How does it feel to be jobless even after having graduated from top institutes of India?
I was jobless for 6 years by choice. I am from NIT Kurukshetra. I took a plunge in a notorious exam called Civil Service Exam. During that time CSE had 4 chances for a general category student.During first two attempts I didn't even manage to clear Prelim. It was during the 3rd attempt I managed to reach till interview somehow. But failed to be in the final merit list. By the time 4 yrs had already gone in a row. Somehow I mustered up the courage to appear in the final attempt. This time again I attended interview ... but finally BANG .... no name in the final merit list.Then followed the period of depression. I felt like guilty of committing some kind of cardinal sin. Most of my friends had already settled in their respective jobs like Banks, MNCs, Academics, etc.I had to start all over again at entry level jobs. My resume got rejected 99% of the times. Even any kind of reference didn't work.I was 28 yrs by the time. You can imagine the plight of a jobless man at that time.Even people used to say behind my back, "Jab aukaat nahi thhi Engineering karne ki toh kia hi kyun, ... BA hi kar lete." [Trans: "When you didn't have the acumen of going with Engineering, ..then why did you even do that .. you should have better enrolled in BA (Arts)"]But the remarkable aspect of CSE preparation was that it gave me an enormous stamina to deal with this miserable period of life.I started giving Chemistry tutions to Class XI & XII students to stay alive.But I wasn't satisfied and felt that void a big time.But from that point of life, ... I had left nothing to lose.It was a friend settled in Adelaide who came to my rescue. He advised me to apply for Australian immigration with whatever visa I was eligible for. There were only two ways to get the visa. Either by marrying someone there or applying for a student visa. I went for the latter. Got my student visa after some struggle. Took a loan for 1st sem fees.Reached there and worked day and night without looking back. I had to pay my fees, loan, survival, medical with whatever little I managed to earn. Had to learn the real art of passing the semester exams with whatever little I studied after back breaking labor of entire day.Last year, I got PR and succeeded to get my course done on time. Currently, working in a mine in Perth. I don't mind working hard.
My BF is Graduating but I am not invited, and I am very torn up? Not sure what to do?
My boyfriend and I have been together almost 5 years. This May he graduates and I am not invited to his ceremony. I know that his parents have put out a lot of money in order for him to graduate and he only gets 6 tickets. Is it selfish of me to want to be there and to get mad at him for not telling his mother that one of his tickets are already spoken for. His mother does not like me because of my past, that hurts a little and I can not control that. I am never disrespectful of her nor will I ever be. I feel like he should have had my back on this or instead of fighting with his mother about the situation gone to the school and got an extra ticket as they do have a ticket giveaway for all Seniors who need extra tickets instead of him not doing anything and telling me its out of his hands. I just do not know how to feel about this situation, I did mention that this could possibly break us up, because if this is how it is going to always be with in our relationship and I can not count on him to be there for me than why are we continuing. He will be getting his masters and I have been there every step of the way, Please do not get me wrong I do have a past I was married before but he knew that before we got together and he decided to stay. I know leaving him is not the answer and I am not asking him to give up his family, I just want him to stand up and show that I matter to. He tells my I am his girl and I should act like it, well I think he should take his own advice.
Who should I invite to graduation ceremony?
I will be graduating next month with my BA in psychology. The graduation ceremony will take place in Feb of next year. I will only be given 4 tickets for the graduation ceremony which means I can only invite 4 guests. I will most definitely be inviting my mom, dad, and boyfriend. This leave one ticket left. I am torn between inviting my boyfriend's mom and my grandmother. I know a lot of people are saying...that's easy, invite your grandma because she's family. True. I would love for her to come but I would also love for my boyfriend's mother to come also. His mother is also like a mother to me. She does so much for me and my family. Let me explain that I have a daughter with her son and she does all she can to help us out. She watches our daughter for us whenever we need to work or go to school. If it wasn't for her watching her while I go to school, I probably would not be graduating. For that, I feel as though I should show my appreciation to her and invite her to my graduation. Every other graduation I have or anyone else in the family, my grandmother gets invited. I've had to argue with my mom about this for the past couple of months and it's really bothering me. I just think that my grandmother could let someone else go to a graduation for once. I love her to death but I feel like his mother deserves to be at this one. I really need some advice on this. Who should I invite and how should I let that person that can't go know? Thanks!
Why did my ex's mom invite me to his graduation party when she knows we're broken up?
Maybe she was being nice but that's really weird to do :P Maybe she wants you guys to get back together or she wants you to make peace or something, I'm not sure. If I was a mother though and that predicament happened, I don't think I'd invite his ex girlfriend :P That's just kinda weird to do in my opinion :) Best of luck to you and your boyfriend!
My ex girlfriend's graduation is tomorrow. should i attend the commencement?
She broke up w me 4 months ago. she said she lost her feelings for me. 3 months later she is dating someone else. We dated for 2 years.I am not sure whether I should attend the commencement ceremony or not. I still care bout her and i know that graduating from college means a lot to her. Is being there the right move. I mean I am not trying to get back w her. But being together for two years makes me feel like I should be there...please let me know what u guys think...
I am divorced. My X is hosting a graduation dinner party for our daughters and I am not invited...?
The X and his family are hosting a dinner party at a nice restaurant to celebrate each of our daughters' upcoming graduation. The dinner party is the evening following our oldest daughter's graduation from college, and one week prior to our other daughter's graduation from high school. I was very hurt to learn this was happening and I am not invited. My oldest daughter thought it would be best if I do something separate on my own with her and her sister the day following the dinner party, just the three of us, and whatever family members from my side I wish to include. I don't want to make a big fuss, because of what she says. I mean, if she doesn't want me there, then I really don't want to be there. But I am concerned she's doing this because of pressure from her dad/his family -- as far as he and they are concerned, I'm the wicked witch who divorced him 3 years ago, etc etc. won't get into all that and all the reasons why, etc. Anyway, I am just wondering what people think about this. My oldest daughter and I are driving over to the city tonight where my other daughter still lives with her dad, to spend Mothers Day weekend together. It's a 3 hour drive and a perfect opportunity to talk about this, but, like I said, I don't want to push it if I'm completely over-reacting or if there's another viewpoint to consider that I haven't thought of yet. Thank you!!
My parents won't come to my graduation....?
THINK OF THIS. YOUR BROTHER IS YOUR FAMILY. SOME PEOPLE DON'T HAVE ANYBODY..MY FAMILY WAS NOT PHYSICAL ABUSIVE. AS PARENTS THEY DID NOT REALIZE THAT THEY WERE ALWAYS WERE PLAYING FAVORITES IT DOES HURT. BUT REMEMBER THIS ABOUT BEING A NURSE..YOU WILL BE ABLE TO HELP LOTS OF PEOPLE IN YOUR CAREER. THAT IS WHY GOD PUT US ON EARTH TO HELP AND LOVE ONE ANOTHER. MY MOTHER WAS A NURSE ALSO. AND I WORK IN A HOSPITAL,HAVE FOR 40 YEARS AS A PATIENT REP.. BEING A NURSE IS A WONDERFUL THING TO DO WITH YOU LIFE. YOU CHOOSE THIS CAREER..NOT YOUR FAMILY. YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN THIS WORLD. WE CAN NOT CHANGE OUR FAMILY. ONLY OUR THINKING .. BE FREE, AND START YOU NEW CAREER AND LIFE..HOLD YOU HEAD UP HIGH AND SMILE AS YOUR WALK ACROSS THAT STAGE. ONE DAY WHEN YOU ARE HELPING A PATIENT. THAT SAME PATIENT MIGHT HAVE HAD ALL THAT BAD BAGGAGE FROM A LIFE LIKE YOU HAD GROWING UP..AND CAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN THERE. YOU WILL KNOW JUST THE RIGHT THINGS TO SAY AND DO THE HELP THAT PATIENT ....I A PROUD TO KNOW YOU WILL GET THREW THIS CEREMONY JUST FINE. AND SMILE CAUSE GOD LOVES YOU.....BEST OF LUCK TO YOU....HOPE ALL GOES WELL THAT DAY........LP
My ex is going to graduate this week, should I send him a message?
Why? Really, why? What is the reason?I mean, if you are friends or you have kept an honest friendship after your break up, then sure, as you would be sending a message to not just an ex, but to a friend.If you are not friends, then really, what is the goal? Is the message loaded? As in, you re sending it with anything but I mean no other intentions then saying, “Hey, we used to sleep together but now I only see you as a friend and I just wanted to send you this, you do not need to reply at all and in fact, I hope that you have a hot girl with you along with your family to celebrate, if possible.”Or is there an alternative motive? It would also depends on the manner and reasons you broke up. For example, I used to have an ex that use to send me notes like the one you mention (and birthday congrats too) because she was still carrying a torch for me years after the break up and sending the odd texts like that was her way to keep the a bridge of communication open and to remind that that she was still in the picture. You know, as a “friend.” (wink, wink)Or if the break up was still somewhat fresh, would be another example.Simply put, you only asked the action, but the reason I ask, is because people don’t just think of an action without a motive and you did not mention what that motive is. So, what I am pointing out is that the motive is part of the context and like in everything, it matters.If the intent is only to send a congrats, and the context in which you broke up allowed for such interactions without being weird, or awkward, or if there is no extra drama that could come out of you reaching out to him, then sure, why not?
Should I go to my Ex's college graduation?
This is a difficult one because you guys have dated for almost three years,know each other's parents,his parents love you because they were looking forward to seeing you marry him, you guys have known each other since 5th grade ,have the same circle of friends,but have broken up for three months. In that 3 months period,you guys have met and seen each other. With that in mind,I will suggest that you do not go.The reason is that he has not invited you to come although he has had plenty of opportunities to ask you to come..This would seem to infer that he does not want you to come to his graduation for whatever reasons.Ask him if there is any reason for not inviting you apart from you guys no longer dating.His response should clear all of your concerns and tell you the next step to take. Being exes does not mean that you have to be enemies who can wish each other well on graduation day or any other happy occasion
Graduation Dilemma with son?
Graduation Dilemma with son Long story short.....I need good advice very torn. 2005 when my son was 15 he was kidnapped by ex-husband whom never kept his visitation visits On a regular basic. For the record my Son and I had a solid and good relationship. For 3 months they hid my son. After going to court the Judge gave My ex-husband Sole Custody this is a Man who physically abusive him. My ex of course was not interested in raising him just passed him over to his iLL Parents. My son whom was raised in a Christian Home is now being raised by Grandparents and a mentally ill aunt It has been 2 years and my Son has now refused to see me and has become extremely belligerent We have only had 3 conversations on the phone. I send support every month, gifts for Christmas and Birthdays. My son now using his Aunt as a mouth piece. My Father passed away this pass Saturday and I attended Funeral services today. I called to the home to notify my Son however no response whatsoever. This evening after the Funeral service the Aunt calls to inform me in a Rude Manner Graduation is Sat at 9.am and Hangs up. I never received an invitation nor class pictures. Nor has my Son called me. My dilemma is since the passing of my Father this week I am so distraught This Saturday my mother and I made plans to visit my Aunt whom will be leaving Saturday afternoon . Back home to Memphis she is so distraught since my Father passed away in her arms and her son My cousin has been called to serve in Iraq. I really don't know what to do at this time ??? I am not up for the absive the Aunt or my son will display. Thank you for your ear and comments