My friend copies my homework.... :(?
Its kinda hard for me to say "no" on stuff that other people want or wutever. like homework. ughhhh. my friend is really innocent looking and very sensitive. i kno that she is "evil" underneath tho. anyways, she asks me for like math homework or history hw or wutever hw. and its realllly hard for me to say no becuz our friendship is not like a wild and "say-wutever-u-want-to-say type. if i just say "no", itll be really heart-sinking for her, i kno it. like the other day she asked me and i couldnt say no. i was like "why?? wut were doing?? how come u never do ur homework??" (nicely with a smile) and she goes "oh, becuz i was busy." i kno she isnt busy cuz she told me b4 that shes really lazy. she thinks i dont remember and she asks it sooo inoocently. sometimes i wish she was never my friend..i feel so harsh. ugh. but only with her, i am sensitive with and nice. with the rest of my friends im like myself and wild and i do say wut i want to say. i cant say "be more responsible either..."
How do I deal with a friend who copies me?
First of all cancel that party. Say the venue wasn't available or something. Tell her why you're doing it, and that if she contradicts you that all your friends will be made aware that she's too blame. As to the issue. You need to identify why she's copying you. Does she admire you? Is she purposefully trying to tick you off? Is she dull and have no original thoughts of her own? Does she have an actual mental issue?Identifying what her problem is will help determine what you need to do. No matter what, I think she would benefit from a counselor. Maybe if you start going she'll follow that lead too.The other thing that strikes me is you seem a little too close given this problem. You take her on trips or confide your plans to her yet are surprised when she copies you. Apparently that's what she does. I'm not saying end the relationship, just put s little emotional and physical distance between yourselves.You said talking is pointless, so you're going to have to take a firm lead on this.
Friends that are copy cats?
Usually when friends hang out for a long period of time they start to act like one another. Its normal
Why is my best friend always copying my goals, and likes to see me fail?
My best friend and I have been friends for years now, but recently since last yr, she started being strange in copying my goals in a competitive manner. Early last year I said that I was going back to uni after I took a gap year off and that I was going to study really hard and get high marks and finish my degree off. (I know and she knows that when I do concentrate on my studies that I do achieve high grades) Then she decided to go back to Uni to study a masters. (she initially finished in visual arts but is not really academic compared to my business course, and started to study extreme hours) My personality has always been very serious about nutrition and eating healthily, then she started to do the same. (she became obsessed with nutrition, taking multi vitamins etc) Then when I said I have been swimming weekly, she joined a Gym and told me shes been going everyday. I just feel like she is always trying to one up me and cant understand why?? I cant understand why she cant just do her own thing set her own goals and the worse part is I feel she gets pleasure out of hearing me fail. I went through a phrase earlier a few months ago, when I was thinking of working part time and studying full time (as I needed to meet rental repayments). And she suggested that I studied part time and work full time instead?? (which means it will delay my graduation) Whenever I tell her that Im not doing well, I can a small grin on her face. I just cant understand... Im just a normal friend, she should compete with society not me. But please share me if you have experience something similar, or help me understand why she is acting this way??
My "friend" copies everything I do and I hate it, how do I stop feeling annoyed by her without having to talk to her about it?
I agree that she really admires you. It's possible that she either hates you and likes to see you fail, or she looks up to you and wants to be just like you. Admiration is possible in either case. The issue with most interpersonal relationships is the lack of communication. Before you even talk to her, I would evaluate why you're so bothered by what she's doing. Think about the reasons you're annoyed, and was it really worth having lost a friend and possibly your greatest ally? There's a very high chance that she had no intention of hurting you, and you're just being mean. What exactly are your "interests" that she is copying? Because, regardless of what it is, I doubt you're the best in it in the world and you're certainly not the first to do it. Does that mean you should be annoyed that someone started riding horses before you? Nope. Does that mean you should be annoyed that someone does better than you in chemistry? Nope. Does that mean you should be annoyed that someone makes more money than you? Nope. So, why are you annoyed with her? Because you believe that she imitated deliberately and with maleficence? If yes, that's just ignorance on your part.Lastly, talk to her. Be honest, but be nice. Whatever her behavior and intent, you have nothing to gain from being callous. The sad part is, if she finally leaves you alone, you will know she had nothing but the purest intentions and you just caused her the pain of losing a good friend.
My best friend is constantly trying to make me jealous/make me look bad? Please read?
This is going to be very hard for you but you HAVE to cut ties. Again, I am not saying this will be easy, but it will be worth it. You need to pace yourself and baby-step yourself away from her. I know the feeling of "revenge" is strong and that is the adversary working at his best. But the ONLY way and best way to get back at her is to become truly great YOURSELF. Focus on yourself 110%. I wouldn't read her text back regarding the sleepover as her being excited you won't be there, again, you couldn't go. If you were testing her to see if she'd be bummed, that is a sure sign you don't trust the friendship anyway. I don't think you are insecure, I think your feelings are hurt, and rightfully so. However, there is no way to "get back" at her or get your best friend back because she has changed. High school is tough and not pretty, but it is ONLY a phase... it is so temporary and I know it doesn't seem like it. But it is. Take this as an opportunity to become a beautiful, ADULT, young lady and show the world (and more importantly, yourself) that you can handle set-backs as wisely as you can. An edge is only sharpened when faced with adversity. Remember that. Mishaps like these are like knives. They either serve us or cut us, as we grasp them by the blade or the handle. So grab it by the handle and get a handle on the situation. You must find a new best friend... and that is ok. You don't need to be mean or caddy- ignore her texts (if they are mean), ignore any rude remarks, ignore anything and everything negative that may come from them. Just be plesant and be friendly, super friendly. Always smile, say kind things and keep dressing your cute self and get involved in school activities. You won't be able to help but make new friends.