Friends baby shower...mommy getting demanding?
My best friend of 10 years and I are pregnant together just weeks apart my 2nd her first. Her baby shower is next month I already sent her a package of clothes I bought her totalling 150.00 she just gave me a list of all the things she expects me to get her off her registry I thought I could choose one but she feaked out and said as her best friend she would hope id get all of it. It totals 300.00!!! Its her pump, bottles, bobby, breast pads, lanolin pretty my everything u need for feeding. That means I will be spending 450 bucks on her and I have my own baby on the way to save for. Anyone else think that's crazy or do I need to suck it up and just buy it all?????
My ex-husband is getting married to a woman he recently got pregnant, How can I feel better about it?
We have been divorced now for a little over a year and I don't want him back, but I am lonely and now here he is getting remarried. He told me that he just didn't love me anymore and that he would never get married again because he didn't want to be married. He had told me that it wasn't anything I did or didn't do, he just didn't love me anymore and he didn't really know why. Here he is, having got this girl pregnant, and now he has proposed and is marrying her. Here I am, having not done anything to deserve to be treated this way, and I am alone and sometimes I am okay with it and sometimes I can't stand it. I am miserable, I feel I have nothing to live for and yet I know I would never take my life because of my faith. But there are days where I just want to scream out that it isn't fair that he has so much and I have nothing. He doesn't even want it. We were married for 8 years and I was told I can't have children without help, medication help. We had been talking about making a baby and then slam...Divorce. I want to cry, but I feel it is pointless, I have shed so many tears already. I don't know how to feel better about it. Any advice would be appreciated.
How do you console a friend who just lost her baby? She had a miscarriage and I feel helpless.
After my second miscarriage, my boyfriend (we were just friends at the time and it wasn't his) just stayed with me. He brought me food, encouraged me to get up and shower and brush my teeth, held me while I cried, held my hair back when I threw up, and stayed with me when I couldn't bear being alone. He was the first person I called when I miscarried. The pregnancy was the result of assault by a guy I'd dated awhile back. When I called my best friend/ current boyfriend, he came over immediately. He helped me get up and clean up, held me while I cried, and kept reminding me it wasn't my fault. I can't carry long enough for a pregnancy to survive because my ex forced my first miscarriage and did irreparable damage (IDK what all he did; I'm just telling you what my doctor said), and all three of my miscarriages have been excruciatingly painful. My doctor said that, given the damage done, that's to be expected.I would advise you to just ask your friend what she needs and to remind her that having a miscarriage isn't her fault and it doesn't make her any less of a woman. She may need meals, gentle encouragement to continue with her life, to be held, or to be listened to. Don't over commit yourself, but let her know you care about her and want to support her.
Where did you meet your best friend? What was your relationship then, and how is it as of now?
I met him in 5th standard. He was the chaotic sardar boy of our class who used to make fun of everyone and never listened to teachers.I hated him back then. We didn't talk much. Again in 6th standard we were together and this time the teacher asked me to sit with him.Now I was a bit innocent back then but sitting next to him was a big change in my life. He used to talk a lot. He used to hit me and tell me about how many girls he had kissed and I was always in awe of him and thought that this fat sardar is a stud. (I believed him back then.)One day I told my mom about him and the next day I had an application in my hand from my parents to change my seat. He kept on asking me what happened and why I was changing my seat but I didn't tell him.Fast Forward to 1 year.Our class got shuffled. All my old classmates were in one class and I was thrown in a different section with all new students. But who do I see walking in my new class the first day… my sardar fatty and his new best friend who was also there in our previous class.I was very happy that he was with me but I was scared to talk to him. 1 month went by and I didn't talk to anyone in my class. I hated going to school then.Then one day the other kid, him and I were assigned a project. I came up to them to talk about the project but my fatty shooed me away. I was sad but thanks to his other best friend and then I was asked to sit with them and then started the most amazing years of my school life.Though my fatty didn't talk to me then and always cursed me, but always took care of me in one way or the other. He used to make fun of me a lot for the 6th standard incident. I didn't mind all that.It was in 8th standard when all of us were together and he was in a different section. I used to sneak into his classroom and talk to him to make him feel good and that's when our friendship became stronger.Now it's been 9 years of us being best friends but we still curse each other over phone, texts or whenever we meet. Now we make fun of each other's failed relationships and call each other by our father's names.This is us appreciating each others DP.This is us at 1 am when we were returning after celebrating a friend's birthday.:)
I'm Pregnant With My Best Friend's Husband's Child?
Yes, yes Im a WHORE. I know i am =( Not too long ago, I had a Christmas party at my house. When my best friend and my other girlfriends were socializing with people in the living room, my BEST FRIEND'S husband (who is BEYOND SEXY) came over and started talking to me. He was drunk obviously because he kept slurring and kept saying things that didn't make sense. Then, he started coming on to me. He told me I was beautiful, and sexy and started asking why WE were not married and raising a beautiful family together. I had a little too much to drink too, but I was fine, not acting as stupid as he was. But anyway, he told me that I was the hottest woman in New York City and how he wished he'd married me instead of my best friend. Then, it got bad. He started kissing my neck and moving closer and closer to me. I tried to make him back off, but he wouldn't. Then finally, he left me alone and I went on with the party. Then later on in the night, I felt like I was going to vomit and the bathroom downstairs was taken. So, I went upstairs and threwup (obviously from all the booze) in my bathroom. I guess her husband (no, not saying his name) heard me from downstairs or down the hall and came to see what was wrong. He comforted me, and made me feel a lot better. And then...what do you know it. We ended up having unprotected sex in the damn bathroom. :( When my period was five days late, I was so scared. I kept throwing up, was tired, and felt sick all the time. I finally decided to go to my doctor and it horrified me when she told me that I was pregnant. I have no idea what to do. I did tell my best friend's husband and he got extremely pissed, and tried blaming me for everything that happened. He wants me to have an abortion and to NEVER bring it up to my friend. I think I will get an abortion. I'm such a dirty slut! I could never carry a child for 9 months that I made with another woman's man. Then having to look at that child's face and know that my best friend's husband is this baby's father. I just can't.
What are some signs that your boyfriend really loves you?
Basics signs to understand if your boyfriend loves you He will certainly make time for you without any lame excuses.He will reply to your text and call quickly or if in case he is late he will call and make you understand the reason .He will understand the insecurity of a girl and never try to act or do anything stupid to make you vulnerable.He will introduce you to his close inner group of friends and family so you can be more comfortable around .He will have eyes for you (may be few flirting incident in general) but you will always be his girl.You will be his Priority among along his work and people as he will never ignore you under the veil of space and time .He would understand the difference between Lovd and Lust. He would wait .He would ask you for the marriage first.He would treat your parents and family as his own and your friends as his own group .He would lead you in hardtimes, guide you when you will be low and stand by with you when you will be least expecting this him .Even after a long and tiring day if he is calling to ask you how was your day/ did you have your lunch etc . . Believe me he love you .He will balance things, work /time /relations with you.Instead of breaking up on small or big fights, he will sit with you, communicate and solve the issue and make things work again.You will see him with genuine smile and warmth whenever you will meet him.He would be a bit possessive ( natural in all men) as he is afraid to loose you .Your weight/skintone/ etc will not be a matter of concern to him .The best way to know if he love you is try testing him when things go south, if he is there till the end to make things rights and workable (girl don't loose him , he is a keeper).If a man is into you, he will come and get you . It is this simple.Though relation is based of true abs mutual efforts of both the individuals . Trust and respect him, if the person is genuine , he is not going to wander.Peace (Ra)
My boyfriend is overly attached to his hippo stuffed animal from his childhood. He sleeps with it even when we sleep together. Should I be concerned about my boyfriend's obsession with his hippo stuffed animal?
Why would you be? What does he do that makes his hippo a problem?Plenty of people hold on to an object from their childhood. It could be food, it could be a plushie, it could be a toy car, it could be a particular piece of clothing. For example, my uncle (a massive, hulking body-builder dude) has a piece of his first, baby-blue blanket which my grandmother put into his cot when they came back home from the hospital together for the first time. He has never slept a day without his blanket (40 years later, his blanket-fragment), not even in the army. He is also a devoted father of two children, and a responsible business man.My boyfriend has kept hold of his stuffed bear since he was a child. When I first saw his bed, the bear was prominently displayed on the pillows. I was surprised and said something to the extent, “oh, a bear!”. My boyfriend quickly shoved the bear (Teddy) away, but I immediately protested, saying he should not treat his friend this way. He looked at me gratefully, and put the bear back on the pillows, while we proceeded to continue our date and have sex. He sleeps with Teddy every night, and sometimes places him in my arms when he leaves in the morning. He has a deep emotional connection to Teddy - and it detracts not an iota from his ability to be a grown-up, responsible human being.Holding on to things from the past can indeed be a dangerous impulse, especially if it leads to hoarding behaviour or some sort of yearning for a time gone by. Respectfully, a stuffed animal hardly fits those criteria. I think holding on to the memory of an ex-lover who abandoned you if much more harmful than holding on to the simple joy, safety, comfort and peace of childhood, which these items do for us sometimes.See if you can accept the hippo as one of the idiosyncrasies of your boyfriend’s character. If not, that is fair enough! There could be a myriad of reasons as to why YOU are bothered by the hippo - from previous trauma from a trip to the Nile, to the fact that a stuffed animal infantilizes a person to such a degree that you are no longer sexually attracted to them. These are valid reasons to break up, and you should consider them. However, the hippo in and of itself is nothing bad!
How does it feel to meet your childhood friend after many years?
Ah! Those feelings. It felt like I am reliving my kindergarten days, I got every memory he talked about, recapitulated every incident he described and that was a form of happiness I never experienced since past few years.So, I met a childhood friend of mine, Palak (he is a boy :p) after 15 long years, we were together till class 1. And it was not just a normal meeting, the entire series of talks and a very special place we visited together made the entire day very memorable.As I saw him for the very first time, my first words were, “Feels like I am meeting to a new face, a new person with just few strings of memory attached.”Oh man, that feeling of seeing him again and talking about our old classmates, teachers and school developed an urge to just get them all there and have our lunch the way we used to. I couldn’t resist and asked him,“Chal school chalte hai?” (Shall we visit our school?)Which was 30 kilometers away and in a village. Yes, we both used to live in villages and study in a local convent there. And without a single thought he said,“Chal” (Let’s go.)And then followed a road trip with him, to the old school. It was in the same state as when we left it (only the walls were plastered and painted). Felt like the classroom ,the benches, the entire area was actually welcoming us bac. Memories were expressing themselves in form of tears.(This is my school building)(And yes, it’s still the same)(This tree was our peeing spot :p)(And here is Palak, the class in background was our classroom)The entire experience was extraordinary, and we both together then decided to find out other friends who were with us.Thankyou for reading.Cheers!
Your infertility experience...How do you feel, what things have well meaning people said that hurt, etc.?
Wow! What a great question! I don’t even know where to start. I have been married for 14 year and been TTC for God knows how long. We tried unsuccessfully on our own and then looked into a fertility specialist. It was found that my FSH levels were too high to make good eggs or that I have diminished ovarian reserve and my RE said because I had tried for so long unsuccessfully that IVF would be my best option. We jumped in feet first. The first was a BFN, the second ectopic, and last another BFN, and I’m due to start another this week. There are MANY well meaning unthinking folk out there. Unfortunately, they do not know how hurtful they can be. You know, I sometimes tell people that talking to someone who is suffering from infertility has the same feeling like when talking to someone you know who has a loved one that died. It is very hard to think of the right things to say so some either don’t say anything (The pink elephant in the room) or you are avoided. Hearing “Do you have kids?” after everything I have been through kills me now. I even got “Do you want children?” It gets harder every time I hear it. I’ve heard it all. “Relax”, “You’re next”, “Go on vacation and it will work.” This even coming from people who know I lost on tube with my ectopic and my other doesn’t work. What now bothers me the most is hearing that adoption is an option for me. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard to “Just adopt.” This is from people who have no clue what the adoption process is like. I have even heard “Just adopt and you’ll get pregnant.” Adoption is not a cure for infertility and does not take away a desire for a biological child. It is very complicated and there are huge risks, expenses, it is emotionally challenging and there is no guarantee of a child in the end. Don’t remind a women suffering with infertility that she can adopt. She already knows. I have nothing against adoption. I plan on doing it in the future no matter what. It is just not an option for me right now. Here is another example of hurtful questions. Feel free to look at my response :) http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;... These days it’s hard not to get snarky sometimes. Wishing your arms will be full soon!