Why do I feel so sad lately?
Well, it probably will pass. Sometimes people get depressed, it could be your stress at school, it could be hormones, or it could be something else you don't realize yet (or even a combination of those three). The biggest thing, don't beat yourself up about it, this type of thing happens to everybody at least once in awhile. It's part of life. Nobody is happy all the time, just like nobody is sad all the time. But, the best part about bad times is they do end! You can try talking to some friends, or a close family member, a teacher you like, a pastor or priest, your family Dr., or a school counselor. Even if you don't have something specific to talk about, sometimes it just helps to let someone know you are feeling sad and discouraged. And when you are by yourself, try to focus on the positive instead of the negative. That should help. When a negative thing pops in your head, tell yourself you will not harbor unhappy and negative thoughts, and then try to think of something you are happy and glad about. A good friend, a good relationship with your folks, a good grade in school, even a TV show you like. As long as it is something you enjoy and it makes you happy, it will always help to focus on something positive instead of negative. If your depression continues for much longer, or you ever feel suicidal, talk to your folks. You may need to see a counselor, Dr., or get on some medication. There is no shame in any of those things, it is simply taking care of yourself. Good luck, I hope you feel better soon!
My bf has been sad lately. What should I do or say to cheer him up?
I’ve been there too. There was a long period of my life I was constantly sad, which ended up in depression.People around me tried to help me and support me, and I only felt worst. Because I could cope with being a disappointment to myself, but not to my wife and kids. That raised the pressure even more.When we see people we love being very down it comes natural to try to cheer them up. But truth is we are just contributing to make our loved ones feeling even more powerless.Each of us has the power and responsibility for his own life, and we must always keep that in sight. Empowering a person is always the best way to help.To go back to your question, if you agree with the above, here how my wife helped me getting over my depression, when she understood trying to cheer me up wouldn’t work.She stopped buying into “my story”. And started asking me what’s the real reasons I was sad. She wouldn’t accept something like “life is unfair”, but she would always drive me to see what’s underneath. That led me most of the times to see how the sadness was coming from what I was perceiving the reality was, not from the reality itself. In other words, most of my sadness was coming from something I had made up myself unconsciously.She pointed me to few professionals, but always left me the choice to attend them or not. One of the workshops I’ve been literally changed my life, and I’m so grateful she open that door for me.She has never given up, even when I did. She always kept in sight I’m a powerful human being, and as a such I’m entitled to live a fulfilled life.But most importantly, she didn’t take it personal. She stepped outside her feelings of being useless, unworthy and powerless, and focussed fully on her end result, which was for me to realise my life is worthy.
I’ve been feeling really down and depressed lately like a feeling inside that I can’t lift up. I’m on Zoloft for anxiety. Anxiety and depression also run in my family. I only feel legitimately happy with my boyfriend. What does this mean?
Anxiety and depression are caused by stress, and stress becomes a problem when you are in too big a hurry/impatient. Slow down, if it usually takes you ten minutes to do it allow yourself twenty minutes, thus ensuring you get it right the first time. Avoid multi-tasking, yeah I know, but you are a woman and you are good at it, so much so that you have multiple mental disorders maybe because of.Your boyfriend isn’t the cause of your problems that’s why for now at least you enjoy his company.Your environment sounds toxic, anxiety and depression runs in your family, are there other family members around you that feel the way you do?
My guy guy friend has been acting sad lately?
Let's call my crush/guy friend bob and my crush/guy friends's best friend john. So a few days ago, John told me he he loved me. He's always been kinda cute but I just wanted to be friends and I told him that. Naturally, by the end of the day, everyone knew about it. Including bob. We've been best friends for 8 years and for the last few years, we've been really close and everyone says that me likes me. (I like him) so since he knew, he's been acting very sad and strange. He normally never like that! I thought it was maybe jealousy. I texted him that night asking him if everything was alright. He said thx for being worried but it's nothing. I replied ok but you can trust me. After a few days though, he got back to himself. Help me! Does he like me? Is he jealous?
Why does my boyfriend treat me badly and then get angry when I complain that his behaviour makes me feel sad?
Because you allow him to treat you badly, and you've fallen into the trap that many who haven't been around the block experience with these less than desirable companions: Feeling badly for someone else's bad behavior. It's like Janet Jackson once sang: "I know you USED to do nice things for me, but what have you done for me lately?"I'm not trying to be mean. I've been where you're at, and learned the hard way that love -or what poses as love, but really isn't- is an action. It's not just a word. For some of us with tender hearts, it's easier for the lesson to be learned when we put it in a context that we can grasp. If someone "says" they love you, then behaves in a manner that does not exemplify a true definition of love, then we must be brave enough to call it for what it is. Perhaps we don't have a way to articulate our confusion, but it's okay to say, "That's not love!" and walk away.Most of us are scared of walking away to preserve our dignity & self-respect. Why? Good question! I've looked at it from a zillion different angles & concluded that we are afraid....of being alone. Honestly, I'd rather be alone than spend time with someone who makes me feel crappy -when I haven't done anything to deserve it. We don't want to be the "bad guy".This is backwards thinking, and I dispensed with it a long time ago. First & foremost, we should love ourselves. If we can't, then we will attract people who will play all sorts of emotional games with us, then blame us when we call them out on it! Why waste time on unhappy unions?Your bf gets angry because he's using classic deflection techniques on you. These leave you feeling badly (for HIS bad behavior). They leave you confused, when there really is nothing confusing about the situation you're in. And guess what? You have choices: You can stay, and continue to be treated badly, end up feeling badly, and confused. Which is the same as doing nothing. OR...you can set him -and yourself- free. Let him go find someone else to abuse, and you are now free to find someone worthy of your time, attention, affection, and LOVE. Love yourself enough to demand that he change. Absent him changing, you know you have choices.
My boyfriend makes me feel so sad?
Iv been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and everything runs pretty smoothly with the odd arguments here and there like every normal relationship, here is whats bothering me my boyfriend shouts and i dont like it it upsets me i tell him and he says he hasent done anything wrong and i try to.tell him he just.goes.quite.dosent speak or puts his head down or shouts more. Yesterday i was feeling down and i rang him up and he started saying what are you doing calling me i dont want to speak to you im seeing you later (i was seeing him in 4 hours and i needed somone to speak to) he swore at me and thretened to put phone down if i didnt shut up talking and let him go of the phone all i wanted was to talk to him whilst i wasent feeling good, he then told me when i was with him you dont need to speak to me everyday we dont need to contact each other i said well its easy to send a text seeing if he or i is okay. He said no he says im over the top i know im not he dosent give ne correct emotional care. I feel sso down and unloved i feel emotional and physically sick iv not contacted him all day and its.so sad.to know he would not be thinking of me. Can anyone give me some advice please
How do I cheer up my gf when she is sad?
Well, it would be good to have more information about what she is sad about. My answer will be very general = Listen.You may or may not have received this kind of answer, and I truly do not know what type of girlfriend you have. She may be the kind who wants your full attention, or little romantic gestures with flowers/chocolates/ice cream perhaps..?But I feel, that sitting beside her, holding her in your arms and listening to her problems will alleviate her mood tremendously.Ladies are emotional creatures, whether we like it or not. No matter how much front we put up, we just tend to be more emotional. Even if she may not reciprocate your closeness to her, she will appreciate you just listening. And don't ignore her being moody and non-receptive. Just ask kindly if anything is bothering her.One great example, from my personal experience is my partner asking me if anything is bothering me (usually I'm quite sullen and give a one or two word answers). He knows that something is wrong, and after that, he usually says, “you can always talk to me cause i’ll be here to listen to you.” If I don't reply him, cause I needed time to think out my thoughts, let it be. Don't fret about it. She’ll come ‘round after a while. Just a gesture of showing her that “hey, i’ll be here for you” is really more than enough. Unless she is the clingy type then it's probably another story!I hope this somewhat lengthy advise may help!Cheers~