My friend calls me selfish?
She's deliberately pushing your button. If you want it to stop you have to ignore her. She isn't really your friend, to bully you like that. I think she's pushing you to get a reaction. You have to bury that gun in the ground, it's the only place for it. Ignore her words, don't even react, she'll get tired and move on when it appears to her that the button-pushing isn't working.
My friend called me selfish...?
Hello, I'm 34 years old, and have a 16 year old son that I placed for adoption. I was not in good place in my life and could not provide with the things a baby/child needs, like stability. It was because of those UNSELFISH reasons I placed my son for adoption. I found a wonderful adoption agency and was able to meet his parents. Being a mom is about putting your child first and to me, being a birth mother is just that. I will never, ever regret my choice. I'm sure your friend's comments hurt you deeply, as it would have me. She simply doesn't understand your perspective. For most birthmothers, it is not about getting off easy and regaining your freedom, etc. It's about loving your child enough to let him/her go to a home that can properly care for them. My husband and I now have a 13 month old son whom we love dearly. Having another child was like coming full circle for me. I now understand fully the responsibility of being a parent and know I made the right decision when I was a teenager. Explain your perspective. Let her know it's BECAUSE you love your baby so much that you're placing him/her for adoption. Let her know it's not about you, it's about your baby and that's why. It's never a question of "not wanting" your baby. A mother's love is like no other, and we will face great heartache if it means protecting our children. I'm sorry your friend doesn't understand. Please be sure to surround yourself with more people who do.
Best friend very selfish and self centered?
My best friend, who is also my cousin, have been friends since birth. We've always been close, but she has very low self esteem and has always competed with me. I've overlooked it until now. I moved a few years ago and now we live 700 miles away. She has just found out that she is pregnant, she's 18. She doesn't want to work and as sad as it sounds, I think the pregnancy was planned so she doesn't have to work. I planned to drive up to be there with her for her appointment. A week before I was leaving, my oil pan blew out. I had to get it fixed and by the time I paid for that and my insurance. I didn't have near enough to make it up and back. I told her, "Bad news hun, don't think I can make it. Call you tomorrow" She told back "Not mad, but youre a coward" This infuriated me. I have always looked out for her. When I was raped, she gossiped about it. She had sex willingly, told me how great it was, then when her mom found out, she said she was raped. Makes me so angry. All about her.
Conflicts in friendship are normal and when we have hurt a loved one, we need to remember that asking for forgiveness requires three things:Taking the onus and admitting that we were wrong or made a mistake2. Apologizing3. Asking what can we do to make things right againUsually people forget the last point. Depending on the bond that you share with your best friend, you may show her through photos or write a letter with a list or tell her about all those times where she was selfless, acted in your best interests or put you first. Hope it helps and you regain your friendship back. All the best:)Should you wish to speak to someone about the challenges you are going through, feel free to connect to a Life Coach at www.betterlyf.com or call atIndia: +91 9266626435U.S.A: +1 (408) 216-7854Canada: +1 (604) 288-2654U.K: +44 17-2244-6254Australia: +61 280-155-66
Am I selfish for wanting my best friend who Im in love with to want be in a relationship with me too?
Im a lesbian who fell in love with my best friend. We ended up having a relationship with eachother but the thing is she has a boyfriend who she was with before me. So she broke up with me becuase of that but Im in love with her and I know she loves me too, but because she has a boyfriend she doesnt want to get back with me. I constantly ask her back out but she gets upset with me and says that im being selfish by asking her that and disregarding the fact that she's with someone and that she just needs me to be there for her as her best friend. But my issue is, Im in love with her and I just wanna be with her, she's the only one I see for me ! Am I being selfish for wanting this relationship to still workout? Should I just let her go in that way as a girlfriend, and just be that best friend that she needs and want me to be?
My best friend is the most selfish& spoiled person ever (tell me what you think)?
We are 16 have been friends for 4 years . I just recently Got a job and I’m able to buy things. So yesterday we decided to go to the mall and hang out (she decided actually) . So I don’t have much clothes .. my family is struggling right now , her on the other hand has nice and new things very very often. I bought me a 27 dollar jacket ..and food that’s all I didn’t want to do my real shopping then . So she only has 20 dollars ... I had 100 (for clothes)she goes into forever 21 and sees a jacket she likes it was 30 dollars ... I told her I would help her get it . So we get to the line and I told her give me the 20 and I’ll add 10 and pay for it with her .she goes no you pay 20 and I’ll add 10.... I said no and told her I’ll add 10... she gets mad puts it back and didn’t talk to me for 40 mins had an attitude... for the rest of the time .
I have been in this situation before, and I agree with others, that the first thing you should do is approach your best friend and attempt an open conversation, one in which you avoid defending yourself and just listen. However, I was once in a similar situation and talking it out didn't work. My story: I had a best friend of nearly two decades who'd been pulling away from me. She was always busy, never had time to talk or do anything, didn't invite me to outings or parties with other friends (including my sister) and made no attempt to hide it, and often made snarky judgmental comments on things I did or said. She became proud and selfish where I was concerned, snobbish and arrogant about things we used to enjoy. I attempted to talk to her about this numerous times, offering to do it on her schedule, to do it face-to-face, via phone, via email, and always got the "but nothing's wrong, nothing's changed, so we don't need to have a talk" response.What happened? We grew apart. Now both in our later 30s, different things are important to us. We're still friends, I was even a bridesmaid in her wedding, but we're nowhere near as close as we used to be. She and my sister are better friends than I am with either of them. I used to hold a grudge about this, but it makes sense; they have more in common. I have many other friends with whom I am a lot closer now, too. To this day I'm not sure if she was just trying to avoid a confrontation or avoid hurting my feelings, or if she truly didn't feel like anything had changed between us. I hope that an open conversation (or many open conversations, however many it takes) helps you and your friend remain just as close as you've always been, but I wanted to give you the other perspective, in case it doesn't. If the conversation doesn't change things, or if your best friend, like mine, won't have that conversation, it will hurt, especially in the short term, at least as much as any breakup. Friends with whom we shared mutual interests and with whom we provided mutual support at one point in our lives don't always remain that way. Interests change. Lives change. People change. And often it's no one's fault and you'll never know exactly why or where the change happened.
What to do about a SELFISH friend/cousin?
i am 16. i have a cousin who is also a friend of mine. she is one of the most selfish people i have ever seen. she cuts out her friends when she gets a new boyfriend. she calls me only when she needs something or when she feels like the friendship is failing. she knows that if the guy leaves her, then she wont have anyone. that is the only reason she contacts me every now and then. i have asked her to hangout with me countless times and yet she finds an excuse everyday. ever since she got her new boyfriend, she is with him every night and she wouldn't hang out with me even 1 day because she says she needs to spend time with her guy. i set the two of them together and she hasn't even thanked me yet. she is so full of herself. i am so sick of her. she has previously betrayed and back stabbed me in a way which really hurt me. but yet she still doesn't accept her mistake and is denies everything even though she knows that i know everything. every time i confront her about her being selfish, she says that i'm blaming her and goes on how she has been there for me all the time. but the truth is NO! she has never been there for me. she just say so to make me feel guilty. what should i do about her? she is also family, so it is hard to cut her off of my life completely. i have no other REAL friends. any tips on how to ignore this selfish cousin, and find new GOOD friends? please help!
My friend is so selfish and self centered?
so lets call her amy. she is driving me nuts. my other friends agree with me except one whos on her side. amy is so freaking annoying. she wears a ton of makeup but every day wines and complains about her ugly. face. but she's pretty! like, the prettiest girl in the school. and she's a stick. she's so skinny. but she wines and complains that she's fat. and she doesn't eat anything except veggies and if she has carbs she's like omg i'm so fat. like RIGHT WHEN I'M EATING A CUPCAKE, and she's like telling me i'm fat. which i'm not. but she always wines wine wine wine that she's so ugly and fat. well she's not. she just wants attention. she just wants us to say oh no you're not you're beautiful! we did that at first but now she complains even more. she just wants us to compliment her. she uploads pics and where she's obviously beautiful and she says i am soooo ugly just so she can get comments saying she's pretty. she is so self centered. i can't beleive her. one of my friends is on her side. she says she is struggling inside because her boyfriend broke up with her which she is convinced is because she is ugly, but this friend just thinks she has low self esteem and needs someone to talk to. yeah, someone to tell her how amazing she is! oh my god. what should we tell her? it's like she wants us to bow down to hr
Help with my friend who is selfish and bossy?
So me and my friend, let's call her Jane have been besties for almost two years and we didn't click the first year we met. Now me and Jane have sleepovers almost every weekend, wer're almost like sisters. Sometimes I wish we weren't... Say if I call Jane fat she be like "Shut up you dumbass, look who's talking" but if she says I'm fat, i'm like all mad and stuff and she's like "Gawsh, what is your problem PMS much?" like you know, she always has to be right. Whether it be in the mall when she buy everything that i wanted FIRST, or just not having as many friends as her. And whenever I ask her for something which isn't alot, she'll be like "Uhh I don't know becasue this is special cleanser for me and it was a lot" (stuff you can find in a drug store. Like she always has some excuse to be right, unhospitable, or whatever you want to call it. Goodness were in 8th grade and she is such a BABY... what can I say to her without her making an excuse or something. UGHHHH