My boyfriend's grandma has just passed away. How should I deal with him?
Grieving can take many forms. It is said there are five stages and that it can take up to 2 years to go through them all, but know that not everyone experiences all of them, or does them in the same order and some people stay in the cycle and never leave it.The most important thing you can do is avoid forcing him to go to a step he is not ready for. This will come back to bite him and you later on very badly.This will require immense patience.Let him grieve and be with him. He may or may not be able to speak about it. Sometimes a person just wants to cry a lot for a while until they are so exhausted and decide they need to start talking. Try to see the tears as a need to let go, rather than as anything that is designed to discomfort you, so avoid taking any of his actions at this time personally. Once he is ready to talk, ask him to tell you about her, what she meant to him and what he gained from knowing her. It may be positive for him to create a project box about her, a box of memories, where he puts inside pictures of things that he feels connect him with her. It may help him to write her a letter, saying what he wants her to know.This can be very powerful.You can also read up about how to help someone grieve. The simplest way forward is to ask him what he needs at this time and what you can do that will help him the most (avoid using phrases like 'help you move on' because this exerts pressure). Let him set the pace and walk with him. He will love you for this. But be prepared for this to take a long while to play itself out. Grieving can't be rushed to suit someone else. If you expect this, it will drive him away from you.
Can I go to hell if I have had sex with my boyfriend before we're married????
OK!! First things first!! God loves you - even though you had sex with your boyfriend. Secondly - it was wrong of your parents to tell you you would go to hell if you did - wrong!! That is just their way of trying to prevent you from having sex with you bf!! You should try reading some of the great promises God gives us in the bible - that will encourage you. Dont always just listen to your parents - check it out with the lord - prayer always works for me!!
My boyfriend has high expectations of me. Should I just let it go?
Recently, I've decided to move out. This is a big deal for me. I am very family-oriented, and I have had to go to counseling to get over the guilt I feel from moving away. I've decided now that this is what I want. I've done the budget planning as best as I could, set a savings goal, and made a resolution to move out in a year if I can afford it by then. While discussing this with my boyfriend today, he told me that he felt let down and disappointed by me. I couldn't answer his questions specifically enough when he asked me to show my calculations and plans. This is all very new to me, and I've only just decided recently to do this. I feel like I've made quite a lot of progress for the kind of person I am (compulsive spender, easily guilt-tripped by family, etc.) and I am proud of how far I've come. He says he is also proud of my progress, but at the same time, it is not enough for him and his expectations. Since me moving out means we will get to see each other more often, he feels disappointed that I haven't made a backup plan yet or done all the calculations to be sure enough. After telling him how much this hurts me to hear, he tells me that I should just let it be and let time change his mind, because he will feel like this for a while. He doesn't seem to understand why it hurts me so much that he has high expectations of me. He says it is a sign that he loves me and is vested in me and doesn't understand why I want him to put those expectations aside. I feel like I'm not good enough, like I'll never be good enough. I feel like he isn't really proud of me and that he will always feel let down. How do I learn to deal with his expectations? Or am I right? Is he in the wrong to judge me like that when I am a different person than he is? Help, please, I'm so distraught... Thank you.
My boyfriend asked me to go on vacation with him, should he be paying for some of my expenses then?
I’m 20, he’s 22. We’ve been together for 8 months now. This is our first time going on a vacation together. The trip is about 4 days and it’s probably going to cost around $500 each. He works a decent job. I don’t work right now. However, my dad feels as though, if he’s asking me to come with him (and knows I have to rely on my dad for the money), that he would offer to help out. I had to explain to my dad that he’s still young and saving up. But my dad still feels as though if he really wanted me to go, he would work extra shifts or ask his dad for a loan. He doesn’t have to pay for my entire trip, but maybe throw down $150 or whatever. I don’t entirely disagree with my dad, because I would feel that way if we were together for years/ or if he was 26 with a salary. But we’re both still young and I would never expect him to pay for my stuff like this. Do you guys think my dad is right? Or is he just being an old fashioned guy? My boyfriend was already expecting to pay for my meals too
Embarrassed to have my boyfriend go down on me?
If you really think you aren't average as far as aroma, you need to see a doctor. I have a feeling it might be all in your head. As far as a few razor bumps, if you don't think your relationship would survive that, maybe you shouldn't be in bed with the guy yet. Believe me, he isn't going to notice a little razor burn. Next time wax. God, I can't imagine having scars. Ouch. I don't think most men are expecting perfection or for you to smell like something other than female. Most of them like the musky smell of femininity as long as it's recently showered. If you don't have actual experience to compare it to, you might be imagining it. And if he's really into you, he'll overlook both and a whole lot more.
How do I convince my boyfriend to go to prom with me?
I know it's a little early to think about this, but I asked my boyfriend if he would go to prom with me, and he said no. He's a couple years older than me so he's in university now. He told me he didn't even go his own prom; he thinks it's stupid and lame. However, he won't allow me to go with anyone else either. I don't think it's fair for him to not allow me to go with a guy friend when he's the one declining my offer in the first place. So I'm just wondering if there's any way I could convince him to go, rather than throw a tantrum and force him or end up angering him because I went with another guy? It's not like he lives far from me or anything. He's just once again, embarrassed of being seen with me even after 4 years of dating simply because I look young (he even admitted to this).
I have fallen in love with a girl, but she has a boyfriend. What do I do?
Why did you fall in love with someone who already has a boyfriend? Okay! I understand. It happens. So, start thinking about “What ifs” first.Assume you have proposed her. She has rejected you coz she already has a boyfriend. Nice girl she is! What got wasted now? Your feelings got wasted. Time wasted. Most important thing is you are heart broken.Assume that she accepted your proposal. Congratulations man!! Finally you got a girlfriend. But she ditched her boyfriend for you. Someday she will ditch you for someone else too. What's the guarantee?Assume she loves you back and she has a boyfriend too. What is she doing? She is cheating on her boyfriend. Someday she will feel guilty for her act and might leave both the guys.Let's say her boyfriend is an idiot but still she loves him. Then you have taken a step and proposed her. One fine day she has realized and accepted your proposal. Then Your love story has just begun.Assume you have proposed her. She told her boyfriend about this. He got pissed off with this. Now you know what to do! Run for your life.What if she politely rejects your proposal and says she doesn't want to lose you as friend? Will you be able to take it? If so, be a good friend of her.Assume that you love her truly even after she rejected your proposal. Will you start crying for her daily and ruin your career? Nah, you shouldn't. Life is much more than that girl who rejected you.Conclusion: If not Anushka Sharma, you might end up with Deepika Padukone tomorrow :DNever lose hope.Mi Amor!