to a bothering degree. I could tell she was slipping away and that scared me so I tried harder and harder to keep har around and eventually told her I was deeply in lover with her. Then when she told me she didn't want to talk or hang out I lashed out in anger. She won't talk to me at all. Even when i appologized and tried to explane everything and why i was acting totally unlike myself, she still wants none of it.Just let this person know how you feel and, depending on how they feel, work out a way to go forward from this while staying friends. This is a crossroads that has killed much more than just my friendship and if you can get out of this together then you have a solid friendship and you are lucky. Open and clear communication in which you don't hold this person hostage with guilt paired with honesty and a will to stay friends will help you.I hope you work this all out
I hooked up with my best friend last night!!!!
ok so i have 2 best friends a dude best friend and a chick best friend. i hooked them up and they went out for a bout a month. he just broke up with her last week. me and her have been having some issues lately and i was really upset and having a bad week so i went to my best dude friend just to forget about it because i go to him for everything. i just wanted to take my mine off of things but it ended up that we hooked up (not like going out now we told each other this is JUST FRIENDS) and well it wasnt as far as sex but more than making out. and he never calls me when hez bord and he called me this morning and we r going to hang out after hez dun with his shower but when we went to hang up he told me to wear my shorts because they are "bangin hawt" and said he may be in one of "those moods". and this morning this with my chick bf started getting better and i dont want to stab her in the back but idk ugggg im reallllly bad at saying no. i have NEVER done anything like this before i just got so upset and needed an escape!!! wut do i do now????!!!!! HELP PLZ!!!!!
What should you do if your best friend just broke up with the girl you like?
Well, definately don't dive in right away and pursue her. Your friend is likely upset, confused and angry about what happened and you doing this will only be adding insult to the injury. Does your friend know that you share the same taste in women? Did they know you were jealous and looking for the right opportunity to pursue her? I would seriously rethink this. You could seriously jeopardize your friendship with your best friend by selfishly pursuing her right after the break up. I'm not saying that things couldn't work out between you and this girl. Maybe, in time, it could happen. If you value your friendship, you will stay away for now. Breakups can take a considerable amount of time to heal from. Even if your friend tells you it's ok right after, it generally isn't. Be respectful and keep your friendship. You probably don't know this girl well, so take your time. People can often become more unappealing as you get to know them.
Should i be annoyed that my best friend hooked up with the guy i like?
So i'm 18 and my best friend and i like the same guy who we have only met him a few times. We have liked him for the same amount of time too. The other night we went to a club (she and he had been drinking) and she told me that she hooked up with him at the club and asked me if i was okay that she had done that. i said yes because i couldnt have exactly been like "no im actually pretty hurt" when we were in the middle of a dance floor crowded wih people. i was annoyed and upset that she did that because she knew i liked him, she knows that i would never do that to her and the fact that im semi shy if i like someone (would not just hook up at a club, i like it to be meaningful) i cant stop thinking about it because i really like him. i know i dont know him reallly well but i know him well enough. he asks me if im okay, he kind of gets shy around me to... hes just really nice! and the fact that my friend hooked up with another guy like an hour before she did with our crush made me feel even worse...because...like wtf? you know?!! and she kept talking about how nice he was to her....sort of rubbing it in my face, not over the top though, shes not a ***** she was just happy i guess...sort of?! i dont know what to do...he dosnt know i like him! i 100% did not think he liked my friend...in that way! i just feel so down... ive never had a boyfriend because im sooo picky and now i have found someone i really like, that happened! please help all advice welcome please! sorry its so long! x
Me and my best friend love the same girl ?
Ooh that's tough... a similar thing happened to me twice with my best friend though, so I think I can help! :) I say if you REALLY like her you should tell her, and go for it! Before you do it just think, "Would I rather live without her? Or live without my best friend?" And if it's her, definitely go for it! But if you can't choose there's still hope! If he is really your best friend he should understand, he might be angry for a while but eventually he will move on to another girl, or forgive you. :) It happened to me twice! And me and my best friend are still super close! Have been for 4+ years! :) She may have gotten a little mad, but we both moved on and forgave each other in the end. If he can't do that, then he most likely isn't your BEST friend... I hope this helped, and good luck! :D