My Boyfriends Unemployment is Killing our Relationship...HELP?
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years now. We have lived together for 5 ½ of that. He was my first love. I think that’s a big reason why I’m scared to let go. Long story short he has only worked close to 2 of the 7 years we have been together. He doesn’t go to school all he does is play video games and drink while I work my *** off to support us. He does apply to a lot of jobs but no one seems to call him back ever. I try to be supportive but how can I be when I always have to pick up the slack. It kills me when he says it’s not his fault he doesn’t have a job because I feel it is. We’ve been down this road before. 3 years ago, we had a lot bs happen to us and he fell into a understandable depression but he never came back from it and instead just became an alcoholic while I became a workaholic working 16 hours days 7 days straight for months to just get us anywhere in life. 4 years into the relationship when his alcoholism was at a high, I asked him to move back in with his family to straighten up. We stayed together through it all. I knew it was the situation killing him and that’s why I did my best to get us out of it. After 6 months of not drinking, he sounded better and started working again so we moved back in. All of sudden his job stop putting him on the schedule and he stopped looking for jobs because “he had one” even though he wasn’t working. Here we are almost 7 years into the relationship and he’s yet again not working, still drinking and is so unmotivated. The hardest part is I love him more than I love myself. Ive committed so much time and energy, I feel like walking away is a waste. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I really wonder if he will ever grow up or is this is how hes going to be for the rest of his life. I don’t want to be stuck supporting someone who doesn’t even try. I am only 23 but I feel so alone and so confused. Any advice would help. What would you do in this situation? Stay or walk away?
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I need help, my boyfriend is getting kicked out of his house.?
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